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Broken hearted

I'm so angry and upset!! My bf of 2 years (just over) left me a couple of weeks ago, he dumped me at school in the corridor (he did wana go 4 a walk but I didn't av time) because 'he felt he cudn't be with me anymore'. The thing is, I had just started coming round to the fact we broke up, but then (a week later) he told me on MSN he had 'met someone else' - I was soo angry that he could just go out with someone a week after we broke up! However, he denied he left me for her and that it was because 'we wern't working'.

I began feeling really low and not being in contact with him made it worse cos I wanted answers, so eventually I managed to arrange to meet at his house to talk about all of this because I wanted him to see how much he had hurt me. I was in tears almost the whole time, he did keep hugging me and saying sorry he hurt me and he don't want me to hurt nemore. He said he never knew I cared this much, and I know I didn't show I cared as much as he showed he cared for me. It turns out he did leave me for this girl because she made him realise he was unhappy with me - and he only met her at the end of January! So, basically I would still be with him if he never went to this party where they met. I never thought he would do that to me, he was always so sweet to me when we was going out, telling me he loved me all the time etc then he does that.

The problem is, I can't not see him ever again - partly due to the fact he has some lessons at my school and because we were best mates as well as a couple. But, I am so hurt, and when I do see him around it will be very painful, especially if I see him and this girl (who is in the year below me). He said he will do whatever I want, to leave me alone or be mates. I love him and hate him at the same time - either way I'm gonna hurt!

I really wish I could just forget about all of this because I don't wana feel like I do anymore. There is more minor details to write, but I won't bore u guys nemore wit it!

Thanks for reading!!!
xxxHxxx

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Aww that really sucks. I can kinda understand how you're feeling. I don't really have any useful advice apart from to say that things will get better over time. I also think that it will be easier for you if you keep in contact, cos if you just completely cut him out of your life then you'll miss him even more.

Also, try and keep yourself busy so that you dont just sit there and think about it and make yourself even more upset. Spend time with your friends, and try and have fun. I was feeling really crap yesterday after something that happened with my bf and I spent the whole day sat on the computer, in the dark, on my own, in silence cos my speakers had broken. It was horrible cos I had no-one to talk to so I just kept thinking about it and crying. then I stubbed my toe and was practically hysterical, lol.

Reply 2

tthmaz

Learn from yesterday, live today, and plan for tomorrow.

Reply 3

PhilMc

I understand how you're feeling, similar situation myself. Not two years though in-fact nothing happened after our first night together, which she said was speical but she just didn't want anything to happen. We we're also best friends, but now I think this hads ruined it, although he still talk - we're just not as close. :frown:

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Basically boys are t**ts even if they seem wonderful they suddenly change and turn into something you thought they would never be.

After this you are ready to get over him, things like this help,

• Allowing yourself time look at photos and old cards ect, then put them all in a box and out the way
• Get a break up hair do, if u look hot u feel hot.
• Spend some serious time with your friends, nights in with lots of wine and chick flicks help
• Take up a new hobby ~ (I took up tangsodoo)
• Shop!!!
• Wish him well with his new gf shows u as the bigger person
• Do not go on at him about how upset you are, in the hope that he will realize how hurt you are ant want you back it wont work trust me I know.

i know it sucks but it will get better with time.

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

basically he gave you some great times it seems... you cant forget them. It is possible that he molded you and changed your life a lot, so you just have to accept that.

I am not sure what to say, but there will always be some feelings towards him, as it seems a long relationship and it did not end to happily... Dont forget the good times you had, and dont let it effect future relationships.

Reply 6

mistress mayhem

awww hun im so sorry.
i broke up with my boyf of 2 years about a month ago. He basically went off to uni and forgot about me and along the way treated me like crap (not phoning, wen he came home @ xmas was really off with me etc.) I guess my situation is not exactly the same but here´s wat i did (and it worked)
- got rid of every single photo and pressi he had given me and gave them to my mum to put away (i now have no idea where they are.)
- went and got an emergancy break up haircut which immediately made me feel 10 times better and gave me a confidence boost
- after a few days of moping, all the anger of how badly he treated me sorta rose to the surface and i phoned him and (very calmly) told him what a pathetic coward he was - which resulted him saying that he was very sorry for hurting me, to which i replied that he shud be sorry cos it was all his fault. This made me feel a million times better cos i had got it all off my chest without crying or sounding like i desperately missed him.

I hope this helps. P/M me any time if u wana chat.
*hugs* xxxxxx

Reply 7

chaoringmeister

If you broke up, then there was obviously something not right that caused the relationship to have come to an end. Now you must learn that throughout your life you will encounter many difficulties, some much harder than this one, be strong and you will pull through. You must be positive and have faith in yourself. You will fall in love again, this isn't the end, there is a lot more just round the corner. So pull yourself up, enjoy life, and forget him, if he dumped you he is obviously not worth crying about.

Best of luck for the future, and a great big hug!

Chao

Reply 8

Jackykins

Heya, here's a story that might cheer you up a bit.
About a year ago my first girlfriend broke up with me after we'd been together for 9 months. I was unbelievably in love with her and it completely devastated me; I was very depressed and barely ate anything for two weeks. I wasn't angry with her because she was going through a hard time at home (her parents were getting divorced) - obviously I wanted to be there to support her, but for some reason she didn't want me in her life anymore.

I got another girlfriend a few months later, but she treated me pretty badly and I wasn't really in love with her (just found her very attractive). She dumped me after a month with the immortal words 'Did you ever see this as a long term relationship?'...

Then, this new years eve, I got a phone call from my first ex-girlfriend saying she'd been thinking things over and she'd realised she still loved me. All through the year I'd been thinking how great it would be to get back together, but I'd always assumed she wasn't interested. The thing was, literally half an hour before I'd hooked up with a girl I'd known since September :smile:

Seven weeks later and things are absolutly great! I don't regret my decision at all, and it just goes to show that even after really bad breakups you can be happy again (and a little bit smug) :p:

Reply 9

evil groove

Anonymous

Ex-Box! In around six months it will be wise to destoy it.

Reply 10

Tarts_n_Vicars

Did the other girl actually put the moves on him though or he did he fancy her and then finish with the OP to get with her? Peronsally if I were the other chick I wouldn't have touched him with a bargepole so soon after he finished with the OP.

To the OP, don't tell yourself it wouldn't have happened if he hadn't gone to the party....if it genuinely wasn't working as he seems to think it would have been someone else if it wasn't her. In a weird way she did you a favour, it could have gone on for years to marriage and babies before he woke up one morning deciding he didn't want to be part of it anymore. My ex took off with another girl within minutes of us breaking up and I wouldn't say I hate him for it, but if he were on fire and I had a bucket of water I'd drink it :biggrin:

Right now you're really hurt and that's understandable so I'd avoid him for a bit if I were you. And if that other girl has any decency she won't rub your nose in it.

It will get better though :smile:

He's not worth it.

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