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Girls generally superficial?

Is it me or do girls look for skin deep characteristics in a man such as dress sense/ body shape/ size of package/ size of bank account.

Most males on the other hand just want to be with a girl who is sensitive, doesn't have to swear/be crude to express herself, and is trustworthy. The emphasis is definitely on men having to impress women and the women needing to be satisfied by her man. It seems that the sterotypes have got it wrong for this generation.

Yes there are many exceptions but I'm just commenting on the general trend of our society from what I have observed. Lewd/unpolite ladies are a big turn off for most men.

Reply 1

Segat1

16

Umm, its a big generalisation but lets look at musical tributes to this phenomenon:

Gold digger by Mr Kanye West
Girls don't like boys, girls like cars and money by the lovely Good Charlotte
That Arctic monkeys song.......

etc

So, I used to think I wanted rich boyf, with nice car etc blah blah. Now, dont get me wrong that would be nice but a) I'd rather earn it myself and b) I just want someone to love and to love me. *everybody* Can anybody find me, somebody to love?

Reply 2

La Trampa

18

no i don't. that's a very big generalisation and accusation you're making. :mad:

Reply 3

Angelil

19

I know that I personally am not like that, although my boyf has said he wants to get a decent job so that he can look after me and buy me lots of nice things. Of course if he wants to I won't complain :p:

but material things certainly aren't the first things I look for.
Of course, I can't speak for the rest of the population; but it does make sense to say that in a relationship it follows that you have to find the bloke attractive...so of course you notice these things...

Reply 4

q1w2e3r4t5y

There are girls who are superficial, yes, but there are guys who are also superficial. I certainly don't take many of the things you have said into account, apart from dress sense or body shape, and I don't judge soley on those qualities.
I know a lot of males who are superficial, only after the ones with the large rack and nice arse, or whatever. Males do it too you know.
I think you'll also find that women have to do much of the impressing, as there are things such as make up, jewellry, dresses and different types of clothes, perfume etc. to impress men.

Most males on the other hand just want to be with a girl who is sensitive, doesn't have to swear/be crude to express herself

I could generalise and say, "women like males who are not arrogant, not conceited or up themselves. "

Anyway, you're likely to get a lot of superficial males and females and I feel sorry for what you have observed.

Reply 5

Humra

Not all girls are superficial, some men can just look at the looks, clothes, the size of their bank account etc too. men and women can be just as bad as each other...

Reply 6

~the_one~

1

I'd hate to be 'bought' so to speak, i'd much rather buy my own house, own car (porshe 911), etc, than have a man buy them for me.
In my opinion men are way more superfical, they want the trophy stay at home wife: qualifications: must cook, clean, sex on demand, must look hot.

I bet there are few men which could every be really happy for there partner to earn more than they did.

Reply 7

Hanzing

13

Is it me or do men look for skin deep characteristics in a girl such as dress sense/ body shape/ size of breasts/ size of bank account.

It works both ways.

Reply 8

rockthecasbah

2

Girls can be superficial, I myself am an example of this.
However, in relationships it is personality (as corny as it sounds) that will keep a girl. Looks are purely a novelty that wear off with time.

Reply 9

blahblah08

1

menton

Is it me or do girls look for skin deep characteristics in a man such as dress sense/ body shape/ size of package/ size of bank account.

Most males on the other hand just want to be with a girl who is sensitive, doesn't have to swear/be crude to express herself, and is trustworthy. The emphasis is definitely on men having to impress women and the women needing to be satisfied by her man. It seems that the sterotypes have got it wrong for this generation.

Yes there are many exceptions but I'm just commenting on the general trend of our society from what I have observed. Lewd/unpolite ladies are a big turn off for most men.

Obviously all girls would want a nice guy - but if the guy also had a good dress sense or body shape or whatever you listed above ... I'd say it'll just give the guy more "props" and it will just be more reasons to like you. You hear girls gloat about guys ... such as "Omg, he's so cute" " Omg that shirt looks sooooo goood on him" and goes on and on just for one guy. That's a prime example :smile:

Reply 10

SamTheMan

17

menton

Is it me or do girls look for skin deep characteristics in a man such as dress sense/ body shape/ size of package/ size of bank account.

Most males on the other hand just want to be with a girl who is sensitive, doesn't have to swear/be crude to express herself, and is trustworthy. The emphasis is definitely on men having to impress women and the women needing to be satisfied by her man. It seems that the sterotypes have got it wrong for this generation.

Yes there are many exceptions but I'm just commenting on the general trend of our society from what I have observed. Lewd/unpolite ladies are a big turn off for most men.

Spot on. lol

You're right that the stereotypes are very wrong: we assume that guys think with what's between their legs and women look for loving relationships. It's all *******s.

When it comes to relationships, no matter what age, there are two essential things that matter to a girl: social status and security. Very very few girls can go for a guy while ignoring these two. Social status can be achieved by going out with a guy who has money, who is popular, trendy, who simply will make a girl look good. Security is achieved through money, physical strength, guy's ability to look after a girl.

If you have none of these two to offer to a girl, then you're ****ed.

Although what they're looking for is not necessarily "superficial" per se, it definitely conflicts with their other emotions: who they're attracted to.

Whereas as a guy, I've always felt that physical attraction and emotional attraction are the two things that matter and the two seem to be more easily compatible than the things girls have to deal with when choosing a partner...

Reply 11

tomorrows_apple

1

I could say the opposite, replacing the OP's use of "girl" with "guy" and vice versa, but hey, i hate to generalise. There are people like that of either sex, but likewise a fair number of the opposite type to those generalisations, and all levels in between.

Reply 12

Supersonic

90% of the girls i've met in life are artificial and superficial at a number of levels. I don't think it is a genralisation at all.

Reply 13

Hanzing

13

rockthecasbah

Girls can be superficial, I myself am an example of this.
However, in relationships it is personality (as corny as it sounds) that will keep a girl. Looks are purely a novelty that wear off with time.

Exactly even if some girls judge purely on these superficual aspects its never going to last unless they actually feel something for them on a deeper level, its the same with guys and girls the surface features are what start of the attachemnt but that will disappear soon enough if your the most annoying person alive..

Reply 14

leona

12

Wow, I would have said that if we're gonna generalise/stereotype, its the other way round. Girls are generally need more emotional fulfilment, so will look for the personality traits in a guy that will give them that, whereas guys are more into the physical fulfilment so will try and 'pull' the best looking girl they can. I think girls always tend to be better looking than their boyfriends, possibly for this reason?

However; I do not endorse the stereotyping of people but I figured thats what this thread is about. There are differences between everyone, not just guys and girls, and I'm not a guy so I don't know what goes on in their heads.

Reply 15

username30638

13

menton

Is it me or do girls look for skin deep characteristics in a man such as dress sense/ body shape/ size of package/ size of bank account.

Most males on the other hand just want to be with a girl who is sensitive, doesn't have to swear/be crude to express herself, and is trustworthy. The emphasis is definitely on men having to impress women and the women needing to be satisfied by her man. It seems that the sterotypes have got it wrong for this generation.

Yes there are many exceptions but I'm just commenting on the general trend of our society from what I have observed. Lewd/unpolite ladies are a big turn off for most men.

Yes it is. It may be true for some girls, but you could say the same about a lot of guys. It is impossible and very unfair to generalise in that way.

Reply 16

different?

2

I don't believe in superficiality or artificiality at all but I would say that in order to 'be with someone' long term 9 times out of 10 there has to be some element of physical attraction, even if it's minimal.

Reply 17

Hanzing

13

Supersonic

90% of the girls i've met in life are artificial and superficial at a number of levels. I don't think it is a genralisation at all.

Really, Because thats a pretty bias sample unless you claim to have met all the millions of women out there.

Reply 18

username30638

13

Hanzing

Really, Because thats a pretty bias sample unless you claim to have met all the millions of women out there.

Haha, exactly. Supersonic may have only met 2 girls in his life for all we know...

Reply 19

different?

2

I must say that it can work both ways, I am yet to meet a 'gentleman'.

Girls generally superficial?

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