could do with some advice

im not going to be anonymous because i don't care and no one knows me well enough on here anyway. Here goes:

I've been friends with a girl since start of year 12 (im in first year of uni now). we were in a lot of classes for 6th form and hung out a lot. well me being a guy i typically didn't notice that she liked me, and just assumed we were good friends. i never thought of her in that way til end of last summer when her friend told me about it but by then it was too late to even think about it because it was the last nite before going to university.(how convenient). well since then i've been thinking about it and i'd be willing to give it a try even though she's still at home and is going to university next year. but we went out once when i went back and i got the impression that she still liked me. even in january she told me she liked me (via txt admittedly), but i didn't say anything back so she told me to forget she said it. now i'm completely useless with girls so i'd been dropping hints instead of actually saying anything and up until after she admitted she liked me i wasnt sure if i liked her. i then said i liked her and since then she's been acting more like a friend rather than how she had before. and whenever we talk its normally one word answers etc. and things were made more complicated when we kinda fell out this week but now we're talking again. i know its probably not much to go on, but do you think she still might be interested or should i forget about it and move on?

Reply 1

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I think she might be acting a little different either a) shes not sure whether you really like her and she's scared she'll get hurt if she lets anything happen or b) she's shy and doesn't know how to act around you know that you've both admitted you like eachother.
Before when you didn't know she didn't need to worry, she could talk to you about everything to her hearts desire but now that you've told her you like her she's probably feeling a bit weird.
I definatly think it's worth you two making a go of things, if she still likes you (which is pretty obvious) and you like her then why not. Maybe you should start off a little slow because you've got to make that transition from friends to "more" but I don't see any reason why you should not do anything. If she's at home and your at Uni then she might feel like if you two do make a go of things that is won't last etc...but the best thing to do is talk to her about it. I know it's easier said than done but once you've both got everything off your chest you'll feel alot better.The worst thing would be never ever atleast trying to be a couple, you might end up regretting it in years to come? :wink:

Reply 2

Smokyjoe123

OP

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I think she might be acting a little different either a) shes not sure whether you really like her and she's scared she'll get hurt if she lets anything happen or b) she's shy and doesn't know how to act around you know that you've both admitted you like eachother.
Before when you didn't know she didn't need to worry, she could talk to you about everything to her hearts desire but now that you've told her you like her she's probably feeling a bit weird.
I definatly think it's worth you two making a go of things, if she still likes you (which is pretty obvious) and you like her then why not. Maybe you should start off a little slow because you've got to make that transition from friends to "more" but I don't see any reason why you should not do anything. If she's at home and your at Uni then she might feel like if you two do make a go of things that is won't last etc...but the best thing to do is talk to her about it. I know it's easier said than done but once you've both got everything off your chest you'll feel alot better.The worst thing would be never ever atleast trying to be a couple, you might end up regretting it in years to come? :wink:

thanks. that's really helpful. :smile:

i would rep you but mine's pretty much worthless.lol.
i think i should just actually say it more outright, but i will definitely do something as opposed to just skating around what i really want to say.

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thanks. that's really helpful. i would rep you but mine's pretty much worthless.lol.
i think i should just actually say it more outright, but i will definitely do something as opposed to just skating around what i really want to say.

no worries hun. I went through a very similar situation before me and my boyfriend got together. My friends told him i liked him,i was embarrased so tried to avoid him etc...then i didn;t see him for 8 months, bumped into him a work and he told me he really liked me to and if he could take me out. We went to the pub for a meal and a drink and talked about everything and now we've been together nearly 3 years.
Definately tell her outright, even if she doesn say she doesn't want anything to happen, atleast the you'll know and you don't have to sit there wondering!
Let me know how it goes :p:

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Smokyjoe123

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ok will do. that's if i'm not sitting here in tears for years on end. :smile:

Reply 5

jb_sweden

Never make it too obvious to the girl that you like her... and yes, that includes not saying "I like you".

You need to escalate the situation. I have no real good idea here, perhaps bring her out on a surprise date? The weather isn't really proper, but a surprise picknick lunch (nice one) is great.

Being (just) friends is devastating when it comes to dating.

Never let the girl of your dreams see you as (just) a friend.

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ok will do. that's if i'm not sitting here in tears for years on end.

aww you wont be, you'll be fine! :biggrin:

could do with some advice

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