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Why does everyone think i'm lesbian?
Ok i found this a difficult thing to write, so i'm trying to keep it as short and as blunt as i can put it.
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
Anonymous
Ok i found this a difficult thing to write, so i'm trying to keep it as short and as blunt as i can put it.
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
At your first school they were just immature, childish kids. Why are you getting the impression that people think your gay at this school? They might not your probably just paranoid cause of last time.
some people are idiots and you will find them everywhere. but, being that i don't know what you wear/how you act i can't really say. all i will say is that if there is no link between both schools it must be something you're doing that's saying something to other people.
If people set out to believe something there is probably nothing that will deter them from it. However, i agree with Riddy that it might just be a heightened awareness or paranoia. Do you feel comfortable with what you wear and who you are? If so, that's the most important thing.
People used to call me gay because I had long hair. The general stupidity of children can be a damning thing. Chances are, there is something, however insignificant, about you which is a little bit different and that is enough for idiots to pounce upon. If you don't snog girls in public and wear T-shirts pronouncing your love of carpet, theres little to justify people making an incorrect judgement. I expect the ones who do aren't worth your time, what do you care anyway? Anyone worth having as a friend wouldn't act towards you differently whether or not they listen to petty rumours.
yeah its best to ignore them and show you have nothing to hide- that you are straight. you will find true friends who will like you for who you are
I think what you say is true, about me just being paranoid about what happened at my previous school. I do generally feel comfortable in what i wear, even though i compare my clothes to what my friends wear and i feel that i need a change. I really don't know. Thanks for everyone's replies though. XXX
Check yourself on lesbian stereotypes - short hair is one... I can't think of any others.
Anonymous
I think what you say is true, about me just being paranoid about what happened at my previous school. I do generally feel comfortable in what i wear, even though i compare my clothes to what my friends wear and i feel that i need a change. I really don't know. Thanks for everyone's replies though. XXX
Are you different in any way, in what you wear, your looks, your interests, are you very clever? - From my experience anything 'different' about these can lead to jealousy and then people just throw any rumour about to try and get you in some way because they are so jealous. I was labelled the same for a little while because I wanted a genuine relationship with a boy rather than just anything. I also was a bit different in the other criteria i mentioned.
Well, i'd say my clothes are normal to what everyone else wears (sometimes my friends will say 'I like your top' or something like that), my looks i wouldn't comment on cause i really don't know how others see me (I occasionally get blokes staring at me or builders whisting out the van window at me for example) so it can't be my looks (not saying i'm overly glamouous or anything), I'd say i'm quite clever, not the cleveresrt in my class, but out of my friends i'd say i was the brightest. I don't really have any unusual interests either! (i must sound a right weirdo)
you could just get a boyfriend or something then they won't think that anymore...
Princess Jasmine
you could just get a boyfriend or something then they won't think that anymore...
Yeah but then your risking someone getting hurt.
As it could involve pretending to like a guy for the hell of it and it could make things worse
Like others have said, i think its likely paranoier as unless somebody says to you they think your a lesbian, or so and so said she thinks your a lesbian.
Reallistically you got no reason to presume it unless you been told
As long as you don't wear dungarees, I don't see that you should have anything to worry about.
OP: What I can't understand is why it matters to you if some random people might possibly think you're a lesbian, but you don't know that they do. I'd chalk that up to paranoia carried over from your last school. You don't have to get a boyfriend or put up pictures of men to prove you're straight. Ignore it and don't worry about controlling what people think. They should be interested in your personality not potential rug munching activities!
rosetinted
OP: What I can't understand is why it matters to you if some random people might possibly think you're a lesbian, but you don't know that they do. I'd chalk that up to paranoia carried over from your last school. You don't have to get a boyfriend or put up pictures of men to prove you're straight. Ignore it and don't worry about controlling what people think. They should be interested in your personality not potential rug munching activities!
As no one has said it outright to the OP it probably is paranoia but it can be a uncomfortable atmosphere to be in.
As Anonymous 2 said, it is a very uncomfortable situation to be in
Original post by Anonymous
Original post by Anonymous
Ok i found this a difficult thing to write, so i'm trying to keep it as short and as blunt as i can put it.
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
At my previous school, someone i knew spread rumours about the year group that i was a lesbian (which i'm not), which is the reason why i left and moved on. At the school i'm at now, i'm getting the impression that some of the people in my class are thinking the same thing, but why? What makes people think i'm a lesbo? Is it what i wear? Help!
Just ignore it or tell your parents about it, they don't have any valid proof that you are a lesbian.
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