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Surprisingly tough question

Right, ive had relationships before, and im not some young little squirt asking stupid questions but ive never actually asked someone out directly, its always been assumed, or just happened, or she's asked me out. I dont want to just say "will you go out with me?" coz that just sounds childish and weird, so what is the best way? Any lines you've used to ask someone out? Not chat up lines coz we're past that stage, but actually asking her out.
Cheers.

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Reply 1

Are you busy on so and so date/time?

Reply 2

Anonymous
Right, ive had relationships before, and im not some young little squirt asking stupid questions but ive never actually asked someone out directly, its always been assumed, or just happened, or she's asked me out. I dont want to just say "will you go out with me?" coz that just sounds childish and weird, so what is the best way? Any lines you've used to ask someone out? Not chat up lines coz we're past that stage, but actually asking her out.
Cheers.

wait for the right moment.eye contact and kiss her in the lips.just kiss. then see how she reacts.if positive, snog her.thats how it always worked for me.please dont ask her out in a childish way. i remember the old days, wen i was 12.haha.

Reply 3

Are you busy tomorrow? [insert offer of date type situation here]

Hardly rocket science.

Reply 4

Anonymous
Right, ive had relationships before, and im not some young little squirt asking stupid questions but ive never actually asked someone out directly, its always been assumed, or just happened, or she's asked me out. I dont want to just say "will you go out with me?" coz that just sounds childish and weird, so what is the best way? Any lines you've used to ask someone out? Not chat up lines coz we're past that stage, but actually asking her out.
Cheers.


"Are you my girlfriend now then?"
"So are we going out?"

Reply 5

Anonymous
Right, ive had relationships before, and im not some young little squirt asking stupid questions but ive never actually asked someone out directly, its always been assumed, or just happened, or she's asked me out. I dont want to just say "will you go out with me?" coz that just sounds childish and weird, so what is the best way? Any lines you've used to ask someone out? Not chat up lines coz we're past that stage, but actually asking her out.
Cheers.


With initiative like that, heaven help whichever manifestation of MacDonald's ultimately ends up employing you.

Reply 6

defo dont say will you go out with me thats awfull.
once you've been on a date or woteva just act like bf and gf and then maybe a week later refer to her as 'my girlfriend' when she can here, or just say are we together then now?

Reply 7

allie79
defo dont say will you go out with me thats awfull.
once you've been on a date or woteva just act like bf and gf and then maybe a week later refer to her as 'my girlfriend' when she can here, or just say are we together then now?


haha, if i went out on a date with a guy and a week later he started introducing me as his gf i'd laugh in his face. what's wrong with asking directly?! i'd hate it if someone just assumed something of me. just something sweet like 'i'd really like it if you'd be my girl' or something, you need to actually give the girl a choice otherwise just assuming could really piss her off. good luck :smile: x x

Reply 8

It's usually just something that happens naturally. Maybe arrange a trip to the cinema with her and some mutual friends. Then while there discuss something you have in interest and invite her to come along to a show of that event.

Reply 9

my boyfriend asked me by saying something along the lines of "I'd like to go to the theatre sometime, and I'd love it if you could come with me. Is that something you'd consider?"

Reply 10

morgangills
Are you busy tomorrow? [insert offer of date type situation here]

Hardly rocket science.


I think by "ask out", he means "make the two of them an official couple" as opposed to "ask out on a date".

Profesh
With initiative like that, heaven help whichever manifestation of MacDonald's ultimately ends up employing you.


A little judgemental perhaps? Have you not seen Bambi :p: ?

Reply 11

Just say what ever feels right at the time, its impossible for us to tell you what to say when we don't know the person you are talking to or where you are doing it.

Reply 12

You could do what my boyfriend did...
" So, errr... I've just been talking to <mutual friends name> and he asked if you were my girlfriend, and i said yes, is that ok?"
Made me snigger. We'd been out a few times, and kissed twice, so it was fairly obvious that I wanted to be his girlfriend.
What made it painfully funny was that i asked the mutual friend, who said that he asked no such thing. Cheesy eh?

Reply 13

'Your gonna be my girlfriend yeah!!!??'

Reply 14

Come on dude this is easy. Just ask "when you free?" Cant believe you had to ask for advice on this!

Reply 15

deaks
Come on dude this is easy. Just ask "when you free?" Cant believe you had to ask for advice on this!


Not really, people go out together but it's not exclusive until you're officially 'going out'.

Reply 16

icedout
Not really, people go out together but it's not exclusive until you're officially 'going out'.


Exactly.

Which is why we have the 'Do you want to go out with me?' convention in this country to make it clear. So go on a nice date, walk her home and say at the door 'do you want to go out with me?' If it's been a good date she'll smile, say yes, then you kiss her.

Obviously I'm assuming everyone in the world is like me, but I don't see how that can go wrong.

Reply 17

kizer
Exactly.

Which is why we have the 'Do you want to go out with me?' convention in this country to make it clear. So go on a nice date, walk her home and say at the door 'do you want to go out with me?' If it's been a good date she'll smile, say yes, then you kiss her.

Obviously I'm assuming everyone in the world is like me, but I don't see how that can go wrong.


I think it's better to slip it into the conversation as a "We're going out now right?" rather than make it an official "Will You Marry Me" style question. Informal is better.

Reply 18

icedout
I think it's better to slip it into the conversation as a "We're going out now right?" rather than make it an official "Will You Marry Me" style question. Informal is better.


I'm not saying go down on one knee! Maybe it's just me but there's gotta be a little romance in asking, or you may as well be asking her to pass the salt. But whatever works for you I guess, I'd just want to make it obvious to my girlfriend going out with her meant something a bit special.

Reply 19

kizer
I'm not saying go down on one knee! Maybe it's just me but there's gotta be a little romance in asking, or you may as well be asking her to pass the salt. But whatever works for you I guess, I'd just want to make it obvious to my girlfriend going out with her meant something a bit special.


Yeah I see your point I guess it depends on the type of couple you are. I'm never that formal but some couples are quite serious.