will end nowhere

just wondering, have u ever loved someone but knew that you cant be together?
not because they already have a bf/gf but for other reasons such as religious, differnt culture and so on (there are many reasons which could make a relationship not possible and just "go for it" doesnt work)

and what if the other person also loves you, makes things worse?? :confused:

what would u do then, maybe just remain close friends?

Reply 1

Tarts_n_Vicars

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Anonymous

just wondering, have u ever loved someone but knew that you cant be together?
not because they already have a bf/gf but for other reasons such as religious, differnt culture and so on (there are many reasons which could make a relationship not possible and just "go for it" doesnt work)

and what if the other person also loves you, makes things worse?? :confused:

what would u do then, maybe just remain close friends?

Yep

I wouldn't say it's worse if they love you too, because loving someone who doesn't love you back is pretty horrific. At least if they love you too you can console yourself a bit with the idea that if you'd met in a different time and place it could have worked out.

Staying friends would be tough, but then, are the things keeping you apart ever going to change? If it's distance one of you could move, if it's religion one of you could convert etc. If they might change then why not stay in touch. If not, for me personally it would be too painful staying friends and just waiting for them to find someone they CAN be with :frown:

Reply 2

Harv616

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Its best to just break off all contact, will be easyer to move on.

Im moveing to canada soon, so i dont really have a choice :frown:

Reply 3

q1w2e3r4t5y

for us, we have very different cultures and I used to be religious (not anymore), and my parents don't want me to have a bf :rolleyes:

but we're getting through it... I think.

I think it can work, it depends on how much you want it really.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Yes, due to extremely Conservative parents.
Sometimes if you truly love someone than you realise that the split is necessary in order for your partner not to have to suffer more pain. I dunno if people understand what I am trying to say :frown:

Reply 5

shinyhappy

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Hmm. This seems to be kind of what my bf is doing at the moment. He's depressed at uni (we're in a distance relationship) and although he says he loves me loads, and always will, he doesn't want to hurt me or treat me badly while he's going through this.
Its tough, but I can kind of see his point. It'll be weird in two weeks, when he's next at home, because we're still friends, and I wouldn't be suprised if we end up being intimate etc.
Its just all so confusing :s-smilie:

I think I would have preferred him to just break off all contact, if I'm being honest.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

sometimes its not possible to stop all contact if you're in the same university, same faculty, lectures... everything and if you work with that person in projects etc...
yah i guess life is sometimes just a bit tough! oh well...

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

just wondering, have u ever loved someone but knew that you cant be together?
not because they already have a bf/gf but for other reasons such as religious, differnt culture and so on (there are many reasons which could make a relationship not possible and just "go for it" doesnt work)

and what if the other person also loves you, makes things worse?? :confused:

what would u do then, maybe just remain close friends?

I fell in love with a guy who was completely different from me. He loved metallic rock while I was into r 'n' b. He was a genius at maths and science while I preferred humanities subjects. He was quiet and studious whilst I'm talkative and at times rather ditzy. He liked me back too but nothing happened in the end since he had to go away. I knew at the back of my mind that we couldn't be together :frown:

Wish I could have a 'sliding doors' moment and see what would have happened if we had made a move.