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Everyone seems to love me but me

I realize this must sound horribly arrogant, but it's true .. :frown:

Thing is, I like being friends with guys, but whenever I spend a little while with someone, they develop a crush on me. 9 out of 10 do. And I just don't know why. Seriously, I do realize that I am ... pretty, I guess. I mean, there's a ton of things I would change about myself, but yes, I do realize that guys probably think I'm hot, or maybe more so "cute". So I am not surprised when someone comes on to you in a club or somewhere, that's just the superficial aproach you make when someone's your type. And I really don't think much of it. I'm not the prettiest girl around, but yeah, I guess I can understand why you'd hit on me. But then all these guys that actually know me tell me how fascinating I am and that I am so "different" and special and I have this glint in my eyes and how I could probably have every guy I'd want and I just don't get it. I really, really don't mean to sound conceited, but it really bothers me. I know it's a stupid thing to be upset about, but it's just that it happens to me all the times. I like hanging out with someone and they'll go crazy about me and end up being heartbroken or having a major crush on me and that just makes being friends with them impossible. In fact, for the past five years, it's happened so much, that I don't even appreciate them anymore. Just another guy who likes me. And I feel I shouldn't feel that way, but I literally get annoyed when I see someone looking at me that way and I tell them to shut up when they pay me compliments. I don't know what it is. I never lie to these people, I am totally hones and I am who I am, but that just confuses me more because I am nowhere near as great as they think. I have lots of issues, I hate my life, I cling to dreams I have had when I was 12 and I get depressed a lot and when I do, I'm a mess. I'm slim, but I hate my body and would rather weigh 10 lbs less. I might have oratorical eyes, but I don't find myself prettier than average. I'm not sure I even expect a reply to this because I can't think of anything there's to say to is, but I just find it so hard to understand why I attract all these people and they just find me fascinating and want to be part of my life and at the same time I am completely unhappy with everything and almost hate who I am...

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If I was replying to this 15 minutes ago I would have a slightly different outlook on life. As it is, I have been reminded of the harshness of reality and truely many of us are lucky with what we have at the moment. So I guess you should try to learn to be happy with what you have and what is around you. Think not about what you can't change, you can change your attitude about yourself, be happy. Maybe you've never been called ugly before, that's a horrible word but you seem to think of yourself as being ugly. A lack of critisism from outside? It's late, get some beauty sleep, things tend to work out with or without extra worries :smile: