raped friend - some advice please

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Tell her your ther every step of the way, thats why i'd do

So sorry to hear this. Just be there for her to listen if she wants to talk and make sure she does all the practical things -pregnancy test at earliest opportunity etc

Reply 22

naelse

fragreaper

Did you know...
It's not the offence that a woman wasn't consenting.... If the male could prove he reasonably suspected she was consenting (but just liked to play otherwise etc.) then no offence has been commited... Some crimes are a bitch to prove.

well exactly. how can you prove that someone isn't thinking what they say they were thinking? The whole thing is clearly due for a rehaul, it just moves painfully slowly. I mean, it wasn't illegal to rape your wife til 1991! And if you don't believe me look up case R v R.

Reply 23

Anonymous #1

i want to thank you all for your advice, i kinda feel like im helping more than i did before if that makes sense im just waiting for her boyfriend to pick me up bacause she wants to talk to us about the pros and cons of reporting it- and as for those of you who have said about him doing it to other people he put one of his ex girlfriends in hospital as he thought she was cheating on him so it wasnt a one of and it cant be allowed to go on

Reply 24

Profesh

naelse

That wouldn't be Regina v Regina, would it? :rolleyes:

Reply 25

naelse

Profesh

That wouldn't be Regina v Regina, would it? :rolleyes:

no, R v R. Regina v Regina would be for any crime that the queen had committed. You should know about R v R as a law student, no?

Reply 26

xXMessedUpXx

why do so many people state "go to the police" as an immidiate response to all rape related threads, its not always that simple.

It might help for her to contact some of the rape crisis helplines, as they have people trained to help with this kind of thing, or perhaps a counseller who can help her talk through her problems. you might feel helpless now, but remember that for her to tell you took a lot, but also that she must consider you a good friend to be able to trust you, so don't doubt your capabilities as a friend. just be there for her as much as you can, and like you said you would, support her through this difficult time

Reply 27

Profesh

naelse

no, R v R. Regina v Regina would be for any crime that the queen had committed. You should know about R v R as a law student, no?

It occurs to my mind that there is an awful lot which I 'should' know.

Reply 28

LawQueen

naelse

no, R v R. Regina v Regina would be for any crime that the queen had committed. You should know about R v R as a law student, no?

Hahahahhahahahha.

The long and short of it: you're wrong.

Reply 29

MNBStyle

Anonymous

iv said to her that im with her every step of the way what ever she chooses to do i just feel so helpless

Thats all you really can do, apart from hoping she goes to the police about it and perhaps considers counselling?

Reply 30

apple tree

Since you and her boyfriend are the only ones who know about it, reassure her that you can work this out together, and will find the best way forward for her. Like people have been saying it is most important to remind her that she is not alone in this, and that people care for her. Best wishes to her and yourself.

Reply 31

Niaya

well we spoke to her last night and she has decided to go and have some counselling and she knows its going to be hard and that me and her boyfriend are going to with her everystep of the way but we cant deal with it for her.