Is he using me?

Right. I've known this guy for over a year, usually seeing him every few weeks when I'm out.
The first time I met him he told my friend that he thought I was really hot, and since then we've ended up kissing on three different occasions. The second time I asked him how he felt about me, and he went on about how much he liked me and how pretty he thought I was, but said he didn't think a relationship was a good idea because summer was coming up so we wouldn't see each other for months.
Since summer I haven't really seen much of him, but the other night we ended up talking and he kissed me again. This time he was also acting much more like we were a couple, even in front of his friends. And when we're together he's really sweet and attentive. But at the end of the night he just said that maybe he'd see me out next week... He's never even asked for my phone number!

So what I'm asking is, does it sound to you like he's just using me as somebody to get with now and again when he feels like it? Was the whole thing about summer just an excuse? Or is it possible he really does like me? Also, assuming I do like him, what should I do about the situation?

Reply 1

Biffy Clyro

Sounds like he might like you a little bit...

But it can't really be that much if he isn't too fussed about seeing you.

Reply 2

MNBStyle

Anonymous

does it sound to you like he's just using me as somebody to get with now and again when he feels like it?

Yeah it does sound like that im afraid, Summer was ages ago now and if he genuinally liked you he wouldn't keep kissing you then putting things off.
And hes clearly not shy so thats not a excuse either.

Reply 3

pumpkin7

sounds like he was just trying to look big infront of his mates by being able to say 'look at me! i have someone to kiss and you do not... i'ma get some!!'

yeah.. sorry but i think this one is a no no.

Reply 4

Leigh

Is the only times you see him/speak to him when you are out? Maybe you've not seen enough of him to make a fair judgement yet, although I agree with the others, it doesn't sound so great. I'm trying to be optimistic!

Perhaps do something proactive, ask him for his number? (A girl?! Shock horror!) Talk/meet up outside of the loud, hyper, evening-out environment and see if you can make a better judgement?

Reply 5

rosetinted

If he were interested he'd do something about it. Summer went and is coming back around again. If he wants to be going out with you then he's doing a very good impression of someone who doesn't.