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Is a physical relationship between a seventeen year old guy and a fifteen year old girl OK? Age difference of two and a half years, the girl three school years below the guy? Vote in the poll.

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Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OK didn't let me add any poll.

The options were going to be:

Yes, why are you even asking?
Yes, I wouldn't personally like it but I suppose it's OK.
No, but OK if it wasn't physical.
No, that's pretty sick actually.

Reply 2

Jelkin

What poll?

I wouldn't say that it's okay, mainly because it's against the law and the guy could be jailed for statutory rape.

Reply 3

wendizzle22

Sounds pretty normal to me, young girls generally like guys 1 or 2 years their senior.

Reply 4

Jelkin

Oh, sorry. Your second post wasn't there when I wrote that. My pick would be 'No, but OK if it wasn't physical.'

Reply 5

wendizzle22

Oh i didn't see physical...well of course it's illegal if you mean full penetration, so it depends on whose grounds you want it to be ok...legal, religious, your personal morals..

Reply 6

Little Girl Red

I think its okay. My friends had a 2 year age gap and they went out for 2 years and a bit (just broken up now). They had a very physical relationship and it was fine. I think that they were both the same mental age to be honest!!!
A fifteen year old is old enough to engage in a bit of foreplay or whatever.

Reply 7

Jelkin

Good point, Wendizzle. (What a sentence - I really like your name! :biggrin:

) Morally, I couldn't say because I don't know the people involved - when I was 15, I was in no way ready for sex, and I don't know any 15 year olds that I would really consider mature enough. But perhaps she is! I can't judge.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Sex I would agree isn't right.
By physical I mean excluding full penetrative sex.

Reply 9

wendizzle22

Thanks

Yeah everyone feels differently about these things. It depends on the relationship too, I'd think it was a bad idea if they were doing it for reasons other than feeling 'in love' at that age.
I lost mine at 16 and was completely ready for the person it was, as I felt that I loved him - I don't think it'd have been the same if it was someone else who I hadn't known for long.
Sometimes I wonder if the people who have sex under 15/16 really feel it was worth it and was actually good sex. Somehow I can't imagine it is! (Maybe wrong but glad I waited!)

Reply 10

Higgy

Yep i think a physical relationship is acceptable, sex included

Reply 11

her0n

I think it depends more on maturity of the people concerned. I started going out with a 25 year old when I was 17, lasted 2 years :smile:

Totally changed my views on age gaps.

Reply 12

wednesburywench

wendizzle22

Sometimes I wonder if the people who have sex under 15/16 really feel it was worth it and was actually good sex. Somehow I can't imagine it is! (Maybe wrong but glad I waited!)

yes it is worth it.

Reply 13

Ay! Dirty Boy!

Anonymous

Is a physical relationship between a seventeen year old guy and a fifteen year old girl OK? Age difference of two and a half years, the girl three school years below the guy? Vote in the poll.

If you are really in love and it isnt just for the sex then i think its ok. however, you may come across alot of comments from other people on your relationship but if you are in love - who cares!?

Reply 14

rosetinted

Although some people have positive experiences entering into sexual relations at a younger age I'd say you need to take care. Don't be going into stuff like this if you don't feel 100% ready. 15 is pretty young and despite what people at school may be saying very few people are having sex at that age..and very few of the ones that do will look back on it as being a positive thing. Make sure you're ready and don't at all be pressured by someone older (I'm not saying this is happening, just being cautionary) wanting to take things further.

At the end of the day it is up to you and your emotional maturity level. This is something that shouldn't be done if you have doubts. Plus it isn't actually legal. Talk it through with your boyfriend properly as well, this decision affects you both.

Reply 15

hippieglitter

The age difference in general relationhsip terms is fine but as for the physical, if you mean full sex it is against the law and the guy could go to prison for it. He wouldn't go to prison for rape because she is over 12 and presuming she consented he would go for unlawful sex.