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I feel to blame..

I've known this boy for years now, as he used to go to my old school. He always used to tease me, but it was stuff I could ignore and laugh off. He mainly just made jokes about my nationality, because I'm half German- calling me a Nazi.

When I left primary school, I still saw him around, because the place I live in is not that big. He always was with this huuge gang of people and they used to shout stuff at me, my mother and my sister and make advances and stuff. Recently, I've grown to really dislike him simply for the way he always does this, because I genuinely feel worried when I see their gang.

Anyway, today I was just told that his brother died of a heart attack and I feel really awful. I know I'm not directly to blame..but recently I've just felt so angry about him. I feel so guilty, almost like I did something.

Reply 1

warranty-ideal

Karma, it gets everyone eventually.

Reply 2

tbm

Try not to worry about it, you shouldnt feel any guilt whatsoever. These things happen.

He should be the one feeling guilty for the way he treated you. Hopefully this will put things into perspective for him and his attitude towards other people will change.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thanks everyone. :smile:

Barry- I haven't seen Final Destination, but coincidentally I was considering it recently.

Em- It would be great if it encouraged him to change, but sadly I can't see it happening.

I just feel..bad. Even if it is karma, I feel like he doesn't deserve it.. I mean no-one deserves something like that.

Reply 4

pumpkin7

barry_4_england

Your thoughts directed at him are totally justified. Anyone would think a lot worse thoughts and hate him not just dislike him. How can it be your fault? You know it's not. You seen Final Destination?

what has this got to do with final destination?! lol! oh dear..

anyway, as this poster said, you shouldn't feel guily about his brother - i bet you didn't even know him did you? you heave plenty of reason to dislike the guy, andno reason at all to feel guilty about his brother...

chin up :biggrin:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Thanks

- I didn't know him that well, you're right.

Reply 6

fordeletionpurposesonly.

Anonymous

I just feel..bad. Even if it is karma, I feel like he doesn't deserve it.. I mean no-one deserves something like that.

This sentance just proves that you have a conscious and are a nice caring person. The fact that you're worried about how he's feeling when it sounds like he's been nasty to you for the best part of your entire life, says something.

You cannot possibly be in any way to blame for his brother having a heart attack. They're caused by loads of gunk clogging up the arteries to the heart blocking the passages. Absolutely nothing you have or haven't done could have possibly had anything to do with his death, even if you did know him, which you didn't. Would you feel responsible if someone on the street dropped dead infront of you? no.

Don't stress about it and just hope that this'll make him grow up and see that life's too precious to go about making other people's horrible.

Chin up

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