How can I get over him?

Hi
Well my boyfriend of 3 and half years split up with me last weekend, totally unexpectidly as he had never spoken of his problems with me before. I was obviously devastated as we got on so well, have grown up together, done everything together and never fought :frown:

His reasoning was just seeing me more as a friend now, ie his feelings have gone. Although I refuse to believe that his feelings can have completly gone after so long, and especially because he cried when he split up with me, something he has never done all the time we have been together. Surely that means he loves me? We both started uni in September, and he says the distance isnt the cause, it was just that he doesn't have any passion left for me anymore, just as friends. He was adamant he wanted to still be my best friend, and said he couldnt lose me as a friend. Basically we have spoken a couple of times since, the first in which I tried to convince him to change his mind and he said no, and the 2nd in which I pretended to be fine for his sake, and spoke to him as a friend.

Basically I am trying my best to get over him, but everytime I wake up in the morning I feel all happy cus my brain thinks he is still there, and then I realise hes not mine anymore and just feel so sad. I know I have to accept it, but it's so hard to do so when you have been with someone well like all my latter school life! (since yr 10). Being at uni helps, iv gone out more last week to try and take my mind off it, but now i have run out of money!

Being friends isnt making it harder if thats what people are going to say, it makes it easier when i speak to him cus it reminds me that even though i cant be intimate with him now, were still on the same wave length. I wish we were closer to each other so we cud meet up and talk about it, but i possibly have to wait until easter hols to do this! someone help...how can i stop feeling like this every morning! Its affecting my work now as I cant concentrate properly and have no motivation to go to uni!

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e_clark

thats exactly the same as me, everyone says talk to him tell him how u feel, but atm we r getting on great as friends, and i dont wanna ruin that or scare him off by telling him, its a difficult situation, i think telling them may make things worse, i dont know :confused: