The Student Room Group
Reply 1
Best way to get over him is to develop another object of affection. Find another guy to lust over - easier said than done I know! He's a loser player. You're worth more. Ignore him.
Reply 2
No, never had a similiar experience as I would have told him exactly what an **** he was.

I think the reason why you let him do this is that deep down you don't feel 100% about yourself. For some reason you feel like you not only want but need his sporadic attention.

He's knows that he can have you anytime he wants you, all he has to do is click his fingers and you'll give him what he wants.

You say you feel ill at the thought of him because you want him, but you should be feeling ill about how you're being treated. Re-read your post to yourself and try to look at it like an outsider. How would you advise someone in the same position?

He is treating you no better than a dog, and I can almost guarentee you that he has told all the wonderful things to other girls before. He knows how to keep you and other girls sweet so he can have you when he wants to.

For two years, you have basically been his bitch. He has no respect for you and doesn't care about you. He will never recriprocate the feelings you have for him and to be honest if he's treating you like this and you keep going back to him then he probably thinks you're a bit pathetic. He even gives your number out to his mates. What for? In case they want easy sex?

So what can you do about it? Well start by removing his number from your phone, however hard it is ignore his calls and texts. You need to realise that you are a person too and need to be treated with respect. If you see him then do your best to ignore him, if he tries to talk to you then point out that he doesn't treat you the way that a man should and frankly you think he;s a loser. If none of that works then stick on some sex and the city, get together with a few of your mates and drown your sorrows with a good bottle of wine. Just be strong, the longer you are the easier it will get. :smile:
Reply 3
****. the guy is treating you like dirt! but segat1 is right. if you someone else you like a lot u will get over him... in greek we say " o erotas me erota pernaei" - meaning "u get over love with more love". it was true for me.
i was in love with this guy, i had this huge crash on him when i was 14 and i followed him around, he treated me like dirt etc and i had other good offers adn still i couldnt help but be infatuated with him.
he would use me to get good grades, to meet people, hell he even used me for money a few times and I was the ONLY ONE who didn't see this the way it was. It took f years to get over him. It was me who helped him get A's etc and yet on numerous occasions he found the way to bring me down, to make me feel bad and ugly and to insist that there was never anything "gay" about him. He embarrased me, betrayed me, used me, laughed at me for 3-4 years....but yeah I survived.

So the thing you should do is just get a new guy and u will slowly get over him. :smile: hugs
Reply 4
the guy is treating you like dirt! but segat1 is right. if you someone else you like a lot u will get over him... in greek we say " o erotas me erota pernaei" - meaning "u get over love with more love". it was true for me.
i was in love with this guy, i had this huge crash on him when i was 14 and i followed him around, he treated me like dirt etc and i had other good offers adn still i couldnt help but be infatuated with him.
he would use me to get good grades, to meet people, hell he even used me for money a few times and I was the ONLY ONE who didn't see this the way it was. It took f years to get over him. It was me who helped him get A's etc and yet on numerous occasions he found the way to bring me down, to make me feel bad and ugly and to insist that there was never anything "gay" about him. He embarrased me, betrayed me, used me, laughed at me for 3-4 years....but yeah I survived.

So the thing you should do is just get a new guy and u will slowly get over him. :smile: hugs
u need to get bac into control. i know its easier said than done but at least u have realised whats going on and i think that shows strength of character. He says your beautiful and u probly r. id use that to your advantage and go flirt with a load of other guys. there is nothing like feeling the effect u have on men :wink:

not to mention, how else do u get your heavy shopping home? XD
Remember this situation depends on how you feel about the guy. Is it an emotional irresistability (mental)? In the sense you want to care for him and love him? Or is it the other - lust irresistability (physical) that you want him purely for sex, casual affection and the like. I hope it's the latter, as that comes and goes. But the first one is slightly harder to alleviate...
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My osteopath suggests i don't.
Reply 9
Sorry to be rude but your behaviour makes me sick. You're really encouraging him to treat you like dirt by coming back for more each time he snaps his fingers. Tell him what a filthy sack of s**t he is and stop following him around like a faithful puppy.
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OK well if you realise that's the main thing. Now you can start to work towards removing him from your life. If you're still getting lusty feelings when you see him then remind yourself of the quite extensive list of asshole things he has done.

Also from a hygiene and health view, the fact he sleeps around with an entourage of cheap slags means he may well pick something up, if he hasn't already. Even if you're using a condom for sex (which I'm pretty sure you will be, cos you don't seem stupid) it isn't 100% effective and there are others things..such as crabs that can be passed on regardless. I'm sure you don't want to catch anything so when you next go near him think of lots of little lice crawling all over your pubic region and you'll be very put off!

Ultimately you've made some dumb mistakes..but haven't we all? I was in a similar situation 2 years ago and it wasn't until my friend told me (rather like receiving a slap round the face) that I woke up. Telling the guy what a worthless asshole he is made me feel so great, so maybe you need to tell him that. Firstly cos it'll be enjoyable, secondly because it'll prevent you repeating the mistake cos he'll be out of your life. Trust me it'll be better for you once he has gone & you can chalk it up to minor brain damage! I laugh about what I did..so eventually you'll be able to as well.