tricky situation...

It's probably fairly easy for some of you to guess who I am, but I'm posting anon anyway because so many people from my uni read TSR!

I'm in my first year at uni. In my second week I met this guy through a society that I joined and we clicked straight away. He's about 3 years older than me and is graduating this year, but he's very friendly and we've always got on very well. Anyway, whenever we're in the same place he always looks at me and smiles a lot, and he always makes the effort to come and talk to me, and now we know each other quite well he hugs me all the time as well. Before Christmas we meant to swap mobile numbers and go out for a drink some time (this was his suggestion) but one way or another we didn't get round to it, and so we didn't speak over Christmas. On the first day back we spoke to each other and swapped numbers, and the next day he invited me to a house party. I couldn't go to it, but I recently found out that it was for his birthday, and that not many people were invited, as it was pretty small. Anyway, the week after that we met randomly and he asked me if I wanted to go round his house for a drink.

Here's where it gets a bit complicated. At that point I thought he liked me and was interested as more than just a friend. But when I went round to his house, a drink turned into dinner, and then his housemate, who is also in this society, asked me if I wanted to move in next year, as some of them will be moving out. He is graduating, but might stay on to do post grad work, so at the moment he's unsure whether he'll be there. But after thinking about it for a couple of weeks, I decided that I will move into the house.

Now I don't know what to think about him and me. I still really like him, but before I really got the opportunity to find out whether he likes me too, we became potential future housemates, and so that affects things.

Does it sound as though he likes me in that way? And if yes, what should I do? He'll either be leaving the area or we'll be housemates, so it's tricky, but on the other hand, he's lovely! Help! :redface:

Reply 1

BlackHawk

17

I never really understand why these things are complicated. I really don't.

Why sit there wondering? Go and ask him, or tell him your interested. Us girls don't always have to be shy and send out mixed signals you know.

What's the worst that could happen? He'll say he's not interested, but at least then you'll know and you can get on with being friends. :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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BlackHawk

I never really understand why these things are complicated. I really don't.

Why sit there wondering? Go and ask him, or tell him your interested. Us girls don't always have to be shy and send out mixed signals you know.

What's the worst that could happen? He'll say he's not interested, but at least then you'll know and you can get on with being friends. :smile:

But there's the issue with living together to consider...

Anyway, do you think it sounds like he likes me?

Reply 3

BlackHawk

17

I don't really see how there is an issue. Are you worried that living together may make it uncomfortable if he's not interested? Surely he is mature enough to handle the fact that you may have feelings for him and live under the same roof?

From what you;ve said, yes it does sound as though he likes you. :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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Some people think it's just generally a bad idea to get together with a housemate in case it all gets too much, or in case you split up and still have to live together.

I think if he decides he's not staying in the area I will go for it, but the house situation is a bit weird!

Reply 5

BlackHawk

17

Well, if you are two mature adults then there is no reason not to go for it. If it all goes pear shaped then just sit down and talk about it. The only way it could get uncomfortable is if it ended very badly. You never know, you could be very happy together! :smile:

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