Meeting For The First Time (HELP!!)

Ok, I've meet some one online :smile:

and want to meet up with them in the real world so I'm planing to meet up to do something for a day to see how the two of us get on. Not as in dating just to get and know each other. But I am slightly freaked :eek:

about what I am going to say to this person once i get there lol. I mean I don't want us have awkward silences all day. So I need some help from you guys (please!) as to what we should talk about i.e. conversation starters and ways to make my self seem simply fabulous, intelligent, and most of all make the person want to meet me again :wink:

Reply 1

Ferrus

19

Get drunk first. Not too drunk though. It is a fine balance that one must learn with expeirence.

Reply 2

BlackHawk

17

If you've liked them enough to have long chats online, then you'll find that when you meet them conversation will come very easily to you. Have a laugh about how you were a bit nervous meeting them and just relax. Try not to worry too much about it. :smile:

Reply 3

Freckles

12

I've met plenty of ppl whom I'd met on the internet and it's always been great fun! Tell him you're a bit nervous about meeting him before you do and then discuss something you're going to talk about when you actually meet. That way you'll have a bit of an opener and you can have a laugh about how you were nervous about it etc :wink:

Reply 4

poser

are you sure hes not a middle aged pervert?

can never be too sure.

lol.

Reply 5

Freckles

12

Yeah, make sure he is who he says he is :wink:

I've never had any bad surprises tho :P Depends on where you meet them, I guess...

Reply 6

Freckles

12

(where on the internet, I mean) perverts are more likely to lurk around dating forums than .... fan message boards or something obviously !

Reply 7

LoveMusic

1

i agree with most advice here, talk about your meeting, and say you might be a little nervous. If you can talk easily online, you should be okay in real-life.

And although its always said, make sure you have someone to contact in case everything doesn't turn out like you wanted.

:smile:

Reply 8

La Trampa

18

try and have someone call you or text you from time to time just to check you're ok or if it's not going well,for an excuse to leave...but just talk about anything, i'm sure the other person is nervous as well.

Reply 9

Angelil

19

It just comes naturally...really.
And as others have said, the best thing to do is not hide that you're nervous. Talk about it.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Yes he is definitely who he says he is lol

Ok now we have covered on how to behave what do you think we should do for the day? As it will be just me and him I need some ideas as to what we can do so I don't bore him completely?

Reply 11

Laursy

10

id never meet anyone off the net,

Reply 12

*starry_eyed_*

14

hmmm how about something fun like a theme park or bowling? anyway, i'm sure you wouldn't bore him! :smile:

Reply 13

high priestess fnord

9

Laursy

id never meet anyone off the net,

surely if u meet in a public place and make sure your mates know where u r etc there is nothing wrong with it. never done it myself tho. generally the ppl i talk to online r ppl ive met somewhere and gotten on well/shared interests with. is good to make friends with ppl u normally wouldnt be able to because of the whole distance thing.

Reply 14

Profesh

20

Engage in conversation via telephone, first.

Reply 15

ciderpeter

1

Laursy

id never meet anyone off the net,

I have met loads of people off the internet.... Not dating just general mates, mostly through football. As has been said some places are dodgy but fan sites i think are pretty cool...

I met a couple of lads just by coincidence on the way from Bristol to Manchester, as we were all wearing blackburn shirts we started chatting and discovered that we actully knew each other off a messageboard and already had each other in msn etc! I now give them two lifts to most games and there is a group of 20-30 of us who meet up pretty much every week from across the country (blackburn, manchester, birmingham, london, southampton...) and goto games together... The internet is a pretty awesome tool when put into that context!

Reply 16

Leigh

15

Profesh

Engage in conversation via telephone, first.

Agreed. That way you get a quick safety check to make sure they are who they say they are (I'm sure that won't be a problem, but there's no harm in a little extra security) but you will also be able to gauge how awkward it will be to talk in real life; you'll be conversing directly so will be much closer to talking in real life than chatting on the internet is.

Reply 17

minimo

15

When I met up with the Cambridge TSRers in October, it was great - I felt like I already knew them relly well, although we'd just met.

Reply 18

beanie

1

Profesh

Engage in conversation via telephone, first.

Thats good advice.

I met one of my now best friends on the internet, we'd been speaking online and texting for almost a year, then started phoning, which then turned into writing letters and then we finally met. That was 3 years ago and we now meet up every month or so and stay with each other :smile:

I'd say thats the best way to do it, definatly talk to each other on the phone. If its meant to be you'll be fine and it will feel perfectly natural as if you've known each other in person for years. Remember if it does go wrong or you don't feel comfortable its in your rights to leave whenever you want, if you've arranged to be together till 5 you don't have to stay that long if you don't want to.

Reply 19

Profesh

20

King Leigh

Agreed. That way you get a quick safety check to make sure they are who they say they are (I'm sure that won't be a problem, but there's no harm in a little extra security) but you will also be able to gauge how awkward it will be to talk in real life; you'll be conversing directly so will be much closer to talking in real life than chatting on the internet is.

Precisely; I'd be averse to liaising with any such acquaintance in person, absent that contingency. Cue much humorous reflection on our respective, prior misconceptions of one another: Sarah's, to the effect of my being morose, pedantic and condescending; mine, to the effect of her being aggressive, obtuse and inarticulate. Suffice it to say that we were both, similarly and pleasantly, surprised.

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