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Is jealousy a good thing?

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So what do you think?

bluedreamer

My mum keeps telling me jealousy is a good thing, and that I should not be so laid back :frown:

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Reply 1

pumpkin7

jealousy is a powerful thing.. it can leave any relationship in tatters.

Reply 2

Mrs_F

Jealousy is a natural instinct. I imagine that the majority of people will feel jealous at some point in their relationship. However, some people become overly jealous which leads to possessiveness - which is not a good thing at all.

Jealously can wreck relationships.

Reply 3

high priestess fnord

i would have it if my bf got all possesive on me and i dont need to make him jelous to know he cares, but in less secure relationships i have tested guys in that way. if jelousy is involved generally something is wrong.

Reply 4

Mark S

Jealousy can make or break a relationship, i seriously dont understand your mum's logic

Reply 5

brimstone

In some situations, yes. But in most, no. For example, in a relationship, if you are jealous of a man's relationship with his female friends, that is bad. But a little coveting of someone's property can't hurt.

Reply 6

Sorani

I don't think jealousy is really a good thing but to be fair it's a very human thing that you really can't prevent - you just have to not let it control you.

Reply 7

high priestess fnord

brimstone1

mums sometimes have very odd logic tho. mine keeps telling me that i shouldnt let my bf spend a weekend watching the rugby with 1 of of his female friends. but then by that logic my bf shouldnt trust me when i invite a male friend over to have a good weekend at the pub and sleep on my floor. its all down to trust. jelousy by itself isnt all that bad. its when u stop trusting each other that it falls appart.

Reply 8

El Scotto

bluedreamer

My mum keeps telling me jealousy is a good thing, and that I should not be so laid back :frown:

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tell your mum shes barmy.

Reply 9

rockthecasbah

I can kinda see where your mum is coming from. When someone is jealous of you or other guys hitting on you etc it shows that they care or they are afraid of losing you. But it's just when it gets outta hand you should worry (obvious comment I know). And it is a natural instinct as someone said before.

Reply 10

~Bambi~

It is one of the 7 sins!

Reply 11

Sarky

I was jealous of a girl my boyfriend spent ages with and he said they were just revising. Now we've split up turns out he has had feelings for her for a long time. I was right to be jealous. Sometimes it is over the top, other times its instinct telling you something isn't right.

Reply 12

bluedreamer

I think what she means is telling him

-that I have to know where he is
-that only if it’s absolutely necessary, he may talk to another female - and only in a cold uninterested way ( God help him if he smiles or laughs :rolleyes:

)
-he’s not allowed to be around single male friends
-ummm…oh yeah checking his mobile for messages, checking his emails ( how? I don’t know - and I don’t want to :frown:

)
-going through his things
-calling him up demanding where he is

It just goes on and on and I find it slightly crazy :eek:

my mum is really old fashion and believes that all men are the same, hence women must manipulate and control them.

I’m just not like that, nor do I want to be :frown: