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A question for the girls. Anonymous because I don't want people I know to read this.

I like this particular girl - a lot! I get the impression I give off vibes that I like her (a worrying number of the people whom I have told about my crush have said: "Yeah, I kind of saw that coming" or something similar).

When I'm with her she's not overly flirtatious, there are moment though when she is. We are good friends though (which is why I can't just ask her straight off). Anyway, I had a slightly drunken chat with her the other day during which she told me she never tells her friends or anyone when she likes a guy. She doesn't want to get her pride hurt. I told her that must limit her chances because people often get together through friends. She said that didn't matter.

Anyway, girls if you like a guy will you always give off signals that you do? If you have a similar "pride" thing, might that stop you from being flirty? The thing is, if I think she might be going out or something then I'll wait to make plans so that we end up at the same bar or whatever. I make efforts to see as much of her as I can. But then she doesn't seem to do anything like that at all. It's as though she's quite indifferent.

So yeah, thoughts?

A question for the girls. Anonymous because I don't want people I know to read this.

I like this particular girl - a lot! I get the impression I give off vibes that I like her (a worrying number of the people whom I have told about my crush have said: "Yeah, I kind of saw that coming" or something similar).

When I'm with her she's not overly flirtatious, there are moment though when she is. We are good friends though (which is why I can't just ask her straight off). Anyway, I had a slightly drunken chat with her the other day during which she told me she never tells her friends or anyone when she likes a guy. She doesn't want to get her pride hurt. I told her that must limit her chances because people often get together through friends. She said that didn't matter.

Anyway, girls if you like a guy will you always give off signals that you do? If you have a similar "pride" thing, might that stop you from being flirty? The thing is, if I think she might be going out or something then I'll wait to make plans so that we end up at the same bar or whatever. I make efforts to see as much of her as I can. But then she doesn't seem to do anything like that at all. It's as though she's quite indifferent.

So yeah, thoughts?

nope i dont think all girls show it when they like a guy but for other reasons too (besides pride thing)

Well I'm similar to the girl you mentionend in the fact that I will sometimes go out of my way to not let on to a guy that I like him. This may even mean that sometimes I don't tell my friends that I like them just because I know that as soon as I do it's guaranteed that he will find out .

Yup... Personally i find it really hard to make my feelings known...perhaps I fear disappointment. I can't even tell my best friend when I like a guy. Its funny, because I am really quite outgoing and have loads of male friends, but when i really really like someone I find it difficult to talk to them a first. I normally get over it after the beginning stages when we become more close. I suppose that's just the way some girls are.

So basically the guy has to make the move?

Yes, but I must stress that you've got to be pretty sure the girl does like you in that way before you ask her. Don't assume that just because she doesn't show her feelings, this automatically means she likes you and is concealing it. I know this is impossible to be certain without asking her but the tension and bad feeling that can be created from unreciprocated declarations of love can be awful. So yea just be careful of ruyining your friendship