Am i in the wrong..

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My boyfriend claims that i was flirting with a boy today, i personally dont think i was. I was sitting on a table, which the boy joined and 3 or 4 of us were having a conversation; biy said something which i found very funny, and i laughed, well we all did, but coz it was directed at me i laughed alot, it was harmless and my boyfriend was on the other side of the room talking to someone else.

It is important to note that he had walked in half way through lunch wheni was reading a book, i said hi when he came in, then when i finished the chapter 10 mins later i walked over to sit with him..only to be told to go away...the laughing and everything was after this. I am just confused, and he wont talk to me about it. Am i just being akward and was actually unwittingly acting flirtatious; or is he overacting.
He is so angry and i am really upset..i dont know what to do, i dont know if i have done something wrong all not, he said he might not even see me tomorrow!

Reply 1

Tyler Durden

He's being stupid. Flirting does not equate to cheating. Everyone flirts a little bit. It doesn't sound like you were being OTT either. I take it you don't like the guy in question. Unfortunately though your bf won't see it this way so you'll probably have to try and explain. But no, from what I can see you're not in the wrong.

Reply 2

Ceri327

u laughed at a joke surely thats harmless u havent done anything wrong dont let him make you feel like you have, get stroppy with him make him talk to you if he isnt

Reply 3

completely random

I agree totally, you have nothing to be ashamed of, if you can't have male friends then you have to question your relationship really.
Talk to him, but don't be acussational (spelling? sorry :biggrin:

) - from experience thats the worst thing you can do, it will make both of you angry and upset and inflame what should be something easy to discuss and sort out. He may be insecure, for many reasons, and you need to try and talk to him, but don't make it out to be a big deal.
His behaviour before the incident was a little odd I must admit, but thats guys for you I guess... :confused:

Reply 4

ladygrey

I'm sure he's never laughed at a joke someone of the opposite sex said... :rolleyes:

Reply 5

dyslexic_banana

The fact that he told you to "go away" before all of this, suggests that his behaviour stems from something else, and that he's perhaps merely using what happened 'between' you and this guy as further ammunition against you, or as an excuse to be even more angry towards you.

I don't agree with flirting whilst in a relationship, but it doesn't seem as if you were even doing that; surely you can laugh at something said by a member of the opposite sex, without there being any sexual feelings whatsoever involved? Seems to me as if there's a greater issue at hand, and it is this which you should be concentrating on finding out about; pointing out the fact that he had behaved strangely to you before any of the so-called 'flirting', any way, should he deny there being any other problems.