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I wish I looked sick again :( (weight related)
I know there are similar posts to this one, but basically, my problem is that I am pretty thin, I'm 5'4'' and weigh about 48 kg. However, I used to be much thinner, about 42-44 kg. I'm a size 6, sometimes a size 4 and I know I'm not fat or anything. My arms and shoulders are really thin, but I feel like I have fat hips. I know I do not really, but there's a little bit of meat on them and I just hate it. I used to be nothing but skin and bones and people used to tell me I looked sick and I loved it. And yes, I used to be anorexic. I am thin, but I am not overly skinny anymore and sometimes I am so tempted to just stop eating again and lose a couple of pounds. Everyone tells me not to and that I should rather gain weight than lose some, but then, when they say I look "fine" the way I am, I hate that. I want to be extremely thin again. I liked when people thought I looked worryingly skinny. I know this is sick, hence why I'm posting it anonymously ... but tell me, how can everyone tell me I am fine the way I am, should gain weight etc when everyone fancies people like Kate Moss who are seriously underweight as well ???? A bit of a rant here, sorry. I guess there's not much you can say anyway, but seriously guys, don't you think someone who is really, really thin is more attractive than someone average? Because I honestly do 
For example, I hate Paris Hilton's face, but I think she has just about the perfect body
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Hun,seriously with those stats you do not need to loose weight. On the surface it may seem that the kate moss skiny as a rake is attractive, But you know what? When they did a survey from men on what they found attractive it actually turns out that normal is it. But you shouldnt feel you have to conform to anything just to be attractive, you have to be comfortable in yourself, and you have to be healthy. You dont want to go back - surely your anorexic days werent fun, you were risking your life. Please re-think and just be happy with who you are, and look after yourself.. you owe yourself as much.
Well if you wanna die then lose more weight becuase the way your going your gonna end up six feet under in a grave, seriously don't stop eating, i said this in another thread and i quote, you eat healthy and regulary and exercise you will have no problem. Carol Carpenter as i was saying she died because she stopped eating.
Who on earth could fancy Kate Moss anyway what has she done.
Who on earth could fancy Kate Moss anyway what has she done.
No, I haven't had counselling in year's. My eating disorder started when I was very young (pre-teen) and I've just never had a very good experience with psychologists I remember when I was little they would threaten to take away my stuffed animals or not let me see my mum etc ... I had what they called "weight control" for a couple of years, but I don't have any of that anymore. I don't have the best eating habits, but I do maintain my weight. And I am not really wanting to lose weight to conform to what I think others would like. I mean, they obviously don't like it, as they tell me not to lose weight, but I felt better about myself when I was as thin as then. Maybe it's a weird way of attention seeking, I admit to that, because I used to constantly have people around me who were worried about my weight and tried to persuade me to eat, but it's not just that. I felt I really had something when I was that thin And what annoys me the most is that I can't even go back there, because whenever I stop eating, I'll start feeling horrible after a few days and then I force myself to eat again because I am so scared of the cramps and the pain I used to have Argh, I'm just such a mess
I remember when I was little they would threaten to take away my stuffed animals or not let me see my mum etc ... I had what they called "weight control" for a couple of years, but I don't have any of that anymore. I don't have the best eating habits, but I do maintain my weight. And I am not really wanting to lose weight to conform to what I think others would like. I mean, they obviously don't like it, as they tell me not to lose weight, but I felt better about myself when I was as thin as then. Maybe it's a weird way of attention seeking, I admit to that, because I used to constantly have people around me who were worried about my weight and tried to persuade me to eat, but it's not just that. I felt I really had something when I was that thin And what annoys me the most is that I can't even go back there, because whenever I stop eating, I'll start feeling horrible after a few days and then I force myself to eat again because I am so scared of the cramps and the pain I used to have Argh, I'm just such a mess 
what? you seriously dont need to lose anymore weight, being a size 6 is all well and good but not with that kind of attitute. my god, i wish i was a 12, let alone a 6! I really think you still need some sort of professional help - beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. OK, there's never been a day when I wished I wasn't slimmer, but I don't want to be ill or anything. You're clearly not well at all.
Not at all. Stick-thin women are [almost] as repulsive as ridiculously overweight women. Paris Hilton would be a definite "no".
I really, really don't get this...why do women think they have to be uber-thin to be attractive?? You don't! Normal-weight women are far more attractive than stick-thin (or fat) women. Seriously.
I really, really don't get this...why do women think they have to be uber-thin to be attractive?? You don't! Normal-weight women are far more attractive than stick-thin (or fat) women. Seriously.
well even a bit of chocolate won't harm you, as i said long as you eat your fruit and veg and do some exercise, any food thats not so healthy you'd soon burn off as well.
Well one thing is for sure i would never go with a stick thin woman it is just plain nasty
There are some good counsellors/ psychologists, but you might take a while to find someone you like. But you're in control of who you see, so if you don't like them then change!
If you're at uni then they should have a counselling service or deatils of one, and if you're at school/college then the school nurse might be able to help. Or you can go to your doctor or through Connexions (if you're under 19).
A part of you realises that not eating isn't good, which is why you're making yourself eat. That's good! You just need to work on that and concentrate on being healthy.
You can PM me if you like, but I'm morebulimic than anorexic (although I am officially EDNOS)
If you're at uni then they should have a counselling service or deatils of one, and if you're at school/college then the school nurse might be able to help. Or you can go to your doctor or through Connexions (if you're under 19).
A part of you realises that not eating isn't good, which is why you're making yourself eat. That's good! You just need to work on that and concentrate on being healthy.
You can PM me if you like, but I'm morebulimic than anorexic (although I am officially EDNOS)
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No, I haven't had counselling in year's. My eating disorder started when I was very young (pre-teen) and I've just never had a very good experience with psychologists I remember when I was little they would threaten to take away my stuffed animals or not let me see my mum etc ... I had what they called "weight control" for a couple of years, but I don't have any of that anymore. I don't have the best eating habits, but I do maintain my weight. And I am not really wanting to lose weight to conform to what I think others would like. I mean, they obviously don't like it, as they tell me not to lose weight, but I felt better about myself when I was as thin as then. Maybe it's a weird way of attention seeking, I admit to that, because I used to constantly have people around me who were worried about my weight and tried to persuade me to eat, but it's not just that. I felt I really had something when I was that thin And what annoys me the most is that I can't even go back there, because whenever I stop eating, I'll start feeling horrible after a few days and then I force myself to eat again because I am so scared of the cramps and the pain I used to have Argh, I'm just such a mess
I remember when I was little they would threaten to take away my stuffed animals or not let me see my mum etc ... I had what they called "weight control" for a couple of years, but I don't have any of that anymore. I don't have the best eating habits, but I do maintain my weight. And I am not really wanting to lose weight to conform to what I think others would like. I mean, they obviously don't like it, as they tell me not to lose weight, but I felt better about myself when I was as thin as then. Maybe it's a weird way of attention seeking, I admit to that, because I used to constantly have people around me who were worried about my weight and tried to persuade me to eat, but it's not just that. I felt I really had something when I was that thin And what annoys me the most is that I can't even go back there, because whenever I stop eating, I'll start feeling horrible after a few days and then I force myself to eat again because I am so scared of the cramps and the pain I used to have Argh, I'm just such a mess Hun, It sounds like you could benefit from some counselling, not all Psychologist are bad, It may be that when you were younger they were much more scarier and you had bad experiences.. But you need to give it a try. I wouldnt say it was attention seeking, It may be that you associated being that thin with having attnetion and lots o people around you, and so you want to be like that again and have people worried and concerned for you.. But if these people knew what was going on they would support you whatever and be there for you right now. I really hope you get some help, and feel better for you, and nopt for anyone else.
Aww, thank you I'm sure you're gonna make a great psychologist one day 
I guess I'm gonna be okay, don't worry. I don't actually do much to lose weight anymore, it's more the thinking about it that I am doing.... I guess I have other issues than just that, too. But you're right, I just need people around me whom I feel care for me, that's really what I need. but sadly, all those who do are never enough for me and then I always want someone else and get these weird obsessions with female celebrities, whose friend I'd want to be and whom I'd want to be like a big sister to me or something...but that's a different and even more complex issue... don't bother. But thanks x
I'm sure you're gonna make a great psychologist one day I guess I'm gonna be okay, don't worry. I don't actually do much to lose weight anymore, it's more the thinking about it that I am doing.... I guess I have other issues than just that, too. But you're right, I just need people around me whom I feel care for me, that's really what I need. but sadly, all those who do are never enough for me and then I always want someone else and get these weird obsessions with female celebrities, whose friend I'd want to be and whom I'd want to be like a big sister to me or something...but that's a different and even more complex issue... don't bother. But thanks xI agree with what you said about it being attention seeking. By losing weight you were getting a lot of concerned attention and you enjoyed that somehow, or wanted more of it. This is completely the wrong approach. I agree with Hanzing, you need councelling, before this obsession turns into something that will turn your life worse than it is at the moment.
ur NOT over weight , plz carry on eating.
I can completely empathise with what you're saying. I used to be a size 6-8 (which at 5'7 I can now see looked very slim/ underweight at times.) At the moment (!) I'm more like a 10-12 but I want to be really small again, I don't know, I think if you're prone to "fat days" or have a bit of a distorted body-image in general then maybe the smaller you become the less you should technically have to "worry about." (From past experience I hasten to add if you have issues like this in the 1st place it won't matter if you're a size 4 or a size 20, you'll probabaly still think certain parts of you would look better if you kept on losing weight, sorta perfectionist. You sound like you are naturally slim and petite and I am sure that you have nothing to worry about. I don't know, I'm probably being hypocritical here, as I am currently dieting/doing hrs of cardio/weights to get really slim again. I think it's just all down to you. Something I have realised is that people will fancy you regardless, I get the same amount of attention off blokes now- if not more- now I'm a bit more womanly. It's just that I know I am more confident/ can wear what I like when I'm thinner. *sighs* I hope it doesn't take over your life; in the grand scheme of things it is such a minor detail (I recognise this but don't always adhere to it myself) your personality, family, friends, all much higher up the list. And also the fact that us Westerners have it so easy anyway plays on my mind sometime, here I am trying to lose weight when some poor people have no food. Its so screwed up
PLEASE get help. There is a PATHETIC girl in my school who only eats lettuce sandwiches and NOTHING ELSE and is SKIN AND BONES and she is DISGUSTING she has NO friends and NO ONE can bare to look at her. She is adamant that she' snot ill- LAME. IT IS DISGUSTING imo and TOTALLY unneccessary- so PLEASE eat.....life's too short as it is...
Kate Moss is ugly. She's just a crack-doing, ugly 'model.' I can find hundreds of girls on the street in one day better looking than her.
Paris Hilton's face is better than her body.
My powers of deduction tell me your judgment is totally off. You do not need to lose weight.
Paris Hilton's face is better than her body.
My powers of deduction tell me your judgment is totally off. You do not need to lose weight.
You really dont need to loose weight. to an extent, i understand how you feel about weight, although i have never been anywhere near anorexic, i do continually try and loose weight, but i think a lot of people do.
most men i know dont actually find really skinny girls attractive, as they look boyish.
i dont actually think kate moss is underweight, although she is very close, but she is just a clothes horse. and i wasnt aware she did crack? some of the really really thin models look awful though, and i think paris hilton looks better for putting on a couple of pounds.
you dont have to be super skinny to be pretty. i think the most attractive women are people like beyonce knowles and jennifer lopez. they are slim, but they have curves, they dont look like pre-pubescent boys.
please dont stop eating, i think you would really benefit from speaking to a counsellor, theyre not all nasty you know! someone suggested connexions, hopefully they will be able to put you touch with some good counsellors.
if you stop eating, think how much this is going to hurt your family. if youve managed to put the weight back on youve done really well
, dont let all that hard work go to waste. if you feel bad when you eat, then make sure you eat lots of fruit and veg, these arent fattening, but they are good for you, so theres nothing to feel bad about, but youre getting lots of vitamins.
most men i know dont actually find really skinny girls attractive, as they look boyish.
i dont actually think kate moss is underweight, although she is very close, but she is just a clothes horse. and i wasnt aware she did crack? some of the really really thin models look awful though, and i think paris hilton looks better for putting on a couple of pounds.
you dont have to be super skinny to be pretty. i think the most attractive women are people like beyonce knowles and jennifer lopez. they are slim, but they have curves, they dont look like pre-pubescent boys.
please dont stop eating, i think you would really benefit from speaking to a counsellor, theyre not all nasty you know! someone suggested connexions, hopefully they will be able to put you touch with some good counsellors.
if you stop eating, think how much this is going to hurt your family. if youve managed to put the weight back on youve done really well
, dont let all that hard work go to waste. if you feel bad when you eat, then make sure you eat lots of fruit and veg, these arent fattening, but they are good for you, so theres nothing to feel bad about, but youre getting lots of vitamins.Related discussions
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