where to go for first date? tell me ur dream-first-date!!

My first date with my current bf involved walking around in the rain in pretty greenery and awkward snogging in a disused bus shelter that tramps sleep in.

First date with the ex involved drunken fumbling in a club and holding hands in Soho.

Do whatever feels natural tbh but I agree. NO TO CINEMA. You spend most of it in silence and don't know what to do with your hands.

Take her here



Also known as North Wales Hospital. It is an abandoned mental asylum in Denbighshire, Wales

Here is a picture from the inside



You could take a walk through the electroconvulsive therapy room whilst reflecting on the times of institutionalisation of mental illness and the commonplace of lobotomies.

She'll be putty in your hands.

No need to thank me.

Really? I'm surprised! I would have thought that the cinema is the best place to go for a first date and then you could go for a bite to eat after. The reason being is because on first dates there is generally loads of awkward moments like akward silences but if you watch a movie then then go for a bite to eat then you can talk about the movie while you eat so you have something to say during those silences. I always thought the cinema was a win win situation. Plus while you are in the cinema you can think of stuff to say after rather than sitting in a cafe and having nothing to say or running out of something to say.
But yeah you always have to go for a bite out to eat afterwards otherwise it would be kinda pointless seeing as you wouldn't be able to talk and get to know each other.

With regards to what to do when the movie is on, I'd advise from putting your arm around a girl if it's your first date. If it's your first date then you barely know the girl, and she doesn't know you and so it feels a bit like your invading personal space. The only exception to this is if you have been close friends for a while prior to dating. Same applies for holding the hand. In most cases in a cinema it would look weird unless your close or you have been dating for ages. When the movie is playing don't talk to her, it's annoying and a pet peeve of mine. I mean why bother going to the cinema if you can't watch the film without being distracted. Talk in the interval all you want but yeah never during the movie. Only exception is if you are choking on popcorn and need CPR

The interval? What decade is this??

hi i am 18 year old guy in my first year in uni. i have kind of never been in a relationship before, never really feel like i need to but i recently find a girl which i quite like her, but anyway, i am thinking of asking her out but i am not entirely sure what i should say and do.

i got her number ages ago and we are friends anyway, and i know she got a crush on me. but i dont really know her that well, but she is quite cute and interesting. but people do say first date is very important, so i want to make sure this goes well. anyway where do ppl go for their first dates? a casual lunch or a coffee in a cafe? or a film in a theatre? or just keep it simple and meet up in ie my flat

it is definitely not that i m not comfortable with girls, but i have never really just go and do something with only one girl, unless we are extreme good friends or i m a bit drunk...

so any suggestions? theatre? cafe? or lunch?

My first date with my current bf involved walking around in the rain in pretty greenery and awkward snogging in a disused bus shelter that tramps sleep in.

First date with the ex involved drunken fumbling in a club and holding hands in Soho.

Do whatever feels natural tbh but I agree. NO TO CINEMA. You spend most of it in silence and don't know what to do with your hands.

Coffee is a good plan, if you're close already dinner is a nice 'definite' first date but again can be expensive and awkward if you don't know her that well.

Worst first date I ever had was echoed on here, cinema - he spent the entire time whispering in my ear about how hot Cameron Diaz was and the time in the pub after boring me with a definition of tort law Second worst was when he invited me over to his and cooked for me... peppered grilling steak... I don't like peppery things and whilst I love steak it was the wrong kind for frying and ended up really tough (doubly so as he didn't eat anything less than well done :/ should've got out of there when he said that tbh). He also plonked it on the plate with a few lettuce leaves and went 'hey, girls love salad right?'

Eating popcorn. Sorted.

For a first date, I'd actually suggest the cinema ... you can watch a nice movie.. avoid scary or romantic ones, comedy films are perfect for first dates then go for a bite to eat after and if there are any akward silences then talk about the movie, which is where going to the cinema comes in handy!

However in my perfect date, we'd for a long walk, then have a picnic!

The interval? What decade is this??