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gaydar?

does such a thing exist?
obviously there are the stereotypes (lesbians being manly and gay guys being girly) but not all homosexuals fall into these categories and some people in these categories aren't gay
are there any ways you can tell whether or not someone is gay?
oh if only we lived in the olden days when Polari was around (for those of you who didn't watch Baulderdash and Piffle, this was a secret 'gay' language where if you slipped the odd word into a conversation other gays could be pretty sure you were too)

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Reply 1
apologies for my threads often being about being gay. it's what i do best
Reply 2
The only way to know for sure is if they say they are. There is no such thing as a 'gay voice' or a 'gay walk' because you don't have any control over them, so it is not something you can make yourself when you decide you are gay.
Reply 3
championhopper
apologies for my threads often being about being gay. it's what i do best


You do gay people? in what kind of way do you mean "do"
Reply 4
Evil-Tuna
You do gay people? in what kind of way do you mean "do"

:p: i mean being gay is just about the only thing i can actually do, i didn't mean it to be about 'doing' gay people although i'd like to think i'm not bad at that
Reply 5
My ex since coming out as gay believes he can spot a gay person instantly.
Reply 6
LPK
The only way to know for sure is if they say they are. There is no such thing as a 'gay voice' or a 'gay walk' because you don't have any control over them, so it is not something you can make yourself when you decide you are gay.


People don't just "decide" one day to be gay.
Reply 7
Gaydar only kind of exists. Gay people are able to identify other Gay people better than others because a) they're actually looking and b) they know at least some of the signs because they may display them themselves. But the effect is limited, there are many, many people who "slip under the Gaydar". Some people's gay sense is so poor, they can't even tell that they are gay :P

Edit: oh no, wait a minute. A quick google image search suggests i'm wrong
Reply 8
Xulfer
People don't just "decide" one day to be gay.

Okay, so i worded it wrong. Shoot me. :p:
Reply 9
Evil-Tuna
You do gay people? in what kind of way do you mean "do"

:rofl:
Reply 10
LPK
Okay, so i worded it wrong. Shoot me. :p:


It wasn't just because you used the word "decide", it was the other bit too. People don't just suddenly become camp when they come out either, do they? It's not like "oh I've decided that I'm gay, time to walk around with limp wrists"

:p:
Reply 12
Xulfer
It wasn't just because you used the word "decide", it was the other bit too. People don't just suddenly become camp when they come out either, do they? It's not like "oh I've decided that I'm gay, time to walk around with limp wrists"

:p:

*sigh*

Stop finding flaws in my post. :frown: :p:
i think LPK said 'decide' without thinking but perhaps subconsciously she meant when a gay person decides to come out they won't change their voice/walk to a 'gay' one?
sorry he:indiff:
I went out to my local nightclub with a group of friends last night and we had great fun identifying people who danced 'gay', walked 'gay', talked 'gay' and looked 'gay'...our conclusion....everyone has at least one gay tendency!!! :p:

NB - We didn't go to the club with the intention to spot gay people, we just got bored, and no, we weren't in a gay bar! :p::rolleyes:
Reply 16
my gaydar is soo on point but i usually don't trust myself so i;ll think sumone is gay disregard it and then when i find out their gay i'm like i already knew lol! irony is i'm not gay lol i have a lot of gay friends tho
mtbab
my gaydar is soo on point but i usually don't trust myself so i;ll think sumone is gay disregard it and then when i find out their gay i'm like i already knew lol! irony is i'm not gay lol i have a lot of gay friends tho


but why do you think they're gay to begin with? is it gut instinct or is there some external factor?
probably something to do with chemical scent or something..we are animals after all...maybe gays have their own mixure of chemical scent (pheremones yadda yadda)..that is assuming that being gay is about biology and genes etc..(which i believe)
Reply 19
i dunno gut instinct i guess i've never been wrong i have to say, but there have been guys i've missed but guys i've picked up on being gay have turned out to be so yeh lol