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Is 17 too early to go on a proper date??

I'm 17 and i got this nice girls number the other day.

I want to take things further but i don't know the best way to do it.

Should I take her on a one-on-one date, or should I invite her to some public event that might be going on (like someones 18th party for example)?

I'm not particularly experienced in this area (I've never had a proper gf), so a bit of advice on what to do would be very helpfull.

Reply 1

username47781

20

People mature differently, looking back i don't think i was ready for any girlfriend at 17, i would just suggest take things slowly, get to know each other first, and yeah nothing wrong with taking her along to a party or something like that.

Reply 2

Lauren Hart

3

Ye, i think maybe the party would be good, low pressure for a first date.

Reply 3

Hanzing

13

Yeah, Going to a social event is usually a good start, and I mean there are plenty of other people around to talk to, Or maybe if you would like more one on one casual the maybe you ask her to go see a movie? It has the advantage of being alone, but also is much lighter as you are watching a film etc..

Whatever you choose, Hope it goes well :biggrin:

Reply 4

Dude

14

I suggest the cinema. Its a public place, and its nothing too preasured.

Reply 5

wednesburywench

2

of course your old enough, just ask her to the cinema thats the easiest thing! I got my first proper boyfriend at 15, obviously then i didnt know he was gonna be such a long term thing but now we just broke up last week and im 19 now...

Reply 6

Alexander

12

But you don't talk in movies, and surely if you've met someone new then the whole point is to get to know them and see whether you like them. I've never really understood why the cinema is considered a suitable date venue. Personally, I'd recommend inviting her out for a meal -- lunch, if dinner seems a bit too serious, and think of something you can do afterwards.

Reply 7

Hanzing

13

Thing with a movie is it establishes a comfort to spend time together, and allows a more lighthearted chat.. with a lunch date with someone you hardly know it could make it a bit more nervous, this way its a nice break In.

Reply 8

wednesburywench

2

yea the cinema gets rid of nervousness...it doesnt matter so much if you cant find anything to say! i dunno, my date in the cinema just worked so so well.. we went to the cinema, watched a funny film (i think funny is a good one for a date) and then went and chilled in the shops for a few hours afterwards joking and then we talked. It was lovely. Then again we sort of did know each other a little before the date..but not much so maybe if you didnt know them atall then the cinema isnt good?

Reply 9

shinytoy

18

i hate cinema dates. i get bored, my pupils dilate then when i come out i squint in an ugly way. and the guy im with, i want to talk and flirt with. omg i bet i'd fall asleep. and i dont go in for any of that back row fancy business either.

Reply 10

Talya

16

My first 'date' with my boyfriend was watching a movie at his house. So there wasno awkwardness due to movie being on, but there was light and we could talk :biggrin:

And pause it if we needed the loo!

Reply 11

Pandy

10

Alexander

But you don't talk in movies, and surely if you've met someone new then the whole point is to get to know them and see whether you like them. I've never really understood why the cinema is considered a suitable date venue. Personally, I'd recommend inviting her out for a meal -- lunch, if dinner seems a bit too serious, and think of something you can do afterwards.

Yeah, I've never understood either. "Lets go to the cinema... get to know eachother.... oh."

Though I guess you could go cinema and then grab a pizza or coffee afterwards. That's worked before.

Reply 12

DeadByDawn

From how things have turned out for me and any of my friends when we have taken a girl out on the first date, something like crazy golf seems best. Something where a bit of action is required but you can still talk to each other. I find the cinema too boring and predictable. I think crazy golf is original and a fun activity. Whatever you do though, do not lose to her :redface:

. Especially if she tells all of your friends later on in the relationship :frown:

.

By the way, make sure you have fun. My best advice would be to do something you enjoy. This way you seperate the incompatible girls that are different to you from the ones that share things in common with you. If you do this then you'll have fun on the date at the same time as you get to know a girl better. Hope it goes well.

Reply 13

wednesburywench

2

bowling is always fun and also ice skating!

Reply 14

shinytoy

18

my dates involve pubs, parties, clubs, meals, films. thats about it.

Reply 15

Hanzing

13

DeadByDawn

From how things have turned out for me and any of my friends when we have taken a girl out on the first date, something like crazy golf seems best. Something where a bit of action is required but you can still talk to each other. I find the cinema too boring and predictable. I think crazy golf is original and a fun activity. Whatever you do though, do not lose to her :redface:

. Especially if she tells all of your friends later on in the relationship :frown:

.

That would be such a cute first date!

Reply 16

LawQueen

14

Dude

I suggest the cinema. Its a public place, and its nothing too preasured.

Nonononono!

NO!

Don't go to the cinema. Absolute killer. The first three dates are a getting to know you time and then the fourth is invite round for cooked meal. In the cinema you just kind of sit there awkwardly and should only be done when you're completely comfortable and secure with one another.

I suggest a coffee date to start things of nice and lightly, see where things are heading. This is good because it is a money-saving option of finding out whether that person is really interested in you and you her before you splash out on a meal. Just make sure you pay. Cosmopoliton says if a guy takes up a girl's polite offer to pay half then he's a no-go. Double dutch=double loser.

Reply 17

kizer

15

Root

Nonononono!

NO!

Don't go to the cinema. Absolute killer. The first three dates are a getting to know you time and then the fourth is invite round for cooked meal. In the cinema you just kind of sit there awkwardly and should only be done when you're completely comfortable and secure with one another.

I suggest a coffee date to start things of nice and lightly, see where things are heading. This is good because it is a money-saving option of finding out whether that person is really interested in you and you her before you splash out on a meal. Just make sure you pay. Cosmopoliton says if a guy takes up a girl's polite offer to pay half then he's a no-go. Double dutch=double loser.

Surely this is the proof cosmo isn't ALWAYS right??

Reply 18

strawberry

13

Anonymous

I'm 17 and i got this nice girls number the other day.

I want to take things further but i don't know the best way to do it.

Should I take her on a one-on-one date, or should I invite her to some public event that might be going on (like someones 18th party for example)?

I'm not particularly experienced in this area (I've never had a proper gf), so a bit of advice on what to do would be very helpfull.

I asked my first boyfriend out last summer and I was 17. So we're on the same boat, really. Maybe you should just ask her to hang out with you, or better yet, get a group date. :smile:

Reply 19

dhutch

17

Talya

My first 'date' with my boyfriend was watching a movie at his house. So there wasno awkwardness due to movie being on, but there was light and we could talk :biggrin:

And pause it if we needed the loo!

Yeah, just invite her round an watch a nice film.
- Then your on a nice confy sofa/bed and can cuddle, if thats aproprate.

Is 17 too early to go on a proper date??

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