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Is sex equal for both parties?

I think sex is generally more wanted, expected by, carried out for and satisfying for males. Obviously, this is a generalisation. But reading posts and hearing girls saying how males use them for sex, expect it of them so often and then the girl not even experiencing much pleasure let alone orgasm leads me to think sex is very male orientated. What do you think? Are girls generally ( I know there are exceptions) equal in the sex game- by wanting it the same amount, expecting it the same and also experience it for the same amount of pleasure?

Reply 1

Talya

16

Whatever we say in reply, it's all about personal opinion! What each individual likes/dislikes.

Generally, perhaps men get more satisfaction than women but some women will disagree and ultimately this discussion will lead nowhere. Perhaps a you could get a mod to add a poll.

Reply 2

Lauren Hart

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i find sex very satisfying, cant get enough of it, though ive only ever been with my current bf, so i spose i cant comment on the type of bloke who beds you and leaves. but its give and take you know, you both make it happen, so you both make it good for each other,

Reply 3

Lucyvet2006

I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but it's still soooo not equal. Sometimes it's great but I feel he has to make an effort for me to enjoy it whereas he'd enjoy it (and obviously orgasm) anyway. I probably want it most when I'm real drunk but that's the only time I'd make the first move.

Reply 4

bone-machine

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Pretty Boy

She's left used and abused. Whereas a guy in the same position would be left with a good lay as compensation.

yes..but every girl they love and leave leaves them with a bad reputation among the ladies...knowing that they have had one night stands , dumped girls after a shag is the kind of thing that stops a future potentally amazing gf from wanting to risk it with you..well i know it would stop me

as my guy friend once said, ' scoring one night can lead to big loses in the future, you have to think about who she knows and how word will spread'

Reply 5

bluedreamer

1

I’ll never be used because I’m too damn selfish :p:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I think when you're inexperienced, sex is probably more enjoyable for guys than girls, because guys define sex as them putting their dicks inside their girlfriends and coming. However as guys get more experienced they hopefully realise that's the least satisfying sex, because they can only orgasm once then it's over, whereas if they focus on giving pleasure to their girlfriends the whole thing can be a lot more intense because most women can have bigger orgasms than guys and a lot more of them.

Best sign of a caring guy who's not too focused on his own pleasure? An overwhelming desire to go down on his girlfriend, not as foreplay or a thankyou but as the main focus of lovemaking... :smile:

Reply 7

wendizzle22

1

It really depends! I love sex, want it alot, and expect it reasonably regularly in a relationship. I definitely gain equal pleasure from it as my boyfriend, and we both have high sex drives. Sometimes I think mine is higher than his!
However I have a friend who insists she loves her bf but she finds no pleasure in it at all :frown:

Reply 8

SammyD

7

Although it can't really be proven, a girls orgasm is a much bigger deal than a guys. The feeling of male orgasm has been described as much like the relief you get when you pee after being desperate for to go for ages. Comparatively the female orgasm is much more intense and can last for minutes.

Reply 9

Lucyvet2006

SammyD

Although it can't really be proven, a girls orgasm is a much bigger deal than a guys. The feeling of male orgasm has been described as much like the relief you get when you pee after being desperate for to go for ages. Comparatively the female orgasm is much more intense and can last for minutes.

Hehehe really? Is that IT for blokes?

Reply 10

banksy

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bluedreamer

I’ll never be used because I’m too damn selfish :p:

Selfish isn't the word I'd use.

Reply 11

Wineblood

SammyD

Although it can't really be proven, a girls orgasm is a much bigger deal than a guys. The feeling of male orgasm has been described as much like the relief you get when you pee after being desperate for to go for ages. Comparatively the female orgasm is much more intense and can last for minutes.

I'd say the peeing sensation is better, but that's just me.

Reply 12

Apricot Fairy

16

Pretty Boy

Rule of Thumb for girls to remember - Sex without love = violence

No, sex without consent = violence.... :rolleyes:

A lot of women have great one night stands. Ditto ***** buddies.

I think you're confusing the matter.

Reply 13

Profesh

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Anonymous

Best sign of a caring guy who's not too focused on his own pleasure? An overwhelming desire to go down on his girlfriend, not as foreplay or a thankyou but as the main focus of lovemaking... :smile:

Initially, I supposed myself averse to such a notion; however, having since instigated a female orgasm, I'm feeling increasingly amenable to the prospect.

In fact, I rather fancy myself as the sort who is liable to become 'over-zealous'.

Reply 14

Talya

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Apricot Fairy

No, sex without consent = violence.... :rolleyes:

Again, which of these statements is true depends on who you are!

Reply 15

El Scotto

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SammyD

The feeling of male orgasm has been described as much like the relief you get when you pee after being desperate for to go for ages.

lol who on earth has desribed it as that? someone else posting as 'anonymous' on the health and relationships forum in the student room no doubt. :tsr2:

Reply 16

pendragon

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Anonymous

I think sex is generally more wanted, expected by, carried out for and satisfying for males. Obviously, this is a generalisation. But reading posts and hearing girls saying how males use them for sex, expect it of them so often and then the girl not even experiencing much pleasure let alone orgasm leads me to think sex is very male orientated. What do you think? Are girls generally ( I know there are exceptions) equal in the sex game- by wanting it the same amount, expecting it the same and also experience it for the same amount of pleasure?

The male orgasm is obviously more plentiful and the female one seems to me (from a girls physical responce where it seems to overwelm her whole body and brain to a much greater extent than for a male), to be more intense and pleasurable, and its possible for some women to have multiple orgasms. On the other hand a much higher percentage of women have sexual disfunction disorders of various kinds, and this is not solely due to male dominated sex and male ineptitude. The reason is evolutionary, all that is necessary for procreation is that a male ejaculate inside a female. Male ejaculation coincides with male orgasm. The female orgasm is however not biologically neccessary to conception, and therefore less important in evolutionary terms. This is the source of the inequality, though doubtless the patriacial nature of most societies through history has reinforced a primarily male definition of sex as male ejaculation inside a female. We can redress the balance however by helping women to have as many orgasms as they can, so lets go to our task men! :biggrin:

Reply 17

pendragon

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Pretty Boy

Sex without love = violence

Some radical feminists argue that all sex is rape, I think most women would not agree with such an insane perspective. Such women are the opposite of misogynists, unfortunately there is no single word for the opposite extreme of sexism.

Reply 18

starya

Of course it depends on the relationship, but in mine I'd say it's pretty equal. Granted there are times when one of us gets more than the other but overall it's pretty even. Although sometimes I feel like I get a lot more than he does.. not that I mind :p: