So Confused!!..

Ok this might sound really dumb, i've been friends with this guy for ages (about 5-6 years), I liked him when I was about 12, (i'm 17 now). Just get on with him really well, and he liked me too, he told me when he was 15 I think, and I was 14. Now this sounds like puppy love or something lol. But anyway, he had to move over to B'ham, and I live in London. So we couldn't really do anything about it. I still talk to him on the phone every week! and we talk for hours and hours. But I only see him like once a year probally, as he very rarely comes down to London.
I don't really know what i'm asking just need some advice. Because when I talk to him, I get this feeling, and I feel I reallly like him, but i'm not sure, because I haven't seen him for soo long, so I don't know if my feelings are real, I want to see him so I can see if there is a spark there. And this may sound really shallow (and I really hope it doesn't)..but I love his personality, but I don't know whether i'm physically attracted to him, that's why I really gota see him (I last saw him about a year and a bit ago). And I don't know wether I can go out with someone who i'm not physically attracted to! because I don't know if it will work. But I really want to be, because he's got the best persoanlity ever! and we get on so well!
And this may sound really stupid...but I don't see him as like boyfriend material but more like 'marriage' material. I know it's too early to be thinking about that, but I can just imagine my self with him in the future, but not so much now, I think it's because im afraid that if something was to happen now, we would get bored as we're young.
But I see him as someone I can spend my life with, because he's always been there. And btw, I know he likes me, cuz when we talk on the phone he kind of hints it, but doesn't say it.
He's moving down here for uni as well so that mean's we will see more of each other, so I guess I can then see if there is a 'spark' there. But really I'm just so so confused, and I'm sorry if im not being clear, but this is just how I feel! :confused:

ANY advice would me appreciated!! thanks!

Reply 1

spacedonkey

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It's good that he's going to be living nearer to you - that'll give you a chance to find out if the relationship is going anywhere. You have a solid friendship with him at the very least - you'll only know if it can go further when you see him and can suss out if you're attracted to him physically.

It might end up being a When Harry Met Sally thing, where you go out with other people for years but then end up together at the end of it all.

I don't think you should worry about it - just look forward to spending some time with him when he moves and see what happens ...

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

spacedonkey

It's good that he's going to be living nearer to you - that'll give you a chance to find out if the relationship is going anywhere. You have a solid friendship with him at the very least - you'll only know if it can go further when you see him and can suss out if you're attracted to him physically.

It might end up being a When Harry Met Sally thing, where you go out with other people for years but then end up together at the end of it all.

I don't think you should worry about it - just look forward to spending some time with him when he moves and see what happens ...

Hey,
Thankz 4 that,
Yeah I think the best thing for me to do is wait till i see him. I actually do think, it will be a 'When Harry met Sally' thing, because when I talk to him it feels so right, yet sometimes i think do i really like him? Whos knows only time will tell i guess.

Sometimes i think am i confused because were such good friends, but i don't know.

Reply 3

spacedonkey

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I think the fact that you've been living so far apart and so hardly ever get to see each other is bound to make you feel confused! It will become clear in time - GOOD LUCK :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

^ thanks, I sure hope it does!
Sometimes it makes me think..that he lives so far..yet were still so close..it must say something right?!
Now i'm confusing my self even more! lol

Reply 5

Beekeeper

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Anonymous

Sometimes it makes me think..that he lives so far..yet were still so close..it must say something right?!

It doesn't really mean much, no. In fact I would say, through personal experience, it is an indication that you might get on better when you're further away from each other...

You sound slightly obsessed, which is always dangerous. Don't try to convince yourself that everythings perfect, it impairs your judgement.

Sorry this is probably quite negative, i'm just being a bit more pragmatic.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Beekeeper

It doesn't really mean much, no. In fact I would say, through personal experience, it is an indication that you might get on better when you're further away from each other...

You sound slightly obsessed, which is always dangerous. Don't try to convince yourself that everythings perfect, it impairs your judgement.

Sorry this is probably quite negative, i'm just being a bit more pragmatic.

Beleive me i'm not obsessed lol
And no, we get on the same as if we were face 2 face.
I don't go on and on about him to my friends or anything like that, so they get the impression that I don't like him.
I know thing's ain't perfect, I just gota see him, and see how things are, its a bit hard over the phone.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

^ sorry i was meant to say ..my friends get the impression i don't like him as much, but i think i do, even if i don't go on about him. but as i said before, i really gota see him to make this more clear to me.

So Confused!!..

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