Breast Cancer

I know its a difficult topic which most people may not feel comfortable talking about and discussing but I was just wondering if there is anyone who has had any experience of breast cancer? Either themselves or family members/friends or anyone they know. Im asking because I recently found out my boyfriends mother has breast cancer and is due for surgery tomoro morning. Im very close to her and Im so worried about her well being - hoping she will be okay. I just dont know what to do to help her - I suppose there is nothing I can really do except just be there for my boyfriend and her, but its just worrying me soo much. I havent be able to sleep really because of it. Has anyone else felt this way at all? If so, how did u cope with the news?

Reply 1

mrteacher

heyyy don't worry too much about her. my mum's best friend had breast cancer. she never was in a lot of pain and everything run smoothly for her,

the only that u can do, as u said, is be supportive. Do not worry about it, the breast cancer operation in itself is not that dangerous :biggrin:

just be brave for both of them and everything will be fine

xx

Reply 2

karlos85

In response to mrteacher id just like to say that every case of breast cancer is completely different and unique. Some people will get through it very smoothly and although the success rates of beating breast cancer may be going up there is no guarantee that it will happen.

My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months prior to my GCSE's and we were fortunately living in America at the time in the same town as a renowned cancer treatment center. With their help and support my mother got through the cancer, but as with any serious illness it was hard on the whole family as my sister and I were already at boarding school in England and were only home for the holidays. The treatments for cancer are very harsh and can make people feel very unwell.

My mother is now fine and has been clear for three years. We often reflect on it as it was a life changing time for us all, we became even closer as a family. The main thing my mother said was that the constant support was very helpful in getting her through it. Just doing things around the house that she may not be able to do are a great help for her, and talking is the best thing. Cancer patients and patients of other illnesses often get worse as they feel lonely, its as if they have been 'cut off' from the outside world and that support really really helps.

As for yourself, worrying is the natural thing to do but you still need to sleep! Keep supporting her and her family and that will keep you at peace with yourself and you should be able to sleep. The initial news is undoubtedly a shock and you will get used to it soon enough, as you being unsettled wont help everyone else.

I wish your boyfriends mother and all of your families all the best.

Reply 3

lucho22

Hi, well my mum was diagnosed a few months ago with breast cancer - she was operated on immediately after a couple of biopsies. It was caught extremely eary (lump only 3 mm in diameter) and therefore her prognosis is excellent. It all depends on how early it's caught and whether the doctors know what they're doing. She's currently undergoing radiotherapy to kill off any rogue cells lurking about - so far so good. I guess you just have to be positive - life goes on - my mum was very lucky...but every case is different and you always have to prepare yourself for the possibility of it being a serious problem...no cancer is simple..