Shrink or boyfriend??

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I dumped my boyfriend when he developped depression and only talked to me about it until I just couldn't cope anymore. Call her and explain to her what the problem is and that you don't feel like she's really interested in you except as a sex object. Explain that you're sorry that she is so upset at the minute but that you think she should deal with it by herself and that you think she will be come stronger as a result.
I wouldn't visit her if i were you becuase it's so far away and you'll get upset when she gets upset and want to help and end up taking her back (its what happened to me).
Don't mention this other girl to her, you haven't cheated on her and there's no point behaving like you have or gibing her even the slightest hint that you have.
I wouldn't dump her by email if I were you- I think email and text are really nasty ways of dumping someone, it'll make you seem like a coward and a bastard, which you clearly aren't.
I can understand why phoning her will be hard and hearing her upset and knowing you can solve it by taking her back will be very painful, but you just have to grit your teeth and do it. In the long run it will make you happier and you have to remember that. I can remember how i felt when I made that call, but I knew it was for the best in the long run and that's what got me through it all.
Good luck

Reply 21

high priestess fnord

Talon

Someone dumped me over text once. Utter cow.

lol ive mutualy agreed to split up over text. what menaingful relationships ive had :rolleyes:

Reply 22

username47781

Dumping by text is a cowards way, it's not nice i've had that done to me, yeah still hurts saying it to your face, but least you got guts doing it that way.

Reply 23

Anonymous #1

i have decided 100% that i need out and i have the guts to do it in person, but i care too much about people's feelings and a friend told me that they thought that was why i got in with her in the first place, and that she basically used me

guess i'll work out what i'm gonna say, then go over to hers, practicing it on the way

other thing is should i do it whilst sitting in the bar over a pint cos thats when i'm thinking of doing it, but i don't want to cause a scene in her local, but it is somewhere where i can quickly let her realise that we can still be friends, but no where near to the level of intimacy of secrets n all that we had when we were going out

carl1982, i'm going to do as jon bon jovi said in your signiature, going to live while i'm alive, and it's my life i'm going to live