Meeting people youve met online

Ive been talking to someone for over a year now online. We know each other inside out, know everything about each other relate to each other etc. Theyre basically one of my best friends. Weve never spoken on the phone or met up though.

Do you think we have left it to long to meet? We discuss it, and both of us admit the thought just scares the crap out of each other. Im a very shy person in real life and never have much to say, which is why I find it much easier online where I can be more like the real 'me'.

It would be awful if we met up and it was awkward and we didnt know what to say and didnt get on. I get nervous visiting family members for gods sake.

Has anyone been in a similar boat? Met someone youve been talking to for ages?

(by the way were not meeting to ''get it on'' or anything like that)

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Ive been talking to someone for over a year now online. We know each other inside out, know everything about each other relate to each other etc. Theyre basically one of my best friends. Weve never spoken on the phone or met up though.

Do you think we have left it to long to meet? We discuss it, and both of us admit the thought just scares the crap out of each other. Im a very shy person in real life and never have much to say, which is why I find it much easier online where I can be more like the real 'me'.

It would be awful if we met up and it was awkward and we didnt know what to say and didnt get on. I get nervous visiting family members for gods sake.

Has anyone been in a similar boat? Met someone youve been talking to for ages?

(by the way were not meeting to ''get it on'' or anything like that)

i think mayb u shud try chattin on the phone 1st and build it up. i did meet someone who i met online and thats worked out brilliantly they are one of my best mates now, he did however come to my house lol but no regrets at all! just be careful :smile:

and gd luck!

Reply 2

tis_me_lord

14

Hmm, I used to talk to somebody for about a year and I was too scared to ever meet them and stopped contact, so the next time I spoke to someone I made sure to meet after just a month or two and we did indeed "get it on." Though you can replace that with have a nice conversation if you'd prefer. :p:

Reply 3

musicdreamer

1

Be careful with something like this. There have been so many cases where people aren't the people they say there are. Some of them have been scamming the same person for years. Its scary really.

I haven't experienced anything like this so unfortunately I can't help but good luck

Reply 4

MBBS

Yeah build it up, talk on the phone for a while, get used to the sound of each others voice and "real" selves, online is virtual and can hide many aspects of a personality in my opinion, if you are going to meet up I suggest you dont go alone of if you do, try to meet in a very busy place and scope them out before going up to them, dont want you getting hurt now do we...be careful!

Reply 5

Monkey_Maiden

11

It sounds like a good idea, I have lots of online friends but am always too scared to meet because of horror stories I've been told :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Leigh

15

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=177361&highlight=meeting+online

Reply 7

shewantstobeme

10

i met my current boyfriend online about 2 months ago!

he added my me on face party, and then we got talking on msn, then a couple of weeks later we decided to meet.

it was a big strategic plan incase he was a bit wierd, but i had seen him on webcam and spoken on the phone. when we met i took a friend with me, and i also had an older friend in town who i could call if anything went drastically wrong.

it was fine though :smile:

then after meeting up a few more times that week he asked me out :smile:

the past couple of weeks have been totally whirlwind, but so amazing :smile:

it was wierd. it makes me start to believe in some form of 'attraction/love at first sight' because the first time we spoke online we both got a feeling. he lived close which was good :smile:

i feel a bit silly saying it, but i do believe we will start to love each other eventually. i feel totally different about him to anyone else and he does me. we hit it off right from the start.

go for it, but please stay safe.

Reply 8

lazza

15

yeah i've met loads of people online. with things like myspace it's great if you know lots of people who know them. lots of backupstories :P

just meet somewhere really busy like a major trainstation or a pub

Reply 9

G4ry

1

I've met someone off here. It was at a music festival and we shared a tent the whole weekend. Pretty crazy :p:

Reply 10

Fluffy

15

I've met a few online peeps - all from admissionsforum, but some also use TSR.

Reply 11

kinkajou

15

It sounds like a great idea if you think you know each other well and stuff, i reckon you should try talking on the phone first tho cos then it'll be easier to talk face to face when you meet, rather than relying on the keyboard and hiding behind a screen! Stay safe and make sure people know where you are. good luck xx

Reply 12

Lauren Hart

3

Its ok, if you're careful. i'd been talking to my current bf for about a year before we met up, and now its 2 years later and we're much in love. But defo talk on the phone, do some webcam, just so you know what you're looking to get into. Remember all the safety rules etc etc. But it can all be a really great experience. There isnt a day i regret meeting my bf, he's the best thing in my life. :smile:

Reply 13

Higgy

2

I've done it and the person is now my best friend so it does work :smile:

Reply 14

Happy1

14

Id take someone with you and make sure someone knows where youre going - just in case!

Reply 15

mrteacher

1

i have met few people from online : IRC and gaydar hehe. only one of them turned out to be bad. the one guy is my best mate now and the other is quite a good friend...so why not? just be careful. dont go alone

Reply 16

Whizz

1

Never done it personally, but take the proper precautions and you should be fine.

Definately get a phone number before you meet. Take a friend, or at least tell them where your going.

Reply 17

smoomoo

3

ive met about 5 people in all. One i ended up going out with for 2 years and another is a really good friend. Webcam is definately good so you can chck they are who they say they are.