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Is she playing a game?

I'm not that experienced at all this stuff but i can't work out if she's playing a game or something.

Here's the story. I met a girl on friday night and we spoke a bit and exchanged numbers. As she was leaving she forgot her coat and she called to say she thinks she'd left it. A guy i was with said he thought she liked me, i wasn't sure; i'm quite blind to this stuff. So i texted her the next day saying i had her coat and she can pick it up whenever she likes. Next day she texts me to say she'd come round called me "sweetie" in the text and left 2 x's. She came around, i was a bit distant because i was uncomfortable and she suggested going for drinks some time and she left.

That was on Sunday, i waited till this afternoon and texted her asking if she wanted to meet up some time and just left a x at the end of the message as i have no idea what she wants with me. Just received a message (8 hours later) starting off "hey hun" and just saying she wants to meet up and she'll "text me in week" (i don't know if that's in a week or this week) and just left an "x".

So i don't know if she's playing a game and trying to not seem too eager, or gone off the idea or found something new. What do you all think?

Thanks for reading and any opinions welcome of course.

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It seems she likes you, and wants to see you again. Just wait and see if she texts you in the next couple/few days, and if not text her, and say that you're free over the weekend or something and ask her if she wants to do something then. Anyhows, good luck. :smile:
Reply 2
Don't read anything into kisses and hey hun or sweetie or whatever.

Loads of girls are just like that - weirdos.
Handy
Don't read anything into kisses and hey hun or sweetie or whatever.

Loads of girls are just like that - weirdos.


guys do it too! lol
Reply 4
So any verdict? Do you think she's playing a hot/cold tactic or it's just friends? I've no idea where i am with her.
Reply 5
Anonymous
I'm not that experienced at all this stuff but i can't work out if she's playing a game or something.

Here's the story. I met a girl on friday night and we spoke a bit and exchanged numbers. As she was leaving she forgot her coat and she called to say she thinks she'd left it. A guy i was with said he thought she liked me, i wasn't sure; i'm quite blind to this stuff. So i texted her the next day saying i had her coat and she can pick it up whenever she likes. Next day she texts me to say she'd come round called me "sweetie" in the text and left 2 x's. She came around, i was a bit distant because i was uncomfortable and she suggested going for drinks some time and she left.

That was on Sunday, i waited till this afternoon and texted her asking if she wanted to meet up some time and just left a x at the end of the message as i have no idea what she wants with me. Just received a message (8 hours later) starting off "hey hun" and just saying she wants to meet up and she'll "text me in week" (i don't know if that's in a week or this week) and just left an "x".

So i don't know if she's playing a game and trying to not seem too eager, or gone off the idea or found something new. What do you all think?

Thanks for reading and any opinions welcome of course.

It doesn't seem like shes playing games as she did suggest drinks sometime and didnt set a possible day then go back on it.
Right now it seems shes just playing it cool taking it slow, keep us posted on it thoe so we can see any possible games goin on
Reply 6
I certainly will do :smile:

She took 8 hours to reply with a message she'd like to meet up and she'd back to me and then said she was going out. I'm just not cut out for all this stuff.

But for now i should play the waiting game?
Reply 7
Anonymous
I certainly will do :smile:

She took 8 hours to reply with a message she'd like to meet up and she'd back to me and then said she was going out. I'm just not cut out for all this stuff.

But for now i should play the waiting game?

Yes that would be best, its to early to suggest if shes playing games or not.
Like i say let us know what goes on thoe, because if she keeps putting it off then there could be a sign of playing games or somet
Reply 8
Handy
Don't read anything into kisses and hey hun or sweetie or whatever.

Loads of girls are just like that - weirdos.


Arg!

Story of my f**king life :frown:
Reply 9
Anonymous
I'm not that experienced at all this stuff but i can't work out if she's playing a game or something.

Here's the story. I met a girl on friday night and we spoke a bit and exchanged numbers. As she was leaving she forgot her coat and she called to say she thinks she'd left it. A guy i was with said he thought she liked me, i wasn't sure; i'm quite blind to this stuff. So i texted her the next day saying i had her coat and she can pick it up whenever she likes. Next day she texts me to say she'd come round called me "sweetie" in the text and left 2 x's. She came around, i was a bit distant because i was uncomfortable and she suggested going for drinks some time and she left.

That was on Sunday, i waited till this afternoon and texted her asking if she wanted to meet up some time and just left a x at the end of the message as i have no idea what she wants with me. Just received a message (8 hours later) starting off "hey hun" and just saying she wants to meet up and she'll "text me in week" (i don't know if that's in a week or this week) and just left an "x".

So i don't know if she's playing a game and trying to not seem too eager, or gone off the idea or found something new. What do you all think?

Thanks for reading and any opinions welcome of course.


LOL, come off it m8!

birds always say 'sweetie' and leave kisses, its what they do. Besides that looks like you've just bagged ya self a girl whose a bit lazy, sort of girl that takes bare time on replying, just go with the flow.
Reply 10
Pretty Boy
text u in week might mean she'll text u in the week.

You've chased enough dude, balls in her court.

As a general though, I wouldn't put 'x''s at the end of your messages - something not right about a dude doin it.


Yeah, i figured she took the ball back in her court. I'm not sure about the week part, we are already mid-week now so i don't know what it's supposed to mean. She seemed eager at first but the week bit is a bit concerning.

I thought it's cool to give an x to a girl. It just felt really formal when i just signed with my name. Maybe i won't bother next time.
Dude, you're looking into this far too much! Stop worrying and just see what happens - you seem a little uptight man. Just wait.
Reply 12
^ haha, 'blah blah blah SIGNED JOHANTHEN SMITH.
Reply 13
Angel Interceptor
Dude, you're looking into this far too much! Stop worrying and just see what happens - you seem a little uptight man. Just wait.


I told you i wasn't knowledgeable about this stuff. I'm just going to leave it to her now - i don't know what she wants with me.

Of course i'm uptight, she's hot and i'm a bag of raging hormones.
Reply 14
seriously stop being such a faggot and just wait, if she dont text back in a week and you wana rag it that badly then send her a txt. sorted.
Reply 15
Dj Nastie
seriously stop being such a faggot and just wait, if she dont text back in a week and you wana rag it that badly then send her a txt. sorted.


If only you'd said that the first time as that was somewhat more constructive than your previous post. I'm not that sort of guy, but i like her and i was attracted to her.
Reply 16
yea just take it easy and dont look into things too much, i'm in a similar situation right now. I've found with messages, that she tends to copy the number of x's i do, which is quite funny so i play around with it.

her taking awhile to reply isn't a big problem, just make sure you do the same. To be honest i find it annoying when girls reply straight away and expect you to do the same, as i hate messing around on my phone.

If i were you i'd text her thurs/friday, saying "i'm gonna be out tonight/tommorow night with my mates but it'd be nice to see you if you're going to be about so let me know if you are x "

that way you're showing interest but in case she IS playing games she isn't exactly saying no to a date, as you are going out anyway, and are merely giving her the oppurtunity to see you if she's clever enough to choose to. Catch my drift here?

if she says she cant meet up, but doesn't suggest an alternative time, i think you should put her on the back burner and go after other girls. If she likes you then the lack of contact should make her contact you. If not then you're busy chasing other girls so who cares?
Reply 17
Thanks, i think i'll just leave it to her - see how much she wants me; if at all. I just hate all this game stuff. If she likes me and i'm showing interest i don't understand why it just can't be easy and say so instead of wasting this time apart when we could be getting to know each other :frown:

I've taken everyone's advice and i'm just going to play the waiting game and see what she offers and just go about my daily business as i have really have other things such as academic work to focus on now.
Reply 18
also if you do text her dont say what that other bloke said, thats ****. you dont wana meet up with her while you're with your m8s and shes with hers.
Reply 19
Dj Nastie
also if you do text her dont say what that other bloke said, thats ****. you dont wana meet up with her while you're with your m8s and shes with hers.


why not, he says he was uncomfortable with her on his own, and its an alot more relaxed setting, unless your mates are ********s.