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Anonymous #1

should a guy pay for things on the first date ?

Reply 1

MNBStyle

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Anonymous

should a guy pay for things on the first date ?

I feel it should be equal between guy and girl, unless one as offered to pay or for some other financial reason.

Reply 2

mrteacher

1

yeah he should. but you should offer to pay as well :biggrin:

you know, keeping up with appearances. you should buy on the second date. u dont want him thinking you are cheap. or thinking that " i pay thus i deserve sex". sorry but why are you posting anon for this ?? it's nothing embarassing

Reply 3

ciara

13

I would never expect a guy to, no. Some girls love it but I'm more of a 50/50 girl myself. When you're going out it's nice for the guy to pay occasionally (and vice versa) but on a first date it's just a bit awkward.

Reply 4

Whizz

1

If he asked you, he should pay. If you asked him, you should pay. After that go halves.

If he does end up paying however, offer to pay for something else i.e. drinks/ cab fare. It's only polite.

Reply 5

Mark S

17

Tradtionally they should pay for everything on dates, right?

Reply 6

Talon

18

I payed on my last "first date"..I think...well actually that was a movie round my house...cant remember the first thing I payed for this time round...but it was probably the cinema and it was probably me who payed. Lol. Was over 6 months ago :smile:

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Markus

Tradtionally they should pay for everything on dates, right?

I think it should be a a case of whoever does the asking pays, (or halves). Its not really fair on the poor guy if the girls asks a guy to go somewhere with her then expects him to pay for both of them...lol.

Reply 7

ebonyphoenix

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I don't think there is ever going to be a general consensus about this question; everyone has a different opinion! Good luck trying to find the magical solution of what you should do because it is so unclear to me. And this thread hasn't really reaffirmed much except the general state of confusion. Haha... one of the great mysteries of life I guess.... who should pay and how much on a date?

half half for me.

Talon

I payed on my last "first date"..I think...well actually that was a movie round my house...cant remember the first thing I payed for this time round...but it was probably the cinema and it was probably me who payed. Lol. Was over 6 months ago :smile:

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I think it should be a a case of whoever does the asking pays, (or halves). Its not really fair on the poor guy if the girls asks a guy to go somewhere with her then expects him to pay for both of them...lol.

, no thats true enough. then again its traditional for the guy to ask i thought

Reply 10

Mark S

17

Or if you were in a restaurant you could do a runner, be something to laugh about after the meal anyway.

Reply 11

Invocation

12

yes defo. have some manners dude. but after the first date its anyones call to pay

Reply 12

Helenia

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Markus

, no thats true enough. then again its traditional for the guy to ask i thought

There are lots of things which are traditional which aren't done so much any more. Anyone can ask anyone out, and as women and men are more likely to be on similar incomes nowadays, the thought of a girl paying is not so awful.

I tend to split half and half on meals and stuff.

Reply 13

dyslexic_banana

1

Generally speaking, surely it should be 50/50? What's so complicated about that?

Talon

I think it should be a a case of whoever does the asking pays, (or halves).

Hmmmm, that doesn't favour one gender too much.........

Reply 14

Mark S

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Helenia

There are lots of things which are traditional which aren't done so much any more. Anyone can ask anyone out, and as women and men are more likely to be on similar incomes nowadays, the thought of a girl paying is not so awful.

I tend to split half and half on meals and stuff.

I know that Helenia, but maybe im just a traditional sort of guy.

Reply 15

Dj Nastie

Anonymous

should a guy pay for things on the first date ?

change that to: should a 'pansy' pay for everything on a first date? why the anonymous?

Reply 16

norelle

5

I would never expect a man to pay for everything, first date or not. If he insists then of course I'm not going to say no, but I would always always offer to go halves at least. And if he did pay for everything, I'd say "my turn next time" and actually stick to it.

Reply 17

Sir Joe

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i think at "student age" when we're all relatively skint it should generally be halves. Of course, if the girl is like part time jobless, but wants to come out, i may offer to pay for us both, but on the whole i'd feel abit put off paying for a girl that isn't even my girlfriend yet. If she feels paying her halve isn't worth it for my company, then i dont really want to see her!

Sure you can argue its oldskool traditional for the gentleman to pay, but then i could argue in the same way stating its tradition for woman to stay home and do the cleaning cooking! But of course i don't, because i'm with the times!

Reply 18

scutt

1

I'd pay on a first date.. but if i was *expected* to pay on the first date, it'd probably be the only one.

Reply 19

pendragon

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Anonymous

should a guy pay for things on the first date ?

You should assume that you will go half half. If he tries to pay say youd prefer to go half half, but if he is really insistent you can let him if you want - some guys are a bit old fassioned and dont mean it in an offensive way. Took ages before my girlfriend let me pay for things for her.

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