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The potential to rape

My friend has liked me for quite a few years, and when we (as a group of friends) get drunk and then crash round someone's house, he uses it as an opportunity to take photos and touch me while i'm asleep. Once when i spoke to him about this he says he doesnt remember :confused:

and im not sure whether to believe him.

But my real question is do you think he'd take it any further?? :frown:

Reply 1

Segat1

16

Surely there is photographic evidence that he does this? What a creep - stay away from him and exclude him from the group.

Reply 2

bluedreamer

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Anonymous

he uses it as an opportunity to take photos and touch me while i'm asleep.

How did you know this if you were asleep?

Honestly, if I were in your position, I would be very worried :frown:

I really hope you’re careful around him.

Reply 3

tbm

13

If he is doing this then you should stay clear of him, and try not to put yourself in situations where you know he might take the opportunity to do something i.e.- perhaps sleep somewhere different where you know he wont be, or go home after nights out.

Reply 4

starya

That sounds very creepy. I personally would find any such behaviour quite odd and scary. Chances are if he's just a nice guy but slightly weird he might not do anything else. But you can't know for sure and there's nothing to guarantee he won't do anything so you'd better be careful.

And touching you? Without going into too much detail, how exactly? Isn't that in itself enough to give you reason to think he might take it further?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

segat1

Surely there is photographic evidence that he does this? What a creep - stay away from him and exclude him from the group.

I'd love to obviously, but its quite a complicated group, and because he denies it totally, not everyone is aware of just what he's doing. :frown:

Reply 6

~the_one~

1

I have a friend like that in my friendship group, who uses any oppertunity to pull/shag anyone. I am really uncomfortable around him, and i know if i drink too much he'll try it on. I think you should just stay away from him. Still go out with your friends but dont stay that near him, or flirt with him in anyway - he might take it as a pass to try in on with you when your asleep or something. I dont really know what you can do about it though, you cant exactly stay up all night, you'll be knackered. In the night if he trys anything, scream. I'm not joking - you'll wake up your friends and you'll totally embaress him, and expose him, he might not try it again.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks "the one" i think thats what i need to do, if he does it again, i need to alert other people to what he's doing, then it won't just be my word against his. I dont think he realises that what he's doing is actually wrong. :frown:

Reply 8

username47781

20

Stay away, this guy will try and take advantage of you whenever your drunk.

Reply 9

Talon

18

Anonymous

My friend has liked me for quite a few years, and when we (as a group of friends) get drunk and then crash round someone's house, he uses it as an opportunity to take photos and touch me while i'm asleep. Once when i spoke to him about this he says he doesnt remember :confused:

and im not sure whether to believe him.

Just to be clear, how do you know he did it if you were asleep?

Reply 10

RobbieC

15

Also, might be his lack of control due to inebriation, not that that is a defense... because people who get that way shouldn't drink in excess, whatsoever. Or he could be touching you while he's asleep, as a subconscious thing, which is less his fault.

Either way you just need to avoid being near to him, and see if he makes an effort to do this to you. And maybe next time he's doing it, touch him back (with a swift slap to the hand) before alerting the others in the room.

This is going to come to a head somehow, and you should have some kind of backing when it does if you can, seeing him out of position might make your other friends see the light, as it were.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Talon

Just to be clear, how do you know he did it if you were asleep?

When i kinda woke up, i saw what he was doing and got up and moved somewhere else. :frown:

Reply 12

Talon

18

Fair enough. Id stay as far away from him as possible. Sick pervert...

Sleep with a digital camera with a charged up flash...then if you wake up and hes there...snap. You can show your friends instantly.

Reply 13

Jelkin

17

He sounds revolting. I seriously doubt that he doesn't remember, unless he was -that- drunk, and even then that doesn't make it any better. Would your other friends believe you?

Reply 14

mrteacher

1

hm... is he of the same seX?

Reply 15

enigma2506

My word, that guy sounds bloody dangerous, is it really worth even hanging around with that group of people if he's there? And in all honesty how can you call him a friend???? A true friend wouldnt do that.