Judging people with STDs

Poll

What do you think of someone with an STD?

Stupid (didn't use protection)Slut (sleeps around)Don't think any differently

saz_1989

I am just wondering (after watching the episode of Lost where Jack quizzes Sawyer)... If you find out that someone has or has had an STD, do you judge them or see them differently?

I always used to associate it with people too stupid to use a condom, or total sluts, but then a friend of mine was cheated on and caught it from her ex (ok, he was a stupid slut to be fair!).

What do you think?

Edit: How do you judge them differently if you do?

Reply 1

Big Fat Mel

Makky_Legend has had many VDs and may be more qualified than I to suggest what being judged is like. I believe that people with STDs are people too, as my sentence implies. Just because they might have had sex with a drugged up ho or been inebriated at the time doesn't make them worse people.

Reply 2

username39618

Violent drunkards? nay, not I

Reply 3

Big Fat Mel

It's not alright to be ashamed of who you are, stand up and be counted, or recognised. That is all :tsr2:

Reply 4

hitmanuk2k

Firebird

do you judge them or see them differently?

Of course you do. But you can judge someone differently on many things. If you found out someone cheated on a past partner, you'd judge them differently. If you found out they killed a dog, you'd judge them differently. So yes, of course, if you found out they had had an STD, yes you'd judge them differently.

Reply 5

bluedreamer

It’s not my place to judge.

What they do in their personal lives is their business. I only judge if someone waves it around my face. That doesn’t sound right :/

Reply 6

banksy

Whores. Although admittedly that is rather attractive,

Reply 7

lostinfantasies

It depends on the situation, completely. I mean, a girl may have lost her virginity to a guy who slept around and happens to have an STD (either without telling her or without knowing), and vice versa.

Though if there was someone I knew who slept around a LOT (for the intent of having *sex*) and I found out they'd have an STD, I imagine I'd be a bit judgmental. I'd think slightly that it would be their own fault for carrying on with several people, and hope that it would be a lesson for them to learn.

Reply 8

Helenia

I don't think I'd automatically think they were a slut (male or female) but I'd definitely think they were a bit dumb. As Firebird says though, it may not have been their fault.

Reply 9

Mark S

May have no been their fault, and it depends who gave it to you, your long term gf could have been sleeping around and got it, and if shes on the pill you wouldnt need to worry about a rubber.

Depends solely on the situation whether it makes you a slut or not.

Reply 10

Sorani

I don't think I would judge someone with an STD that differently, if I knew that they had it just because they'd acted like a slut and just thought that sleeping around without protection was okay then it would bother me - especially since they could've infected someone else.
But if I didn't know the reason I wouldn't judge in case they'd contracted it through something like rape which of course means it wasn't at all their fault.

Reply 11

lil_sweetie

I don't think I'd even consider judging them differently - contraception doesn't always work. I try not to judge people on stuff like that - it may not have been their fault.

Reply 12

Esquire

Blatant sexual deviant. Why is there not an option for a stupid whore?

Reply 13

Ariel4

I think it would depend on the circumstances. if they had caught it from a random, and they slept around without using protection, then i would probably think less of them. if they had caught it from a partner who they were in a long term relationship with, and were on the pill, or were a guy and knew their girlfriend was on the pill, but their girl/boyfriend had cheated, then i wouldnt think any less of them.

Reply 14

strange

hm, it's difficult. condoms don't protect you from all STDs (they don't protect you from herpes or genital warts) and they don't always protect you from the STDs that they normally protect you from. So, it could just be bad luck.

Then you've got oral sex, even if you've been with someone for a while and aren't promiscuos (sp?) you can get an STD :s-smilie:

It's not really fair to be judgemental, unless you know it's someone who never uses protection, then it's ok to point and lauch... unless it's HIV or herpes :eek: