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Anyone feel the same way?

I'm in my last year at school, and recently I've just lost all interest in absolutely everything. I used to enjoy the subjects I take and find them really interesting, but now I feel just completely indifferent. I wander around half-asleep, just going to classes, chatting, eating and generally functioning on auto-pilot - I can't get worked up about anything any more, whether positive or negative. There's been a huge scandal in my school recently, and I've felt completely out on a limb and dispassionate about the whole thing, whereas in the past I would be as shocked and gossipy as anyone else.

I've got to the stage where the thing in my life I look forward to the most is going to bed at the end of the day, where I can just black out and forget about existence. The best is when I dream, as it's interesting and new. Everything around me in reality has been just the same since five years ago, when I first started at my current school - the same teachers are telling me off or returning homework to me as the day that I arrived, the same friends are teasing and chatting to me, the same enemies try to wind me up, the same school appears in front of me when I go to classes every day. Nothing ever changes, and I just feel as though every day passes just the same as the day before, and I know that tomorrow too will be identical to today.

I've even lost interest in guys or in going out with friends at weekends, which used to be the driving force in my life. Nowadays, the prospect of seeing the same people and going through the same routines just bores me - I've become completely apathetic about it. Two of my friends have recently started going out with new boyfriends, and I would normally either feel really happy for them or jealous, but I just can't work myself up to feel anything.

It's completely as though I'm dead on the inside - I have no energy for anything. I constantly feel as though I'm on the brink of tears, but I can never quite cry, which I hate, as at least then I could maybe get rid of this emptiness. None of my friends appear to feel the same way, and I don't know how to talk to them about it - it's too complex and I know that they would never just sit and let me explain all of this - it's always the other way around and I'm the shoulder for them to cry on. The worst bit is that I've started seriously comfort eating, and now I just can't get the willpower to stop, which I really need to, as I've put on almost a stone and a half in about 6 weeks.

I'm sorry about the really long post, but I was wondering if anyone has ever felt the same way, or can give me advice on what to do?

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sometimes i feel like that so your not alone.... i feel like im going in a direction which im not sure i want to go in but i stick with it anyways... its sad but its life, try and think of positive things!
i am a bit older then you, but i can relate to your feelings-i think its because you are reaching the natural end of this part of your life and this routine no longer appeals to you. you didnt say what you had planned, but try to look forward to this. i felt this both in yr11 and at the end of sixth form and it is natural but just keep going. as for the comfort eating-most of us do some form of this during the winter-just try to keep active and treat yourself when you resist that temptation.
i hated sixth form!
Reply 4
I can categorically say, sixth form has been the worst two years of my life. And the biggest waste of money of my parents. I would've been far happier at the local college :frown:
I didn't have a happy time at school especially when i got to Year 11 i lost interest in everything, the school was rubbish as well.
Reply 6
Anonymous
I'm in my last year at school, and recently I've just lost all interest in absolutely everything. I used to enjoy the subjects I take and find them really interesting, but now I feel just completely indifferent. I wander around half-asleep, just going to classes, chatting, eating and generally functioning on auto-pilot - I can't get worked up about anything any more, whether positive or negative. There's been a huge scandal in my school recently, and I've felt completely out on a limb and dispassionate about the whole thing, whereas in the past I would be as shocked and gossipy as anyone else.

I've got to the stage where the thing in my life I look forward to the most is going to bed at the end of the day, where I can just black out and forget about existence. The best is when I dream, as it's interesting and new. Everything around me in reality has been just the same since five years ago, when I first started at my current school - the same teachers are telling me off or returning homework to me as the day that I arrived, the same friends are teasing and chatting to me, the same enemies try to wind me up, the same school appears in front of me when I go to classes every day. Nothing ever changes, and I just feel as though every day passes just the same as the day before, and I know that tomorrow too will be identical to today.

I've even lost interest in guys or in going out with friends at weekends, which used to be the driving force in my life. Nowadays, the prospect of seeing the same people and going through the same routines just bores me - I've become completely apathetic about it. Two of my friends have recently started going out with new boyfriends, and I would normally either feel really happy for them or jealous, but I just can't work myself up to feel anything.

It's completely as though I'm dead on the inside - I have no energy for anything. I constantly feel as though I'm on the brink of tears, but I can never quite cry, which I hate, as at least then I could maybe get rid of this emptiness. None of my friends appear to feel the same way, and I don't know how to talk to them about it - it's too complex and I know that they would never just sit and let me explain all of this - it's always the other way around and I'm the shoulder for them to cry on. The worst bit is that I've started seriously comfort eating, and now I just can't get the willpower to stop, which I really need to, as I've put on almost a stone and a half in about 6 weeks.

I'm sorry about the really long post, but I was wondering if anyone has ever felt the same way, or can give me advice on what to do?


i know what you mean, i used to feel like this all the time in year 10/11.
it's really horrible to feel like this, i sometimes still do; however you've gotta find some way that you can get out of this or it won't stop! do you do any sport? maybe you could try something new, i know it may seem really hard to just try, but you really need to! make sure you dont spend too much time doing stuff that wont really help (e.g. tv, computer, etc..)
find something your friends would like to try aswell, as this'll help, but basically get out of your comfort zone! :smile:
can totally relate
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Anonymous
I'm in my last year at school, and recently I've just lost all interest in absolutely everything. I used to enjoy the subjects I take and find them really interesting, but now I feel just completely indifferent. I wander around half-asleep, just going to classes, chatting, eating and generally functioning on auto-pilot - I can't get worked up about anything any more, whether positive or negative



Mate, i am exactly the same. Its got so bad now that my head of year has arranged a meeting with my parents and I to discuss why ive been letting my work go and why ive got to lazy all of a sudden. I just dont care anymore.

All i want to do it go and have a good time.
hey chick i no wot ur feeling.im the exact same. a couple of weeks ago i just broke down and was goin 2 leave school and i only have 3 months left till my alevels r over. i just sat and cried 1 nite and mum and dad talked 2 me etc said it was my choice.they didnt get me up 4 skul the next day and i contimplated not goin in, but then i thought if i didnt go in that day i wudnt go bak 2 skool.so i took the morning off and went in a lil l8.told form teacher i wasnt feeling well cuz she cud quite obv see id been crying.then my mum works inthe skool so she told form teacher wot was goin on, and she called me in2 her office and had words with me..basically all i wanted 2 do was sleep, and have dun no work this year wot so ever.was just really dwn.my teacher told me i sounded depressed, and not lazy like i thought,i worked so hard last year that id just lost interest this year.she refered me 2 the school councillor who listened 2 me moanin 4 about an hour and do u no wot-it all made sense everythin she said. I reallised i dnt wana go 2 uni straight away, the only reason i felt like this was so i wasnt letting my 'rents dwn, and that it was my choice. I also realised i wasnt getting any help or confidence boosts from any1, nun of my teachers were pushing me and getting me excited about everythin and i was just goin throught the motions. but then i relaised its such a waste of 2 years if i didnt finish and finish 2 my best ability.in saying this im still not doing work in skool bt if i get really behind ill take a day off and catch up at home-its not the end of the world.so chick no matter how bad u feel itll get better. im a procrastinator and the concillor told me 2 work at my own pace and take time 4 me-wen i do sumthing i enjoy.so i decided 2 help me unwind ill take the weekend and a thursday nite 2 go out with friends and do work bits and pieces during the week.and that its not the end of the world if u dnt go 2 uni or fulfil wot ppl want u 2.its aslong as ur happy theres nothing to worry about. You'll get over this feeling i promise, i was down but tell ur friends how u were feeling and i promise it helps loads and loads!!im much happier now, becuase i get encouragement form my friends now-and we all help each other out.!!hope u feel better soon chick x
Reply 10
I know EXACTLY how you feel.
Reply 11
Since the beginning of sixth form i have feel exactly the same...

I'm bored of the same people, same routine, and i to have stopped going out with my friends, everythings become so dull and monotimus (sp?), my bed is my haven, and dreams are pure ecapism.

I think its just that time of life were you want to move on with life, although it seems like you'll be at 6th form forever, you wont.

Dead on the inside is EXACTLY how i feel, i feel like i dont have time to enjoy myself how i would want, as i'm so exhasted i just sleep watch videos whenever i do get any free time.

I dont really know what do say but, soon school will be over.
Reply 12
School blows now.
Markus Angelsdaughter
School blows now.


Says it all really.
Reply 14
The Mudman
Says it all really.


We could go on the dole, spend our dole money at the pub, get fat, smell of BO and order a family bucket for one in the evenings.

Bliss.
Markus Angelsdaughter
We could go on the dole, spend our dole money at the pub, get fat, smell of BO and order a family bucket for one in the evenings.

Bliss.


........ Or not. :biggrin:
Reply 16
The Mudman
........ Or not. :biggrin:


Right now it beats school, keith from eastenders style all the way baby.
Reply 17
I'm feeling the same way at the moment. Throughout my life at school I've never been that popular or anything, but I've always just gone along knowing it'll get better, and it has, especially in the last two years. But now everythings kind of stopped moving forwards, and I know the next big step will be when I get to uni. I havn't got a girlfriend, and all the girls I'm interested in are either out of my league, or just think of me as a really good friend, so I know I'm probably not gonna get one till I go to uni. I also feel like all the work I'm doing is just to get into uni, rather than because I actually enjoy it.
Basically, I have no motivation to try in any aspect of my life, and I'm afraid it's gonna lead to me failing all my exams. If only something new/exciting would happen, it would inspisre me and get me out of the rut my life seems to be in.
Reply 18
I'm soooooooo ready for the 8th July - leaving school is going to be the best feeling imaginable. I want to meet new people and go somewhere that isn't Andover or London! Meh... I'm already counting down the days...
I know how you feel. I have the same feeling - going to school is such an effort nowadays, what with university coming up. I hate going in and seeing the same people day in, day out. Their idiocy keeps them occupied, but I actually pity how pathetic these people are. I can't wait to get away from them - there are people outside of my school that I get on with IRL, but I'm just counting down the days until it is all over.