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    I've got a levels at the moment, i'm taking 3 one of which is art (the others politics and english so i've got a lot of work) and an as level in french - i'm really behind. I've been working at a really horrible depressing place since october doing roughly 12 hours a week or more spread over three days. My boyfriends at uni and it's really really horrible not being with him, also i think he's changing but this is inevitable - i might be really paranoid. My friends at school don't really "get me" i think and they can be quite negative and swear a lot etc which i think might be rubbing off on me. My boyfriend is my best friend. I can't think of anything else that is wrong. I've just quit my job, because i hate it and the boss was so mean and now i can get on with school work, but i haven't got a nother job so i don't have as much money. Hopefully not having to go to work will start to make a difference so i have more time to do schoolwork, im not as tired and i'm less stressed out. However, i'm really unhappy at the moment and i don't know what to do about it. The main problem is i'm taking it out on my boyfriend (who i have been with for nearly a year and a half now) and i really can't stop, im turning paranoid and posessive as well and i get jealous really easily I worry all the time he's going to break up with me or get bored or find someone else. I want him to love the time he has with me, i know i'm doing wrong. We keep having horrible arguments and i'm always on his back, we have talked about it and he says it's ok, but even though i believe that we will never split, we've come pretty close recently. My mum calls him a saint, he has to put up with me, i wouldnt be able to do it. I never used to be like this. Last year i was as happy as anything. Please help me, i can't lose my boyfriend, i'm scared i'm pushing him away i love him so much and he means more to me than anything in this world. Please please tell me what you think i should do, im getting desperate, i think it's stress that's making me like this, but i can't keep using that as excuse. I want to be back to normal.

    Im really sorry about the long post,
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    What was the point of that?
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    I've got a levels at the moment, i'm taking 3 one of which is art (the others politics and english so i've got a lot of work) and an as level in french - i'm really behind. I've been working at a really horrible depressing place since october doing roughly 12 hours a week or more spread over three days. My boyfriends at uni and it's really really horrible not being with him, also i think he's changing but this is inevitable - i might be really paranoid. My friends at school don't really "get me" i think and they can be quite negative and swear a lot etc which i think might be rubbing off on me. My boyfriend is my best friend. I can't think of anything else that is wrong. I've just quit my job, because i hate it and the boss was so mean and now i can get on with school work, but i haven't got a nother job so i don't have as much money. Hopefully not having to go to work will start to make a difference so i have more time to do schoolwork, im not as tired and i'm less stressed out. However, i'm really unhappy at the moment and i don't know what to do about it. The main problem is i'm taking it out on my boyfriend (who i have been with for nearly a year and a half now) and i really can't stop, im turning paranoid and posessive as well and i get jealous really easily I worry all the time he's going to break up with me or get bored or find someone else. I want him to love the time he has with me, i know i'm doing wrong. We keep having horrible arguments and i'm always on his back, we have talked about it and he says it's ok, but even though i believe that we will never split, we've come pretty close recently. My mum calls him a saint, he has to put up with me, i wouldnt be able to do it. I never used to be like this. Last year i was as happy as anything. Please help me, i can't lose my boyfriend, i'm scared i'm pushing him away i love him so much and he means more to me than anything in this world. Please please tell me what you think i should do, im getting desperate, i think it's stress that's making me like this, but i can't keep using that as excuse. I want to be back to normal.

    Im really sorry about the long post,
    thank you so much for your help

    xxxx
    I really think you need to talk with your boyfriend and tell him whats happening, if only you had the time to see him it would be so much better in person, but you need to tell him your stressed and having problems if he is the saint your mom says he is then he will listen and try to help, , your education comes first don't worry about getting another job for the minute.

    can any1 actually post a helpful reply. this person has obviously poured her heart out and is unhappy, so the least we can do is to attempt to help her. All I can say is i know things are hard at the moment but keep going and things will improve-talk to someone neutral, getting it of your chest could help. take care x
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    can any1 actually post a helpful reply. this person has obviously poured her heart out and is unhappy, so the least we can do is to attempt to help her. All I can say is i know things are hard at the moment but keep going and things will improve-talk to someone neutral, getting it of your chest could help. take care x
    What you think i was trying to do just then
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    hey chick i no wot ur feeling.im the exact same. a couple of weeks ago i just broke down and was goin 2 leave school and i only have 3 months left till my alevels r over. i just sat and cried 1 nite and mum and dad talked 2 me etc said it was my choice.they didnt get me up 4 skul the next day and i contimplated not goin in, but then i thought if i didnt go in that day i wudnt go bak 2 skool.so i took the morning off and went in a lil l8.told form teacher i wasnt feeling well cuz she cud quite obv see id been crying.then my mum works inthe skool so she told form teacher wot was goin on, and she called me in2 her office and had words with me..basically all i wanted 2 do was sleep, and have dun no work this year wot so ever.was just really dwn.my teacher told me i sounded depressed, and not lazy like i thought,i worked so hard last year that id just lost interest this year.she refered me 2 the school councillor who listened 2 me moanin 4 about an hour and do u no wot-it all made sense everythin she said. I reallised i dnt wana go 2 uni straight away, the only reason i felt like this was so i wasnt letting my 'rents dwn, and that it was my choice. I also realised i wasnt getting any help or confidence boosts from any1, nun of my teachers were pushing me and getting me excited about everythin and i was just goin throught the motions. but then i relaised its such a waste of 2 years if i didnt finish and finish 2 my best ability.in saying this im still not doing work in skool bt if i get really behind ill take a day off and catch up at home-its not the end of the world.so chick no matter how bad u feel itll get better. im a procrastinator and the concillor told me 2 work at my own pace and take time 4 me-wen i do sumthing i enjoy.so i decided 2 help me unwind ill take the weekend and a thursday nite 2 go out with friends and do work bits and pieces during the week.and that its not the end of the world if u dnt go 2 uni or fulfil wot ppl want u 2.its aslong as ur happy theres nothing to worry about. You'll get over this feeling i promise, i was down but tell ur friends how u were feeling and i promise it helps loads and loads!!im much happier now, becuase i get encouragement form my friends now-and we all help each other out.!!hope u feel better soon chick x
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    Lol - kiwi you just wrote exactly all that in another thread.

    God, no-one's happy now are they? Keep your chin up m'dear - think about it, sixth form is almost over, just keep going for another couple of months and then we're free. As for the boyfriend, it's natural that he should change a bit, as he's in a new environment so he'll mature to it, but you should definitely talk it over with him again if he's changing into something you can't see youreself happy being with. If he loves you, he should respect that and make an effort to be who he once was. Either that, or maybe a temporary break up, just to give you both time to be at the same level again, would work. That sounds really harsh I know, but it might be for the best.

    Cheer up! Think about it, it could be a lot worse, imagine having to re-do all of years 7 -11 all over again :eek:
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    What was the point of that?
    She's unhappy, yes? I was trying to make her smile by telling her a joke. So hop off. Chump..
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    She's unhappy, yes? I was trieing to make her smile by telling her a joke. So hop off. Chump..
    You spelt 'trying' wrong.
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    You spelt 'trying' wrong.
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    :yy:. Thats what too much Nandos Extra Hot Chilli Sauce does to you.
    What, turns you illiterate? I should try that sometime.
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    Thank you everyone for your help. I'm just panicking and getting scared. The most important things to me are getting my grades and being with my boyfriend. I just have to get my head down. I've worked hard at school all my life, and got good as level results, it's just really depressing that this is the year that counts and im feeling like this and letting it all go to waste. xxx
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    Do you think i need councilling of some description? It seems a lot of people on here are feeling the same way at the moment. xxx
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    She's unhappy, yes? I was trying to make her smile by telling her a joke. So hop off. Chump..
    I don't think that was the right time to joke.
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    Do you think i need councilling of some description? It seems a lot of people on here are feeling the same way at the moment. xxx
    Try talking to your GP. I'm currently studying 3 A2's and 1 AS and I felt like I couldn't cope with college work and life so I went to the GP. I was referred to a mental health advisor, as I was only diagnosed with OCD at the time. When I went back last week I told her that I felt really unhappy with everything. It turned out that I have depression and I shall be prescribed medication. But GP's can refer you to counsellors, therapists, etc.

    This time of year, when it's coming up to exams, can be really stressful, as I found last year, and your behaviour can change due to stress. So try not to worry, you could be prefectly fine
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    Do you think i need councilling of some description? It seems a lot of people on here are feeling the same way at the moment. xxx
    Try talking to your GP. I'm currently studying 3 A2's and 1 AS and I felt like I couldn't cope with college work and life so I went to the GP. I was referred to a mental health advisor, as I was only diagnosed with OCD at the time. When I went back last week I told her that I felt really unhappy with everything. It turned out that I have depression and I shall be prescribed medication and I have to have 'cognitive behavioural therapy... But GP's can refer you to counsellors, therapists, etc.

    This time of year, when it's coming up to exams, can be really stressful, as I found last year, and your behaviour can change due to stress. So try not to worry, you could be prefectly fine
 
 
 
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