Getting over a break up

How do you get over someone you didn't really want to leave. In my case, I had to because of university and now it's killing me. but most of all it's killing me because of the way I'm making my boyfriend feel.

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Anonymous #2

Write all the negative things about them and post them somewhere you can easily see.

Reply 2

glisten

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It will probably take a few weeks, it depends how much you cared for your ex bf really.

I just broke up with my boyfriend. To be honest it hasn't affected me much because I've broke up with him 2 times in the last month. Those 2 previous times hurt more, I loved him but he messed me around. I'm not getting back with him under any circumstances now at all, he had his 3 chances and I can do better anyway. He's really immature, acts like a kid, dropped out of uni, has no job and has no money. Has no prospects in life. He used to walk off from me in the street and run away if he couldn’t have his own way or I’d said something he didn’t like. Also, he's told me he's going to play the game now, in other words be a male slag. That’s something I'm against really due to my morals.

Anyway, time heals, so I guess what you could do is focus on having a good time with your friends. That will take your mind off it.

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El Scotto

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Anonymous

How do you get over someone you didn't really want to leave. In my case, I had to because of university and now it's killing me. but most of all it's killing me because of the way I'm making my boyfriend feel.

you should try being single and stop giving your boyfriend grief because you're still into someone else.

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Agrippina

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Anonymous

How do you get over someone you didn't really want to leave. In my case, I had to because of university and now it's killing me. but most of all it's killing me because of the way I'm making my boyfriend feel.

Why did you *have* to just because of university? Tbh, if you felt compelled to break up with him simply because you were going to university, your relationship obviously wouldn't have lasted the miles anyway and you're better off without him.

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username47781

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Why break up with him if you love him that much, seriously you just want a way out is that why? Relationships do survive Uni.

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ellewoods

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Carl1982

Why break up with him if you love him that much, seriously you just want a way out is that why? Relationships do survive Uni.

Absolutely. Mine might not have survived 4 years so far without uni for all I know - I moved back home a year ago and commute now, but those 2 years apart when I lived away have showed us how much we missed each other and valued each others' company, and now we are so aware of making the most of each other and appreciating each other. :smile:

On the other hand, if you did really want to break up, consciously or not, and you now feel bad about it, which is understandably, just stay away from him and give yourself time.
Sometimes breaking up is hard to do :rolleyes:

(sorry someone had to say it!! :p:

) and its an old cliche but the only thing that makes it better is time.

Short term, try red wine drinking, shoe buying, yoga doing, focusing on uni and getting involved in as many activities as possible so you dont have time to mull over things.

You'll be ok eventually, promise. :wink:

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strawberry

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Anonymous

How do you get over someone you didn't really want to leave. In my case, I had to because of university and now it's killing me. but most of all it's killing me because of the way I'm making my boyfriend feel.

that happened to me too...only that it was because of the distance. but now, I can't be bothered because he's been treating me like crap. Just think of the bad times (if you guys had any) and think of all the details of that happening. Diminish the good times. :smile:

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Anonymous #1

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Carl1982

Why break up with him if you love him that much, seriously you just want a way out is that why? Relationships do survive Uni.

Do they survive four year of uni in the United States. He said if I don't stay there, he can't be with me. He said if we don't have a romantic relationship, we don't have any relationship. It's just we lead different lives. He never went to college and I plan on obtaining a Ph. D. It was just really hard for me to say, yes my career means a lot and if you can't wait for me, which I wouldn't expec him to, then we shouldn't be.

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Agrippina

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Anonymous

Do they survive four year of uni in the United States. He said if I don't stay there, he can't be with me. He said if we don't have a romantic relationship, we don't have any relationship. It's just we lead different lives. He never went to college and I plan on obtaining a Ph. D. It was just really hard for me to say, yes my career means a lot and if you can't wait for me, which I wouldn't expec him to, then we shouldn't be.

So it was him who broke up with you then, not the other way round as you initially said?

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Anonymous #3

I'd say it's mostly difficult when the person who breaks up with you is totally "out of your league" from an outsider's point of view: when you know that it's unlikely you'll ever meet someone you're as immediately attracted to.

If that's not the case, you can just say: plenty more fish in the sea. What sucks, is when people tell you that and it is the case: you're never going to meet someone as amazing as the person you were with before :frown:

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XavierTroy

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Have you tried Haagen Daz strawberry cheesecake icecream... maybe chocolate brownie Ben and Jerries?

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