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is it normal to not enjoy penetration

i dont enjoy being penetrated by a guy, even though i like the thought of it and think about it when he masterbates me , but when it actually happens i dont enjoy it. ....ive heard its quite common to not orgasm from it, but i thought girls are usually screaming with pleasure when their being penetrated?
but it doesnt really touch the clit, so why would it feel good?

for it me it sometimes hurts, sometimes it doesnt hurt but makes me feel i need a pee, or just feels like a physical act he is getting pleasure out of and im just lying their like a lemon
I don't think I can answer all of your questions without giving "sex tips" but...

First, the majority of women can't orgasm from penetration alone, They need to have clitoral stimulation as well... the screaming with pleasure idea you have is really an exaggerated idea from porn and movies.
The needing to pee feeling is probably him stimulating your g spot, if he keeps doing that at the right pressure and speed you might orgasm
If it hurts, is it because you're not wet enough... try some lube... also if you are using condoms, you could be sensitive to latex which can make it uncomfortable...
Communicate with him!! don't expect him to just KNOW what to do, TELL him.
Also... lying there like a lemon?? you know there are plenty of different positions that stimulate different areas... try them
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Original post by Kabloomybuzz
I don't think I can answer all of your questions without giving "sex tips" but...

First, the majority of women can't orgasm from penetration alone, They need to have clitoral stimulation as well... the screaming with pleasure idea you have is really an exaggerated idea from porn and movies.
The needing to pee feeling is probably him stimulating your g spot, if he keeps doing that at the right pressure and speed you might orgasm
If it hurts, is it because you're not wet enough... try some lube... also if you are using condoms, you could be sensitive to latex which can make it uncomfortable...
Communicate with him!! don't expect him to just KNOW what to do, TELL him.
Also... lying there like a lemon?? you know there are plenty of different positions that stimulate different areas... try them


porn might be exagerated but even just hearing my housemates have sex through the paper thin walls, it is like they are getting a lot of pleasure from it....i dont think its stimulating my g spot i think its just puttting pressure on my bladder....any way what positions are supposed to feel goood for a girl?
Original post by Anonymous
porn might be exagerated but even just hearing my housemates have sex through the paper thin walls, it is like they are getting a lot of pleasure from it....i dont think its stimulating my g spot i think its just puttting pressure on my bladder....any way what positions are supposed to feel goood for a girl?


Depends on the girl
proper communication and foreplay is best
Girl I have the same feeling. I just feel the need to pee and that’s it. No pleasure. It does feel good with clitoral stimulation but that’s about it. I feel like there’s something wrong with me that I can’t feel anything...
Original post by Anonymous
i dont enjoy being penetrated by a guy, even though i like the thought of it and think about it when he masterbates me , but when it actually happens i dont enjoy it. ....ive heard its quite common to not orgasm from it, but i thought girls are usually screaming with pleasure when their being penetrated?
but it doesnt really touch the clit, so why would it feel good?
for it me it sometimes hurts, sometimes it doesnt hurt but makes me feel i need a pee, or just feels like a physical act he is getting pleasure out of and im just lying their like a lemon

Yes I think ALL women lie and pretend they orgasm from it. They want to please their partners which makes every other woman feel inadequate cos we tell the truth.
Original post by Anonymous
i dont enjoy being penetrated by a guy, even though i like the thought of it and think about it when he masterbates me , but when it actually happens i dont enjoy it. ....ive heard its quite common to not orgasm from it, but i thought girls are usually screaming with pleasure when their being penetrated?
but it doesnt really touch the clit, so why would it feel good?
for it me it sometimes hurts, sometimes it doesnt hurt but makes me feel i need a pee, or just feels like a physical act he is getting pleasure out of and im just lying their like a lemon

I don't enjoy it at all. And afterwards you worry about stds, utis, is the guy going to stick around? It's ridiculous. Now I get why women pretend they have headaches. It's just not worth the shower afterwards let alone all the stress.

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