Is this worth the hassle??

I'm planning on meeting up with a bloke I've met in a chatroom, for a drink and to see if we get on as well in person. We've exchanged fotos and like the look of each other, we text/talk on the fone too, but quite often we're really flirty &also very explicit, ifwe're both a bit horny. To get to each other by train would take 3 1/2 hrs. I'm not here for the summer cos I'm working Camp America, and as much as we've talked about how much we want each other (both knowing it depends on when we meet etc. if there's a spark, he knows I wouldn't actually sleep with him rite away) I don't know if it'd be worth it cos if anything comes of it it'd be so long distance. He seems really cool and we're on the same wavelength, he's looking for a relationship he says but I'm not going to be around for a couple of mths at least. So because of this if we meet I'm almost thinking, is there any point??Also, cos he knows this side of me, dunno if he just wants me for sex, cos deep down I don't want to lose my virginity in 1nighter. I'm really not naive and didn't set out to "meet someone" (and in a literal sense) but it's just kind of snowballed..I feel like I'd be a bitch if i backed out now (we haven't set a date yet.)I would have been leading him on if I do that to him, I thought I'd thought it through but I'm only really thinking more clearly now. Am I being really stupid? (I'm at university btw) Please be honest. Sorry, i know this is longwinded and quite odd

Reply 1

Bexxxx

Well, you seem to be having doubts, and you really shouldnt meet anyone off the net - for friendship, relationships, whatever - until you feel totally comfortable! But if you do want to meet him, and dont mind making the long trip, then go for it. Just make sure youre safe and dont do anything sexual unless you want to. You may not even like each other THAT much when you meet, but you'll only find out when you meet.

Reply 2

spider from mars

I know I probably don't need to say this - but it's a bad idea to go alone the first time you meet him.

Even if you were here for the summer, 3 1/2 hours away seems like a long distance relationship to me. Go and meet him, but just see what happens rather than having a plan.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

clockworkapples

..yeah and it's much much farther a distance from my home county, where obviously I am every holiday. Oh God, I'm so stupid...I'm actually a very sensible person, believe it or not, got a very active social life, go out loads and get chatted up etc., just not anyone my own age I like back!

Reply 4

Unregistered

i have to say, you dont seem particularly sensible in this-your actually thinking of meeting and possibly sleeping with someone whom you know nothing about, that is crazy! just be careful and think about what you are doing-not everyone in this world is as what they seem and you may live to regret this.