I Can't Stop Thinking About Her!

Its been 5 Months since we split officially but 3 motnhs were weve really limited the convos. The last 2 months we only used to chat on msn but since last week I decided enough is enough.
She left me 5 months back giving the reason of family and health issues.
Since then she showed me she still missed me and wanted me but couldnt.
3 Months she didnt bother telling me anything no more. We only had convos that would be based on - hi, hows life, whats new and bye.

She told me she would never love any 1 again nor go out with anyone.
Recently for a month shes some how got some self confidence that she didnt have throughout and before our relationship . Shes taken new pics, now into makeup and more confident about her self which is all well but shes started to chat to many guys and at first when I fouind out it was ok even thought she was that type of gal at first.
Recently shes started to have webcam convos wid guys and tell them how much she misses them and how much she thinks they are cute.
She spends her nights chatting to them and flirting about with them.

I mean yeah im jelous and hurt but only reason for this was the girl I met 3 years back was so innocent and then when we hooked up (a year and 3 months back) she was still that innocent girl.
Last week I found out she told another guy she would want to go out with him and I confronted her upon finding out. She denied it but I had proof she did so I just blocked and deleted her.

It just hurts soo much she messed me around. I would understand if she said we felt out but she clearly said it was down to family and she wouldnt go with any one.
Also past few months shes been telling my friends who she also knows how much she loves and misses me. The reason why my friends didnt tell me as she made them promise they wouldnt tell me as it owuld hurt me.
Only reason they did in the end was I thought she was going round to all these guys and flirting about with them (which she is).

I belive I have mooved on in allot ways, its just when I get home or have a moment or so to reflect my thoughts I keep thinking about her. What shes doing, how shes messing about with other guys etc.

I promissed her I wouldnt go with no girl again until she was fully over me and when I approached her last week she told me why do you even care if I did 'your over me'. I laughed and told her I am but what about you. She said that wasnt fair and she didnt have an answer.

I just dont want to care about her no more, I dont want to know what shes doing or if she does cheat on me. This pain and thinking I just want away.
What do I do?

Reply 1

pikaboo

To be fair she had split up with you and you can't expect her to never go out with another guy again, no matter what she said when she was feeling down. Looks like she's moved on, you need to do the same.

Reply 2

Dramatic Star

In all honesty, there is not much you can do. You split up a while ago now & things change- people grow apart. I know it may sound harsh but the best thing for you to do is try & detatch yourself emotionally as thinking of her as your (ex)girlfriend & start to see her more as a friend who will be there for her to give advice, have a laugh with, etc. She might still have feelings for you, but if she ended the relationship it was a for a reason. She's trying to move on & you need to do the same. It really is a painful thing to do but it's a lot less painful in the longrun.... :smile:

Reply 3

Ferrus

Forcibly purge yourself of all feeling for her, or practise stalking techniques.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Thing is its only the lies thats making me think of her. I mean normally I was fine but hearing her tell my mates one thing that she misses me and loves me and then going for other guys. Why would you do that. If shes over me then dont tell my friends your not. Its just confusing and hurtful.

Reply 5

Ferrus

Anonymous

I mean normally I was fine but hearing her tell my mates one thing that she misses me and loves me

She sounds like a manipulative bitch. You don't want anything to do with her. As I say, purge yourself of your feelings for her. It may not be easy, but it is essential.

Reply 6

SamTheMan

I'm the kind of person who finds it hard to get over people, whether I was simply attracted to them and nothing ever happened, or if something did happen...

But it gets boring after a while to think about a girl who clearly doesn't want to be with you. Some people say "just forget about her". I think all you can do is say how you feel. If they simply don't care, why bother?

If they prefer to go out with people who aren't as good as you then let them. It's their loss, not yours.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

I guess its taking foreva as she made out she was depressed and allot was gooing on her family throughout the 9 months. She made little thigns big and she used me as a point to help her and without fail I amde sure throguh all the times that she went through she was able to get through it.

I basically tried to make her a better person and see things better. I guess they are right when they say you cant change any 1. They have to be willing to change themselves. I was given an impression things did change and mayb towards the end it did as it was so much better but old habbits possibly came back?