Is it a bad thing if a girl calls you "dude"?

you're over analysising the situation: it means nothing.

Also, who uses the word 'dude' today?! the only time I hear that is on the re-runs of US 1980s TV series! seriously....

It's so unclassy and unattractive when a girl says "dude" or "mate" to a guy. It's almost as if the next thing she's going to suggest is an arm wrestle followed by a drinking competition and then is probably going to let off a huge fart.

Just wondering what people think: is it a bad thing if a girl calls you “dude”? (I’m a guy). I can’t seem to work it out, and it’s really bugging me. The female friends that I’ve asked just think I’m reading something into nothing, won’t answer me and don’t seem to be much help.

This girl, who I thought I was pretty close to (i.e. very, very, very good friend), could tell that I had something on my mind and she wanted me to talk to her about it, but I said, I don’t know whether we’re there yet (i.e. to start discussing heavy things - I find it difficult to trust new people) and she responded saying “I don’t know, dude”.

I can’t work out whether that’s a bad response or a good response. To me dude is a guy term, which a girl would to create distance. Someone suggested to me that she was trying to use a guy term to relate better to me. I can’t work out what she meant!!!???
Things have been really weird since this… we used to be in contact all the time, but we’ve hardly had any contact during the past couple of weeks. When we went out with our uni friends a couple of days after this happened, we talked at the beginning of the night, then basically ignored each other… usually it’s quite the opposite. And yesterday, at uni, we didn’t even attempt to acknowledge each other. I was with all our friends, and she was with someone else she hardly knows, but they live in the same halls, so they walked up together… but she didn’t even acknowledge or try to talk to any of us, when usually she’d be right there with us… probably next to me.

We used to be really good friends, but now I feel like it’s all gone to hell because of this… Was calling me dude a good or a bad thing, and any advice on how I can make things better?

I have to agree. "mate" especially really isnt a feminine type of word.

then she opens her mouth and out comes a "not too bad, mate" with an awfully rough accent... it's tragic.

Just wondering what people think: is it a bad thing if a girl calls you “dude”? (I’m a guy). I can’t seem to work it out, and it’s really bugging me. The female friends that I’ve asked just think I’m reading something into nothing, won’t answer me and don’t seem to be much help.

This girl, who I thought I was pretty close to (i.e. very, very, very good friend), could tell that I had something on my mind and she wanted me to talk to her about it, but I said, I don’t know whether we’re there yet (i.e. to start discussing heavy things - I find it difficult to trust new people) and she responded saying “I don’t know, dude”.

I can’t work out whether that’s a bad response or a good response. To me dude is a guy term, which a girl would to create distance. Someone suggested to me that she was trying to use a guy term to relate better to me. I can’t work out what she meant!!!???
Things have been really weird since this… we used to be in contact all the time, but we’ve hardly had any contact during the past couple of weeks. When we went out with our uni friends a couple of days after this happened, we talked at the beginning of the night, then basically ignored each other… usually it’s quite the opposite. And yesterday, at uni, we didn’t even attempt to acknowledge each other. I was with all our friends, and she was with someone else she hardly knows, but they live in the same halls, so they walked up together… but she didn’t even acknowledge or try to talk to any of us, when usually she’d be right there with us… probably next to me.

We used to be really good friends, but now I feel like it’s all gone to hell because of this… Was calling me dude a good or a bad thing, and any advice on how I can make things better?