A rather stupid situation (or so I think anyway)

Earlier this week my I was feeling very down and depressed (I feel a little better now) and so my mate asked if I wanted a little chat. We were talking and she ask me if I felt like going to church with her and her husband this Sunday as that always cheers her up.

Now this might sound strange to some of you, but I was quite surprised by this and wasn't ready for it. Really inside I would have loved to have gone. For ages now I've felt like I've wanted to start going to church, but have just not know how tog o about it (I felt rather odd thinking about just turning up at a church one Sunday as I don't know a lot about how it all works).

But sadly, the surprise of the offer made me say it would be quite weird for me and I turned it down.

Now I'm regretting this and wish I was going. I feel quite strange again bringing the subject up and was hoping to be able to meet up with my mate again, but haven't been able to yet.

Do you think the offer will still be open to join them next week? I don't want to feel like I'd be intruding on their ground as their church has a rather small and close group of people. Do you think the offer would have been to go most weeks?

I know all this is probably sounds rather trivial and small, but to me it would be a huge thing to start going to church and something I want to try and do.

Sorry for bothering you :smile:

Reply 1

Toy Soldier

How about you read up about the religion (whatever it is) first, and try to find out more about your own faith before then joining a church?

Reply 2

Da Bachtopus

They'd certainly let you go back with them, and there's nothing to prevent you going on your own. But if they start with any of that happy-clappy BS, then get out sharpish.

Reply 3

Ferrus

Trust me, wacky Christian fundos never give up in their eternal quest to "save" your soul.

Reply 4

dede

Da Bachtopus

\But if they start with any of that happy-clappy BS, then get out sharpish.

What will happen if he doesn't get out sharpish?

Reply 5

sidi

Of course you can go with them any time. An offer like that doesn't date expire! Best way to satisfy your curiosity and decide if you want to find out more or not.

Reply 6

Da Bachtopus

dede

What will happen if he doesn't get out sharpish?

He'll develop powerful upper-arm muscles.

Reply 7

dede

Da Bachtopus

He'll develop powerful upper-arm muscles.

WHOOSH

That was the sound of your comment going right over my head. Sorry. Either I suck or your joke does.

Reply 8

screenager

dede

WHOOSH

That was the sound of your comment going right over my head. Sorry. Either I suck or your joke does.

I thought it was something to do with all the clapping strangthening the arms. As for the church thing I think the offer will still stand, religious people don't really give up and I'm sure your friend would be happy if you went because she obviously wanted you to go or else she wouldn't have asked.

Reply 9

Apricot Fairy

I suggest you give your friend a call and tell her what you've told us. Explain that religion is a huge deal for you and you don't really know what to make of it yet, but that you'd like to go with her just to see how it feels. I'm sure she'll be very glad to take you with her.

Reply 10

Little Girl Red

I'm a Christian and often invite people to go to church with me. I would be delighted if somebody who had initially said that they didn't want to go asked if they could come another week. The offer will be open for you every single week, and trust me you will not be intruding in their "space", so to speak. They would be so happy if you decided to come along every week or so.
There are a lot of cynics in the world, and in this forum, but I would say to you: if you go to church and decide it is for you, don't let them put you off. They will tell you its BS and so on and so on - most of the time they haven't tried it for themselves. Christianity is an amazing and wonderful thing and can make a huge (and very positive) difference in your life. But it is a big decision, and one that you should think about seriously yourself, without other people influencing you.
I hope that you have an amazing time at church when you go, and remember to keep an open mind.