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Did I lose my virginity?

Reply 20

14

Id say its up to you

Virginity is all in teh head. Hymen's get broken by anything, including sports nowadays, so i think you need to just decide whther or not you FEEL like youre a virgin or not.

Reply 21

username47781

20

Well he entered you so your not a virgin no more, but what he did was very wrong, clearly he does not respect your wishes, its those sorts of people who do get STD's, easy for me to say now but it was foolish to go back with him after the pub.

Reply 22

JollyJo

first of all, losing your virginity is technically being entered by a bloke, but although it may seem that technically you are no longer a virgin, if you can't remember it then you can still call yourself one in my book!! second get yourself to the drs and get checked out. STD's can cause infertility, and get a pregnancy test whilst your there to put your mind at rest. Don't STRESS!! you'll be fine. go and drink some more beer to take your mind off it for now..
But don't for god sake listen to half of what other members have put cause most is crap. talk to a friend, but a different one!! i don't think he respected you enough for you to call him your friend anymore. may be painfull, but if you feel you were raped, seek some legal advice, you may be awarded compensation.

Reply 23

Angelicx1x

1

Hi, I just read your post about your virginity.
Sexual intercourse is defined as a penis entering the vagina. it is still sex if it didnt go in all the way. So id say that you are not a virgin. However, I do not feel that you are worrying about the right thing here, (not saying your virginity isnt important!) but you said he put it in before you could get him off of you, this means he forced himself inside you, without consent? Not good. This could be classed as rape, infact, yea it is classed as rape.
It was unprotected right? I think that you should be concerned about the chances of pregnancy aswel as STI's. Some STI's only show up around 3 months after unprotected sex, so id say it would be a good idea to get a sexual health check up now, and another one in 3 months time, just to be sure he hasnt passed anything on.
If this situation happened within the last 2 days, id advise you to get to the doctors or sexual health clinic tomorrow and get the morning after pill (im asuming you arent taking a contraceptive pill, since you are a virgin?)

Good Luck with everything, and if you need someone to talk to, or have any other questions, feel free to message me.
Take Care

Reply 24

BirchyGreen

I personally think that you are still a virgin. It only lasted for a few seconds and was against your will. If i was you i would still think of myself as a virgin. However as other posters have said, i think you are concerned about the wrong thing. Get yourself to a doctors and checked out. And most of all, try not to worry :smile:

Reply 25

Lauren Hart

3

Personally, I think that virginity is a state of mind rather than a physical state. Yes, you've been penetrated, but you havent really had sex yet, which is a slightly longer afair than two penetrations in my mind. The fact that you're asking to me says that no you arent in your mind, because when it comes to you having sex again you're gonna have first time jitters.

As for the std thing, get it checked out if you're worried. No point being worried about it.

Reply 26

Steve Stifler

Anonymous

no way was I having unprotected sex but he entered me twice before I could get him off me.

What a poor excuse for a human. You should have grabbed him by the short and curlies and told him you said no the first time.

Reply 27

34253

2

Is it just me that has noticed she took away her consent? What he has done could be classed as rape...

Reply 28

*Kates*

If i was you, i wouldn't be worried about wether or not you are still a virgin, i would be worried about STD's and whether or not you are pregnant and why he entered you without your consent? I would reccommend that you take the morning after pill if you are not on the pill.

Reply 29

xXMessedUpXx

15

If viginity is a state of mind, then all of us could be virgins... :eek:

Get yourself checked for STD's, get yourself the morning after pill (up to 48 hours ater sex) or the IUD (up to 5 days after sex) and also i'd advise not seing this guy again. He evidently doesn't care if he was willing to force you into sex.

Reply 30

Ariel4

1

If he entered you, then you have lost your virginity.
If you said no, then this is rape. i think you should go to a brooke if you have one near you, you can talk to someone about what happened, and you can be tested for stds. everything is confidential, and they are really nice there.

Reply 31

Segat1

16

morningtheft

People are morons, then.

i concur. My hymen broke when I was 7, from riding my pony. I am very sure I lost my virginity when I was 16.

Reply 32

lazza

15

Carl1982

Well he entered you so your not a virgin no more, but what he did was very wrong, clearly he does not respect your wishes, its those sorts of people who do get STD's, easy for me to say now but it was foolish to go back with him after the pub.

she wanted sex. but not unprotected

and to whatstheirname... [can't remember and effort finding out], you can be on the pill if you're a virgin. i was on the pill when i was 14 cause of my periods...

Reply 33

norelle

5

lazza

she wanted sex. but not unprotected.

So what? No means no, even if the first answer was yes.

Reply 34

lazza

15

norelle

So what? No means no, even if the first answer was yes.

read what i was replying to

Reply 35

Bambi

Either half of you people are 5 and have never heard of sex before or you are stupid.

His penis entered her vagina, therefore it was sex! She is no-longer a virgin and if a virgin was raped a penis still entered her vagina so she is no longer a virgin. Consent is a separate issue. The hymen has nothing to do with virginity.

This was clearly rape. She may have been willing originally but when he said no to using a condom she said no to sex but he still went for it therefore it is rape and she should go to the police. If this has only just happened she shouldn't shower or anything and should take everything she was wearing that night with her to the police station. They have special officers to deal with this kind of thing and they will really look after you. At the police station they will check for STDs and if it has been less than 72 hours will probably give you the morning after pill. They probably wont do a pregnancy test because even if you were pregnant there wouldn't be enough of the pregnancy hormone, HCG in your system yet and tests work by reacting with that hormone. You would also have blood tests to test for HIV and will need this repeated in 6 months as it doesn't normally show earlier than that. Don;t worry about that too much though, chances are he wont be infected, he is young and probably wont have been around that much and the contact time was so short and he didn't finish so risks are minimal.

Also whoever said she shouldn't have gone back to his is a ****** Girls should be able to spend time with people they think of as friends without worrying about being raped.

Reply 36

Bambi

Either half of you people are 5 and have never heard of sex before or you are stupid.

His penis entered her vagina, therefore it was sex! She is no-longer a virgin and if a virgin was raped a penis still entered her vagina so she is no longer a virgin. Consent is a separate issue. The hymen has nothing to do with virginity.

This was clearly rape. She may have been willing originally but when he said no to using a condom she said no to sex but he still went for it therefore it is rape and she should go to the police. If this has only just happened she shouldn't shower or anything and should take everything she was wearing that night with her to the police station. They have special officers to deal with this kind of thing and they will really look after you. At the police station they will check for STDs and if it has been less than 72 hours will probably give you the morning after pill. They probably wont do a pregnancy test because even if you were pregnant there wouldn't be enough of the pregnancy hormone, HCG in your system yet and tests work by reacting with that hormone. You would also have blood tests to test for HIV and will need this repeated in 6 months as it doesn't normally show earlier than that. Don;t worry about that too much though, chances are he wont be infected, he is young and probably wont have been around that much and the contact time was so short and he didn't finish so risks are minimal.

Also whoever said she shouldn't have gone back to his is a ****** Girls should be able to spend time with people they think of as friends without worrying about being raped.

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