does he fancy me?

There's this this guy at uni, who is my potential future housemate. (We'll call him Sam.) Basically I'm moving in with his housemates and he might be staying or might be moving out, depending on whether he gets a job placement locally after he graduates this year. He's a very touchy feely kind of guy and is always hugging his friends, although he hugs me literally all the time, and I'm pretty sure he hugs me more than he hugs other people, although it might just be my perception. He definitely flirts, although another friend Gareth said, "He flirts with everyone, even me!" :confused:

(I don't think he really flirts with Gareth.....no one flirts with Gareth! :p:

)

Whenever I go out with them he asks me to stay over, although we don't sleep in the same bed. He always offers me his bed and says he'll sleep on the floor, although usually I just share a bed with one of the girls. He always hugs me again in the mornings and makes me breakfast. This morning about four or five of us were sitting eating breakfast on someone's bed and reading the papers. He was next to me and kept tickling me and playfighting etc. When he hugged me again when I was about to leave he stroked my hair and said it was really soft.

I don't know what to make of the way he acts. I can't tell whether he's treating me like a little sister or whether he wants to get off with me! What would you make of it all? :confused:

Reply 1

Little Girl Red

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I'm pretty sure that he fancies you. That is the way that most guys are when they fancy you (in my experience), they will hug you and tickle you and poke you and try to get you alone with them to chat and stuff. That's great about him stroking the hair and saying it was soft - a classic.
I really honestly think that he likes you.

Reply 2

Ferrus

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Anonymous

I can't tell whether he's treating me like a little sister or whether he wants to get off with me! What would you make of it all?

Almost certainly the latter.

Reply 3

Dekota

guys like to confuse girls.

Reply 4

Jack0

It sounds like he wants to get off with everyone, including his mate Gareth. You haven't said how you feel about him in general?

Reply 5

jovialtom

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probably likes you... doesnt mean that he wants to go out with you though....

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Argh, what do I do then?

Basically I like him and have done pretty much since I got to uni, although the fact that we might be living together next year obviously complicates things a lot...

He wasn't the one who asked me to move in either. He asked me over for a drink, and then one of the girls gave me dinner and asked whether I wanted to move in.

Reply 7

Ferrus

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Dekota

guys like to confuse girls.

Not really, I've usually found most are pretty open in their intenions to all except girls who get caught in their own silly delusions. It's girls that are confusing in their actions.

Reply 8

Eidothea

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Ferrus

Not really, I've usually found most are pretty open in their intenions to all except girls who get caught in their own silly delusions. It's girls that are confusing in actions.

Very true. Took me a few years and a heartache to figure that out.

Reply 9

jovialtom

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im confused... follow your heart. Now thats the best advice i've given all week!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

But I have to think about the possible effects on all the other housemates if we did end up together and living together...

Reply 11

Dekota

Anonymous

But I have to think about the possible effects on all the other housemates if we did end up together and living together...

...

You want us to help you there?

Reply 12

jovialtom

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Anonymous

But I have to think about the possible effects on all the other housemates if we did end up together and living together...

pah don't be so considerate! Think about what you want! If anything does happen with this guy, just agree that it won't mess up your relationships with your housemates. If its the start of something wonderful then all your friends will be happy for you! (at least they should be). If you think your friends will have objections about you living together with them... maybe just dont tell them until you've all moved in!
Tom

Reply 13

SamTheMan

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Anonymous

There's this this guy at uni, who is my potential future housemate. (We'll call him Sam.) Basically I'm moving in with his housemates and he might be staying or might be moving out, depending on whether he gets a job placement locally after he graduates this year. He's a very touchy feely kind of guy and is always hugging his friends, although he hugs me literally all the time, and I'm pretty sure he hugs me more than he hugs other people, although it might just be my perception. He definitely flirts, although another friend Gareth said, "He flirts with everyone, even me!" :confused:

(I don't think he really flirts with Gareth.....no one flirts with Gareth! :p:

)

Whenever I go out with them he asks me to stay over, although we don't sleep in the same bed. He always offers me his bed and says he'll sleep on the floor, although usually I just share a bed with one of the girls. He always hugs me again in the mornings and makes me breakfast. This morning about four or five of us were sitting eating breakfast on someone's bed and reading the papers. He was next to me and kept tickling me and playfighting etc. When he hugged me again when I was about to leave he stroked my hair and said it was really soft.

I don't know what to make of the way he acts. I can't tell whether he's treating me like a little sister or whether he wants to get off with me! What would you make of it all? :confused:

Strange. I don't know how someone could pull that off. I mean, hugging everyone like that. It sounds like a bit of a "Will and Grace" kind of attitude.