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How far would you go because of love?
Would you give up your studies, your job, leave your town, your country to be with the person you love?
If you lost someone you loved, how badly would you react? I'm a bit worried that if I lost the person I loved, I'd be capable of doing slightly extreme things, maybe even ending my life
Considering how I reacted when someone I had very strong feelings for, broke up with me... Even I surprised myself by my reaction. I didn't even know I could be so affected.
I've had quite a few girlfriends but never felt like that. I used to think I was tough and could deal with such a situation.
If you lost someone you loved, how badly would you react? I'm a bit worried that if I lost the person I loved, I'd be capable of doing slightly extreme things, maybe even ending my life
Considering how I reacted when someone I had very strong feelings for, broke up with me... Even I surprised myself by my reaction. I didn't even know I could be so affected. I've had quite a few girlfriends but never felt like that. I used to think I was tough and could deal with such a situation.
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If she was the one, i'd do anything to be with her; but you dont know if she's the one until asked to do it.
My mum gave up everything and crossed the Atlantic because of 'love'. I'd say that was dumb if it wasn't for the inherent paradox.
Certainly don't believe in 'the one'. *supresses urge to rant*
But, for someone I love, I would do anything.
But that someone I love would never put me in a position where I would have to.
It's all about compromise: for the last 4 months i've utterly compromised my degree to ensure a relationship which began on decidedly worrying ground was stable, and that we were able to bond. Now it's time to get my head down because I'm failing my degree because of it. So we're spending time apart. I'm going to be in Russia next year: I don't expect him to follow me for the sake of one year apart, and totally sacrifice his degree for short term 'warmth'.
In short: I think that with the one you love and are most compatible with, you both make a series of smaller choices as you go through life, bringing you and your individual ambitions into more of a harmonious balance, with the occasional big sacrifice for one of you: for which the other would naturally feel guilty.
But, for someone I love, I would do anything.
But that someone I love would never put me in a position where I would have to.
It's all about compromise: for the last 4 months i've utterly compromised my degree to ensure a relationship which began on decidedly worrying ground was stable, and that we were able to bond. Now it's time to get my head down because I'm failing my degree because of it. So we're spending time apart. I'm going to be in Russia next year: I don't expect him to follow me for the sake of one year apart, and totally sacrifice his degree for short term 'warmth'.
In short: I think that with the one you love and are most compatible with, you both make a series of smaller choices as you go through life, bringing you and your individual ambitions into more of a harmonious balance, with the occasional big sacrifice for one of you: for which the other would naturally feel guilty.
No, I wouldn't. What you describe is not mutual understanding because if you give up everything because of your partner, it means you are the one who made all the sacrifices.
Scarlett_Jewel
Certainly don't believe in 'the one'. *supresses urge to rant*
But, for someone I love, I would do anything.
But that someone I love would never put me in a position where I would have to.
It's all about compromise: for the last 4 months i've utterly compromised my degree to ensure a relationship which began on decidedly worrying ground was stable, and that we were able to bond. Now it's time to get my head down because I'm failing my degree because of it. So we're spending time apart. I'm going to be in Russia next year: I don't expect him to follow me for the sake of one year apart, and totally sacrifice his degree for short term 'warmth'.
In short: I think that with the one you love and are most compatible with, you both make a series of smaller choices as you go through life, bringing you and your individual ambitions into more of a harmonious balance, with the occasional big sacrifice for one of you: for which the other would naturally feel guilty.
But, for someone I love, I would do anything.
But that someone I love would never put me in a position where I would have to.
It's all about compromise: for the last 4 months i've utterly compromised my degree to ensure a relationship which began on decidedly worrying ground was stable, and that we were able to bond. Now it's time to get my head down because I'm failing my degree because of it. So we're spending time apart. I'm going to be in Russia next year: I don't expect him to follow me for the sake of one year apart, and totally sacrifice his degree for short term 'warmth'.
In short: I think that with the one you love and are most compatible with, you both make a series of smaller choices as you go through life, bringing you and your individual ambitions into more of a harmonious balance, with the occasional big sacrifice for one of you: for which the other would naturally feel guilty.
Wow you live in Malvern? I grew up in Malvern
that's one for the private messages, thanks. 
Anonymous
Would you give up your studies, your job, leave your town, your country to be with the person you love?
If you lost someone you loved, how badly would you react? I'm a bit worried that if I lost the person I loved, I'd be capable of doing slightly extreme things, maybe even ending my life Considering how I reacted when someone I had very strong feelings for, broke up with me... Even I surprised myself by my reaction. I didn't even know I could be so affected.
I've had quite a few girlfriends but never felt like that. I used to think I was tough and could deal with such a situation.
If you lost someone you loved, how badly would you react? I'm a bit worried that if I lost the person I loved, I'd be capable of doing slightly extreme things, maybe even ending my life
Considering how I reacted when someone I had very strong feelings for, broke up with me... Even I surprised myself by my reaction. I didn't even know I could be so affected. I've had quite a few girlfriends but never felt like that. I used to think I was tough and could deal with such a situation.
Yeah, i had such delusions of grange for a guy i was in a long distance relationship i was with. I dreamed of once leaving my own studies my town and my country so i could be with him. It WAS my dream, but i was back then so young yet so naive. As years have gone by it was a stupid idea in the first place. I am glad i stayed in the UK.
Beekeeper
If you're not willing to make such material sacrifices then thats a pretty good sign it's not really love that you're feeling.
Good post.
hvaing lost the one i love once (we split for a brief period), both os us realised how much we want to be together, and how natural is is to be with each other. I would do anything for him. He means so much to me. So much that even when i have had days where i've not anted to carry on, i have, cos i know how much it would hurt him for me to do something like that. Its similar with my family, no matter how bad things have gotton i love them so much and would do anything for them.
I don't think I could end my life or give up university for a girl. I love my gf atm, and I wanna spend the rest of my life with her. But I think that part of love is understanding each other's desires and responsibilites. If we really love each other, it will remain like this despite the distance.
I would give him all my blood for a transfusion, a kidney, a liver, an eye. that is how u love someone. you love someone unconditionally BUT you love them with a clear head. you see their faults, their short-comings, you don't idolise them but you love them for who they are. I would go to university no matter what- because i want to be able to support myself. you make sacrifices when needed, not just sacrifices for sacrifice's sake!
^^^ Exactly.
My boyfriend and I have talked about our future quite a lot, and I would like to move to France to be with him. He hasn't placed that demand on me; it's a decision that I'm happy to take.
Although if I asked him to come to England to be with me, I'm sure he'd consider it thoroughly.
My boyfriend and I have talked about our future quite a lot, and I would like to move to France to be with him. He hasn't placed that demand on me; it's a decision that I'm happy to take.
Although if I asked him to come to England to be with me, I'm sure he'd consider it thoroughly.
Anonymous
Would you give up your studies, your job, leave your town, your country to be with the person you love?
I couldnt say. I dont believe ive been in real love with someone before.
But thinking about it now, probably not. I'd probably just be depressed for ages and let everything slip
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