Help!

I'm not really sure where to post this so sorry if it's in the wrong place...

On wednesday I was on the school bus and a boy from my year who i'm sorta friendly sat next to me. For some reason he starteddoin some wrestling moves including a head lock and then squished me against a windoe. He then slapped me....

anyway he hurt my shoulder and i coudnt use it the next day and then i went to hospital. i've badly bruised the collarbone and have tendon/ligament damage and my arm is in a sling.

the boy invlved refuses to apologise and doesn't seem sorry.

what i can't decide is whether to tell my tutor/head of house about it. if i do he'll proberly get banned from the prom and maybe something more serious. i told my parent and the hospital it was an accident but i don't kno whether to tell school what happened...what do you think?

Reply 1

Kitty-S

How was he when he was doing it? Was he laughing and joking or properly aggresive?

Reply 2

JayD

How old are you and the boy in question? People seem to get away with this during school years but if he'd done it up towm on a friday night he'd be facing charges of assault. He probably could get in a bit of bother, do you want him to be punished for what he has done?

Reply 3

chel

he sounds like a complete kn*b to be honest. i definately think you should tell someone as if this is how he behaves and knows he can get away with it he might do worse to someone else.

Reply 4

Apricot Fairy

You should tell them. If it was genuinely a joke, he would be really sorry and apologising repeatedly by now. He's not your friend. Don't let him off.

Reply 5

Talon

Get him on assault charges. If it was a joke and he was your friend he would have apologised the instant you were in some sort of pain. I say throw the book at him.

Reply 6

buttercup_10

samrawuk

How was he when he was doing it? Was he laughing and joking or properly aggresive?

Erm...he wasn't doing it jokingly but he wasn't trying to hurt me. he was laughin with his mate...

How old are you and the boy in question

we're both 16

Reply 7

Mark S

So he randomly started to do wrestling moves on you for no reason?

Well i have 2 suggestions you should make to him

1) he should either consider taking the medication he's been given or seeking psychological help, or

2)tell him wrestling isn't real, nor is it cool anymore. It's certainly not cool to immitate the moves. I mean, what will he do when he gets in a fight with someone, pick the guy up and throw him across the street?

As for his punishment (even if telling him wrestling isnt real is enough of a punishment) tell someone.

Reply 8

Leisure17

If you let him off now he might feel encouraged to do it again to you or someone else.
He violated you, since he did something to you you did not want him to do. He ended up hurting you. He should feel the consequences of what he has done.
Are you scared of revenge? Or why are you hesitating? If it had been a random person on the street wouldn't you have gone to the police?
The fact that he was laughing with his mate indicates he was maybe showing off his "superiority" over you to him.
Don't let him get away with it! The longer you wait though the more difficult it will become to tell. He is to blame not you!

Reply 9

Leisure17

Dont't let him get away with it.

Reply 10

George Agdgdgwngo

megan_mhari

Erm...he wasn't doing it jokingly but he wasn't trying to hurt me. he was laughin with his mate...

we're both 16

Are you sure he's 16? Wrestling moves, on a girl! :rolleyes:

Reply 11

Teenie

Talon

Get him on assault charges. If it was a joke and he was your friend he would have apologised the instant you were in some sort of pain. I say throw the book at him.

I agree!

Reply 12

Angelharpist

Look at it this way, if he'd been a random and had come up to you on the bus and did that, he'd have his arse in a police cell by now!

The fact that you vaguely knew him means nothing - you could have him for GBH or assault.

Surely your parents must have a view on this and want the stupid lout straightened out??

Reply 13

SunburnedCactus

Give him a "Stone Cold Stunner" and see how he likes it.

Reply 14

XavierTroy

This guy has boundry issues oO' By the way the specific charge would most likely be ABH and he wouldn't get and I doubt he'd get the defence of consent with regards to horseplay :biggrin:

I know you don't want to do anything drastic by the sounds of it... but this guy seems a tad messed up if he thinks he should be doing anything overly rough with friends, even more so if it is a girl. Sounds like some kind of childing 14 year old thing to be doing, very stupid. If you don't get this MUCH required apology I suggest you get the hell away from him and consider informing people with the power to do something about this. Not going to the prom would be the least of his problems if you chose to take action.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

I accidentally injured a girl I really liked when we were messing about once. I felt so, so, so guilty that I totally blanked her afterwards for quite a while because I felt so guilty about what I’d done that I couldn’t face her. I felt awful. But it was just an accident. It could’ve happened to anyone.

If you think this boy may like you, maybe the reason he hasn’t apologised it because he’s ashamed of what he’s done – maybe it was an accident. Ask him. Or ask his mate if he likes you.

Remember in primary school it was the boys who liked you who pulled your hair!

And before everyone starts roasting me… no she wasn’t seriously injured, and yes I apologised!!!