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Arghh ..Relationships

So...
Lately ive been meeting up with this guy, and we have both been having a really good time and its not like i was expecting a relationship ( i hadnt even thought about it) but then the other day he said to me can i see you sometime next week and i say yeh probs and then he just said i dont want to lead you on, but i dont want a relationship at the moment, bit random thing to say dont you think?! i said yeh i know me neither things are ok at the moment but basically what do you think he meant by that? Is he just using me? Im fine with things at the moment (not sleeping together) and as i said to him we are just getting to know each other anyway.
Sorry if it doesnt make sense lol
Thanks in advance xxxxxx
Reply 1
I think he means he doesn't want the hassle of a relationship and doesn't wana take it too seriously. But the best advice I can give you is to ask him what he meant by that, coz only he knows wat he meant! :smile:
It's decent of him to say that upfront, but don't get too happy with him basically. It's saying that if stuff does happen, it won't go further. So I guess it's left up to you as to whether you want to get into it.

If a guy said that to me, I wouldn't go near him because I know that even if I consent to playing around and stuff, it'll mess up my self-image for a while: i'll enjoy it at the time, but after, I'll feel used and feel like people see me as 'easy' etc. Something similar happened to me a few years ago...
Reply 3
Why would it mean the guy is using you? Loads of people have a 'no strings attached' relationship. He probably just wants a bit of fun without getting into something too serious.

Nothing more to it i guess
Reply 4
Well basically we do stuff with each other, we just havent slept together which hes even said to me he doesnt sleep with people unless hes in a relationship with them. Now its just really puzzled me! x
lol...

being a guy, i can tell you that it's normal for a guy to say such a thing...

dont worry...just play it cool

dont hurry into a relationship, let it build on it's own...when the time comes, he WILL ask you out...

just keep dating him...keep doing fun stuff, new stuff...not the boring old same old, same old "movie", "dinner" or "starbuks"...

go clubbing or go some plac together where you've never been before...

yea...
Reply 6
thats kinda wierd the same thing happened to my mate, well you have to ask yourself if you want a relationship or just to be having bits of fun with this guy?
Ohh so you you think that eventually he would want a relationship? Lol im getting soo confused x
Reply 8
Does a relationship ever come out of something like this?