Is posting here bad?

I find i've come to rely on studentroom too much.

Whenever im in relationship difficulty, I post here and hope someone can give me answers.

It makes me feel terrible. Like it takes something away from you - like your own skill of judgement because you rely on other people's judgement too often.
When im in a situation with a girl now, im finding i'm actually losing focus and doubting my own choices.

Does anyone share this view?
Im not very far from stopping myself using these forums, but i fear its become almost addictive!

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Reply 1

The Mudman

Well you should be using other peoples opinions in conjuction with your own, but I don't see how it's any different from asking the opinions of your friends...

Reply 2

dr_gonzo

ther's nothing qrong with sharing thoughts and problems! Isn't it the reason you joined this place after all? in fact, if it wasn't ok to talk on here, then this place wouldn't exist.

of course ,if you're getting addicted...

Reply 3

quintsy

While it is important not to become dependent on a particular thing, seeking the assistance of others when you are unsure of what to do isn't necessarily a bad thing.

As long as you make sure not to let others over rule your decisions or impair your own judgement, then you should be fine. Don't feel bad for seeking solutions from others, only when you physically can't do anything without the support of others is when it is a real problem.

Good luck! :smile:

Reply 4

Bis

yes. destroy your computer immediately.

Reply 5

Johnny 5

If you rely on advice from this lot, then yes: you must have serious problems.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

If you rely on advice from this lot, then yes: you must have serious problems.

LMFAO yes

Reply 7

Dramatic Star

I think it is good to post here to get other people's perspective but sometimes you have to take them with a pinch of salt & rely on your instincts. :smile:

Reply 8

strawberry

wahhaha but honestly, it's no different from asking your friends about your stuff

Reply 9

latentcorpse

yes but strawberry has posted 227 times since january - that's a LOT! so she might be kinda biased

sorry strawberry :p:

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Has nobody noticed that this annonymous user is just posting up junk? You lot are all replying to it. He has posted loads of topics but everyone keeps falling for it.

JUNK?

HAHA ok feel free all opinions accepted and all, but still its a bit harsh to refer to my questions as junk.

Reply 11

Knogle

As far as possible, you should rely on advice from your RL friends. They know you best.

But it doesn't help getting a second opinion from TSRers. :smile:

Reply 12

PieMaster

katie lou

Has nobody noticed that this annonymous user is just posting up junk? You lot are all replying to it. He has posted loads of topics but everyone keeps falling for it.

Might want to read the FAQ...

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/faq.php

Reply 13

brimstone

katie lou

Has nobody noticed that this annonymous user is just posting up junk? You lot are all replying to it. He has posted loads of topics but everyone keeps falling for it.

Ah, the noobs.

Anyway, why is the OP moaning about asking for advice here, then in the same post, asking for our advice?

Reply 14

*Kates*

PieMaster

Might want to read the FAQ...

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/faq.php

Why? What for :confused:

Are all the annonymous people different people then? If so, that is confusing.

Reply 15

sketchie

katie lou

Why? What for :confused:

Are all the annonymous people different people then? If so, that is confusing.

Yes they are, it's people that are too embarressed to show who they really are!

Reply 16

*Kates*

Sorry then, didn't mean to cause any offence, just seemed like a mickey take to me, because he has posted his worries of addiction of this forum... on the forum and asking for views on his addiction to posting up questions for people to answer :confused:

just didn't make sense.

Reply 17

brimstone

katie lou

just didn't make sense.

Neither do your posts...

Reply 18

mrteacher

take everyone's opinion here with a pinch of salt! don't forget it is not only the 18+ posting here. u do get some really immature answers! at the end of the day, u r the only one who knows th eperson u r dealing with!

Reply 19

john williams

Main thing is, people dont know your actual situation and life and therefore give advice according to the way they see things in their life and culture, which will be very different to how it is for you.