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Mixed Up-Lies? Who's telling the truth?

Well in the summer I met these 3 guys.. guy 1, guy 2 and guy 3. I immediately liked guy 1, and he seemed interested in me too. However he went away the next day to somewhere else. Me and guy 2 started hanging about and he showed me a picture of guy 1 & his girlfriend. I was actually shocked that guy 1 had a gf so I thought he was playing with me. Naturally I was really annoyed, so i just thought stuff him. Guy 2 seemed quite interested in me too so we ended up kissing and then he thought we were an item. So I just went along with it and then 3 days later guy 2 came back.. he must have been shocked to find out that I was going out with guy 2 ( guy 1 & 2 are cousins!!). Anyway, after that guy 1 didn't really talk to me and he tried to avoid me, but one time he winked at me from behind his cousin's back. Anyway I came back to England (they're in another country) and me and guy 1 had agreed that we would just end the short relationship because we're so far apart and it wouldn't have worked. On msn I tried to speak to guy 2 because I still really liked him, but either he answered really late or he didn't write to me at all. A few weeks ago we really had the conversation going and he seemed like he was interested in me and stuff, but then he suddenly asked me why I went out with his cousin. I said, "Well didn't you have a gf??" and he said no.. who told you that?!? Anyway I told him that it was his cousin, and he seemed so pissed off and everything because he said it was a lie. He also told me that his cousin was going out with someone else at the same time as me, but I promised that I wouldn't say anything to him.

Now we come to guy 3.. after I came back to England we became really good friends and he told me that he really liked me and stuff but I said I just like him as a friend.. so that just stayed as that. I remember him telling me that guy 1 had a gf in the summer, so a few days ago i asked guy 3 if guy 1 really had a gf, and he said "yes".

I screenshotted this convo with guy 3 and sent it to guy 1, saying that I believed him the first time but now two guys are saying that he had a gf and that I'm so confused and everything. About a week went past and he didn't reply or come on MSN. 2 nights ago he came on msn and I said that I need to know the truth because it's really important to me etc. and I asked him if he could email me as his status was on "away". He didn't reply or email or text or anything. Last night he comes on MSN again and he's not away or anything.. and he doesn't speak to me AGAIN. I didn't write to him either cos I think I made enough fool of myself. I am really pissed off with him and I don't know why he's acting like this.. why isn't he replying?? I really like him but its hurting me alot!!

Sorry this message is too long but I felt I had to explain everything for you to understand!! :frown::frown:
Reply 1
you keep mixing up your guy 1s with your guy 2s.
Reply 2
No I'm not.. lol
Yes you are

You said Guy 1 went away so you hooked up with Guy 2, then Guy 2 came back. But Guy 2 didn't go anywhere...

Either way they all sound too complicated and not worth your efforts. If it's meant to be one or all of them will come back to you of their own accord.
Reply 4
you said you were going out with guy 2. then you said guy 1 and you decided to end the relationship and guy 2 asked you why you went out with his cousin. but you went out with guy 2.

confusing isnt it..
Reply 5
Right.

Intuition alone tells me that guy 1, however nice he may seem, is the one lying in all of this and he is just taking route 2 (the easier one I suppose) of just denial and reassurance to you. Guy 2, because of the potential other girl thing going on there (though that may have been guy 1s defense mechanism) seems a bit too dodgy to both yourself with if im being honest.

Guy 3 seems to be the only one whose truthful, or at least not suspected in this situation. So I would just stay friends with guy 3, if thats all you want there... and maybe just try and be less effected by 1 and 2, because they dont seem 100% honest, really.
Reply 6
Yes yes mixed it up.. my bad.. I just went out with guy 2 and liked guy 1 and guy 1 is the one who is said to have a gf back in the summer :smile:
Reply 7
Oh man, this is confusing! I think I got guy 1 and 2 mixed up so I really dont think i wouldnt give you brilliant advice
Good luck with though hun, really hope you get it sorted
xxxx