Am i over reacting?

My boyfriend arranged to come over mine on saturday, then cancels that morning saying that he cant go out during the day, and he is going round a mates later, so it was too difficult. Ofcourse i was annoyed by this, but thought i would be reasonable and i said nothing about the fact he had blown me off. Then on sunday, he said he was doing work, then tells me that he actually went around a different friends house.
Then in my only free today, he sat playing a computer game! I had already asked him in the morning to not play it when i had my free period, and so i was quite angry. He then said to his friend that he had blown me off on saturday and that why i was in a mood, not because of the game, and the both laughed, so i just blew my top and had a go at him.
Was i over reacting? I just feel like he has completely gone off me, and isnt being straight with me.

Reply 1

spacedonkey

No, you're not overreacting - he treated you shittily (by my standards anyway). You deserve better - talk to him about it.

Reply 2

hitmanuk2k

It all depends what game he was playing really.

WOW. then yes, you are right to be pissed.

Pro Evo. no, you are over-reacting.

Reply 3

RobbieC

He seems to have been a bit unfair in the recent past, but maybe thats not a very full picture to be making judgement on. I would just try not exploding next time and rather talk to him in confidence and explain why you arent pleased, and what you want to change. Or just come out and ask if something is the matter. Chances are he's just trying for a bit of space right now, which might well be reasonable.. and a good idea. Give it a couple of days.

Reply 4

high priestess fnord

no u r quite right to have a go. not doing so would mean imitating a doormat.

Reply 5

theflcgal

I wouldn't put up with that kind of treatment from my boyfriend so no I don't think you're over reacting. If he wants a girlfriend then he needs to learn how to treat one! You're not there just "when he wants you".

Reply 6

ladygrey

ach, laughing about it with his mate in front of you? rude and tacky.

Reply 7

deaks

hitmanuk2k

It all depends what game he was playing really.

WOW. then yes, you are right to be pissed.

Pro Evo. no, you are over-reacting.

Absolutely love it! Yes if he was playing pro evo or football manager you were defo overreacting, otherwise your right he doesnt want you and i making a muppet out of you.

Reply 8

BouncyB

no ur not over-reacting, hez bein an idiot.

Reply 9

PunkiePixie

He has been treating you badly, but he might not see it as that, which is why he might not understand and think youre over-reacting. Its best to just keep your cool about these things, but be stern and say your feeling put-out and that he didnt have to make a fool of you in front of his mate, if he cares about you he should understand, as long as your not uber-rash in future - as hell look at it as over-reacting and may get sick of it. (not that you are rash tho? :smile:

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I can relate totally though my bf can blow me off at the last minute and not understand why i get upset not seeing him, that and hes also a gaming-nerd,(this shirt is great me and my mate are contemplating on getting it to make a statement to our bfs;

) But over-reacting has gotten me nowhere in the past so i try to be mellow now and things are great atm. It is hard tho to keep a lid on things and like others have said you cant be a doormat to him :redface: