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Introducing boyfriend to parents
Ok, I'll try and keep this short.
I'm an 18-year-old female and I've had relationships before. I've been with my current boyfriend for about 6 months now. I've met his family a couple of times as I have stayed at his before. I haven't told my parents about him yet (not because they wouldn't approve or anything but just becuase I don't tend to tell my mum when I have a boyfriend.) My boyfriend now wants to meet my family. I've never introduced a boyfriend of mine to my family before, I think I just find the whole idea a bit embarrassing. I'm not really sure how to go about it. I just wondered if anyone has been/is in the same situation as me? Also, I'm at uni at the moment and don't go home that often (my boyfriend isn't at uni and he lives around the same area as my parents) so I'm not sure how and when to indroduce him.
I'm an 18-year-old female and I've had relationships before. I've been with my current boyfriend for about 6 months now. I've met his family a couple of times as I have stayed at his before. I haven't told my parents about him yet (not because they wouldn't approve or anything but just becuase I don't tend to tell my mum when I have a boyfriend.) My boyfriend now wants to meet my family. I've never introduced a boyfriend of mine to my family before, I think I just find the whole idea a bit embarrassing. I'm not really sure how to go about it. I just wondered if anyone has been/is in the same situation as me? Also, I'm at uni at the moment and don't go home that often (my boyfriend isn't at uni and he lives around the same area as my parents) so I'm not sure how and when to indroduce him.
Reply 1
Invite him over to watch a film with you when you know your parents are around, then introduce him casually?
Reply 2
Peter88
Invite him over to watch a film with you when you know your parents are around, then introduce him casually?
Agreed, or mention that you have one and ask him to come and meet you before you go out somewhere.. that way he can be introduced without the awkwardness after
Reply 3
15
Ditto to robin hood.
first time my dad met my bf, he abused him for being ginger for the best part of an hour. with classic questions such as "Do gingers go grey?"
:| parents eh..
first time my dad met my bf, he abused him for being ginger for the best part of an hour. with classic questions such as "Do gingers go grey?"
:| parents eh..
Reply 4
been in the exact same situation. sept my mum found out about him... and hes 7 years older. she demanded to see him and then decided he was ok thank god. much embarassemnt and even more nervousness.
almost the same thing happened with his parents meeting me :/ his mum found out from a friend of a friend of a distant relative or something like that.
was fine on both accounts tho. good luck
almost the same thing happened with his parents meeting me :/ his mum found out from a friend of a friend of a distant relative or something like that.
was fine on both accounts tho. good luck
Reply 5
Its not that bad, I remember meet my gf's parents when I was staying round theirs for a bit. They were really nice to me and we get on really well!! Its not always really awkward etc.
Reply 6
18
Fleece
first time my dad met my bf, he abused him for being ginger for the best part of an hour.
first time my dad met my bf, he abused him for being ginger for the best part of an hour.
Haha classic! And im ginger...hehe.
Reply 7
Just tell your Mum straight out. Providing the guy is a **** there shouldn't be a problem.
Reply 8
Sorry im robbing the advice....i've been wandering the same thing for some time. has anyone here have a situation where their parents first language isnt english? hearing my parents talk and not find the words sometimes makes me embarressed. i shouldnt be i know. anyway im just worried that my parents wont say much when i do introduce them resulting in bad awkward silences. i know my mom would love to hear and find out loads of stuff but she wouldnt ask them. and my dad is generally quiet. and dads are usually seen as scary. anyway just wandering if anyone had anything to say to that.
Reply 9
13
Now I'm at uni meeting parents seems to be a big step meaning it's serious as not many people really live close. I saw my Bfs parents unexpectedly, they came around to my room to see me. My mum met my bf by asking/making him carry some stuff up to my room. Basically what I'm saying is don't make a big deal of meeting the parents means having a meal etc.
As for the second anonymous user, my dads first language isn't English. He has a habit of calling me daddy (not sure why) so people get a bit confused and can say words uncorrectly. I don't see it as a bad thing, he has managed to learn english well enough to live and work here. I can't learn other languages. As for him meeting my bf...he hasn't. Don't know if he would approve. To stop the silences I just get him to talk about something he likes.
As for the second anonymous user, my dads first language isn't English. He has a habit of calling me daddy (not sure why) so people get a bit confused and can say words uncorrectly. I don't see it as a bad thing, he has managed to learn english well enough to live and work here. I can't learn other languages. As for him meeting my bf...he hasn't. Don't know if he would approve. To stop the silences I just get him to talk about something he likes.
Reply 10
15
Well it's obviously quite serious after 6 months and he WANTS to meet them so that is an excellent sign! You have just got to do it.
Tell them first that you have been seeing someone and then just take him round one day.
I haven't been in the situation where I haven't told my parents, as I am close to my mam and have always told her about boyfriends. But I still know how embarrassing it can be, but to be honest sometimes parents can feel a bit uncomfortable and not know what to say.
When I first introduced my fiance to my parents, he came in the house and politely took off his shoes and the first thing my mam said to him was "Aw, have you not got any shoes?" I don't know who was more embarrased, me, Jake, my mam, or my dad!
You just have to remember, once the first time is over there's no looking back (well as long as your parents like him of course - but that's a different thread altogether!)
Tell them first that you have been seeing someone and then just take him round one day.
I haven't been in the situation where I haven't told my parents, as I am close to my mam and have always told her about boyfriends. But I still know how embarrassing it can be, but to be honest sometimes parents can feel a bit uncomfortable and not know what to say.
When I first introduced my fiance to my parents, he came in the house and politely took off his shoes and the first thing my mam said to him was "Aw, have you not got any shoes?" I don't know who was more embarrased, me, Jake, my mam, or my dad!
You just have to remember, once the first time is over there's no looking back (well as long as your parents like him of course - but that's a different thread altogether!)
Reply 11
Luize
As for the second anonymous user, my dads first language isn't English. He has a habit of calling me daddy (not sure why) so people get a bit confused and can say words uncorrectly. I don't see it as a bad thing, he has managed to learn english well enough to live and work here. I can't learn other languages. As for him meeting my bf...he hasn't. Don't know if he would approve. To stop the silences I just get him to talk about something he likes.
As for the second anonymous user, my dads first language isn't English. He has a habit of calling me daddy (not sure why) so people get a bit confused and can say words uncorrectly. I don't see it as a bad thing, he has managed to learn english well enough to live and work here. I can't learn other languages. As for him meeting my bf...he hasn't. Don't know if he would approve. To stop the silences I just get him to talk about something he likes.
yeah my parents speak it well but with an accent and they stall for words. i just know that they wont start talking because of the language barrier...oh well, it will work itslelf out someday. thanx anyway....hope ur dad aproves ur boyfriend.
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