how do you know wen your over someone?

me and my boyf of 2 years split up 2 months ago - main reason being he was at uni and he wanted to "experience" life rather than stay with me. Basically since then iv felt fabulous - iv realised wat an idiot he was and that im sooo much better of without him. Iv only spoken to him on msn a few times so Iv had little contact with him since we split. Iv also met this guy, whose really sweet and says he likes me.
The problem is that the ex is coming back from uni next week and its suddenly hit me that theres a chance i may bump into him. Now wen i think about him, im starting to miss him again and i really dont want to. Iv done so well since the break up (no crying or moping etc) and i dont want to still be in love with him. Its even affecting the way i feel about this new guy - iv started comparing him to my ex (which i know i shudnt do) and im just getting really worried that im going to be miserable all over again. Does this mean im not over him, even after 2 months of feeling fine?

just to note, my ex before we broke up turned into this really horrible person -kept snapping at me and didnt phone etc. So i just want to forget about him.

Please help!!!

Reply 1

SciFi25

1

When you don't need to make posts like this you have gotten over them to be quite honest with you!

i have to agree

Trust me your not over him by a long shot and your in denial.

Reply 4

SciFi25

1

BouncyB

i have to agree

Thank you!! :biggrin:

Reply 5

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Anonymous

me and my boyf of 2 years split up 2 months ago - main reason being he was at uni and he wanted to "experience" life rather than stay with me. Basically since then iv felt fabulous - iv realised wat an idiot he was and that im sooo much better of without him. Iv only spoken to him on msn a few times so Iv had little contact with him since we split. Iv also met this guy, whose really sweet and says he likes me.
The problem is that the ex is coming back from uni next week and its suddenly hit me that theres a chance i may bump into him. Now wen i think about him, im starting to miss him again and i really dont want to. Iv done so well since the break up (no crying or moping etc) and i dont want to still be in love with him. Its even affecting the way i feel about this new guy - iv started comparing him to my ex (which i know i shudnt do) and im just getting really worried that im going to be miserable all over again. Does this mean im not over him, even after 2 months of feeling fine?

just to note, my ex before we broke up turned into this really horrible person -kept snapping at me and didnt phone etc. So i just want to forget about him.

Please help!!!

2 months isn't very long if you were together for two years so don't beat yourself up over the fact you're not "over" him yet. There isn't a magic amount of time when it will happen, you'll just come to a stage where you don't miss him and when you do think about him you won't have feelings either way. I still have "fond" memories of ex bfs from years ago - doesn't mean I'd touch them with a bargepole though, know what I mean?

It's natural to occasionally compare a new bf (or potential bf!) to an old one and so long as you're not thinking "oh my ex would have done that sooo much better" it's nothing to be worried about :smile:

Good luck anyway, I'm sure you'll be fine
TnV

Reply 6

wendizzle22

1

Two months is a short time to get over someone you loved, but if you are then great! I still think of my previous love from time to time, (haven't seen him for almost two years now) but I knew I was over him when I began to feel apathetic about him..the thoughts didn't bother me any more, I wouldn't get angry and upset over what happened at the end or weepy about the fond memories, didn't care that I couldn't see him etc.
It took a long time, but once it happened I felt really free and it was brilliant. I found John too, someone soooo much better!

Reply 7

username47781

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Why waste time on him it's obvious he don't want a relationship he broke off from you to play the field, why don't u try and get to know this other guy you like.

Reply 8

lazza

15

a friend of mine claims half the time you were going out
but that seems a bit long

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

^^ thats not from sex and the city by any chance?

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

They say it takes half the time of the relationship length to get over a person. I know im not completely over my ex yet and we broke up 5 months ago.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

oops didnt see that someone already said the half the time thing

Reply 12

anjurdsg

11

i'd say dump both losers...naw jk...

i'd say talk to him... see if he's still interested or not... or else, jus forget about him and get with the errr.... "sweet" guy...

and let him KNOW that you're going out with the swwet guy...

Reply 13

Segat1

16

when you no longer see thier face in everyone.... thats when I know i am oevr them,,,,,

Reply 14

Mrs_F

15

You might never get over him.
If you were in love with him, there's a likely chance you will always care for him and have feelings. You will however fall in love again and although you may still care for your ex, your new feelings of love will be stronger. If that makes sense?

how do you know wen your over someone?

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