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do guys really need girlfriends?????

My Bf just told me that guys dont really need girlfriends...he told he is with me coz he likes it, but he really doesnt need a gf to fullfill his dreams and to make him happy, that it is just girls who 'die' and 'nag' if they dont have a bf, but guys just enjoy life!!!! it was like a shok for me and I felt myself so really unneeded...and unwanted...and think like 'really guys are like this? not looking for love? IS IT TRUE????? Guys, dont u need a gf to make u happy I mean like if you dont have one you are not willing to get one or to be with someone...is ur life really so fullfilling and happy without gfs????? dont u need someone to share ur emotions and feelings??? :confused:

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Reply 1
Pfft if guys didn't need girlfriends they'd just visit brothels all the time.

They need someone to do the laundry too. :p:
Reply 2
What he feels is what he feels, not the whole of the male gender. Some girls feel like this, I am sure.

Nobody actually NEEDS a gf or bf, but they can make people happier/help them to meet other goals (e.g. have kids).
Reply 3
That applies to some people in both genders. Anyway, you don't 'need' very much - everything beyond the very basics is different degrees of 'want'.
Reply 4
your bf sounds like a legend.
Reply 5
Wanderer's right; there are some people who 'need' a bf or gf to keep them happy and others couldn't care less. I remember my friend saying that how much you care about having a bf/gf depends on how loved you feel at home and how appreciated people make you feel in general
CherryGarcia
My Bf just told me that guys dont really need girlfriends...he told he is with me coz he likes it, but he really doesnt need a gf to fullfill his dreams and to make him happy, that it is just girls who 'die' and 'nag' if they dont have a bf, but guys just enjoy life!!!! it was like a shok for me and I felt myself so really unneeded...and unwanted...and think like 'really guys are like this? not looking for love? IS IT TRUE????? Guys, dont u need a gf to make u happy???? :confused:


Guys don't crave the company of someone else so much. That's probably true. But if a girl comes along that is AMAZING, he'll want to have her as a girlfriend. That's the thing.

It's mainly because many guys are willing to sleep with pretty much any girl as long as she's not too ugly, but will only really want to go out with a girl when he finds an amazing one.
Reply 7
hmmmmm, i don't think guys do need girlfriends......my right hand will suffice.
Reply 8
You're supposed to feel fulfilled by yourself, not need anyone else to make you feel complete. However once you find the right bf or gf that attitude could change. Yaaargh.
I'd certainly be a lot happier with a girlfriend, but I don't need one to survive or anything :p:
Reply 10
I just always thought that my bf kind of '´lookied or me, waitied for me' coz he tells me how wonderful I am, that he cant live without me, etc, but now after he said this, I see how much he 'would not be able to live without me' I mean I understand I am over reacting a bit, but I am just shoked, after almost 3 years of relationships I figure out that my BF doesnt really need me to make him happy :frown: he can be easely happy without me and so if we break up he will be like be a bit upset and nth more!!??? :frown: I just really dotn feel special any more...
Reply 11
I don't need the person I'm going out with. I like her, but I don't need her. But that may be because we haven't been going out that long (only like a month properly...). It comes with time I think. Mind you, I'm not really much of a believer in love. I am a cynical **** though, so that could also be why.
Pandy
I don't need the person I'm going out with. I like her, but I don't need her. But that may be because we haven't been going out that long (only like a month properly...). It comes with time I think. Mind you, I'm not really much of a believer in love. I am a cynical **** though, so that could also be why.


If she was amazingly hot and the "perfect" girl, trust me, you'd need her.
Reply 13
I just feel so down now coz of that, I mean my bf is moving back to family now, to italy, and before that he told me 'after u gradutae i will move anywhere u want' now he tells me 'we will think about this' and adds 'i odnt need a gf to make me happy' so, when it is time for us to move in, he will just think he doesnt want to move, to put effort or to leave family and think his family and friends are enough for him??? i mean, guys if gf is not so needed in ur lifes and as a result may be love, do u ever do any effort for love? or sucrifeses? it just seems to me that I had pink picture of the world that ruined...
and now I just dotn understand what is the point for guys to be with girls, if they can handle IT *with thier hands* and for evrth else then can use friends, and they can just simply pay for laundary..i mean, what is the point then???
p.s. oh, gosh i will become a lesbian one day for sure :frown:
Reply 14
Pretty Boy
I dunno about 'need'.

But everybody wants someone.

edit: damn cherry, u really look like sum1 in my fam

ur cousin??? :wink:
Reply 15
Anonymous
If she was amazingly hot and the "perfect" girl, trust me, you'd need her.

Well, that's different :wink:

Nah, to be honest, even if she was amazing, sure, I'd want her. But NEEDING someone is something different, I think. Do you really think people who are like "OMG I can't wake up without you! You're my sunshine! I need you to BREATHE!" are being honest? :x
of course you dont need a girlfriend to be happy what a ridiculous question. Yes having one usually makes people happy (unless shes a b1tch) but so does being able to sit in your chair with your arms back on valentines day and go "ahhhhhh!! no worrying about presents this year!"

are you implying all single people are unhappy or have i totally misinterpreted what you said...
nothing wrong with being single. anyone who *needs* a partner to feel whole should go be single for a bit till they have sorted themselves out
Reply 18
We need the opposite sex for procreational matters only. :wink:
deaks
your bf sounds like a legend.


I hope that was a joke and even if it was that wasn't very funny.

anyway back on topic that was a horrible thing for any guy to say to their boyfriend, i'd ditch that heartless idiot.